1, don't judge your emotions.
We all know that emotions can't be controlled, but we can't help but evaluate our emotions.
But what can you say about a thing that you have no control over?
Imagine that you are in the same bad mood as your friend, and you will comfort your friend: "Nothing, it's all normal emotions."
But you will hint to yourself: I am too fragile, why am I always so bad?
Have you ever found that after you were in a bad mood, you gave yourself a negative evaluation, which led to a secondary injury to your positive cognition.
So, stop "judging" yourself and accept rather than evaluate.
2. Don't give everything meaning.
In ancient times, mankind was faced with various challenges of hunting and reproduction, and may have eaten the last meal without the next. Life is full of uncertainty, and human nature always hates uncertainty.
This makes people with smarter brains learn to think about "what's the point of this matter" and gain the greatest sense of control. Meaningless things always make people feel anxious and out of control.
When you can clarify the meaning of so-and-so, you may have a sense of stability and order.
However, the essence of life is full of impermanence. Unable to bear the uncertain things in life, it is equal to having little ability to resist risks.
From now on, stop looking for meaning, enjoy the present life and shake hands with the uncertain future.
3. Don't trust what your brain thinks.
Our brains generate ideas all the time, but it is not necessarily whether the idea is good or bad, right or wrong, good or evil.
If you believe all the ideas in your head, the inevitable consequence is that you will "think too much"
As we all know, a big source of life troubles is "thinking too much".
Think back to when others are persuading you, or when you are persuading others, isn't it just "don't think too much"?
How can you not think too much: don't believe your own ideas, mature ideas are worth thinking about, and useless ideas suggest you throw the trash can.
4. Give up control of everything
Hoping to control everything is a normal response to the pursuit of security, and we try to use this control to offset our sense of helplessness.
This kind of attempt brings excessive demands on yourself and even the people around you. If your life is a little out of control, frustration and anxiety will naturally double.
We should remember that you are not a god, and feeling helpless is the same emotion. You can't control everything.
Please be honest with yourself.
5. Avoid overwhelming emotions.
Everyone will suffer more or less, but if you always spend your energy on avoiding pain, how can you spare your energy to pursue your real goal?
Decisions and judgments made under the influence of temporary emotions are always easy to make mistakes and violate their own value orientation.
If you want to be an emotionally stable person, you must first distinguish between values and emotions, and let values control you, not those emotions that are easy to rise and fall.
Never take your feelings at a certain moment as truth.
in short
When the out-of-control "culprit" is caught, it is even more necessary for everyone to "attack the king" and become a "big boy" with stable emotions and a compulsory course to repair life.