For most people, the reason why universities are painful is because they are already a small society, and they are unable to adapt and are miserable.
The school life before college is very simple, so simple that you only need to study, and everything will be fine if you get good grades. You don't need to think about anything, you can make a few intimate friends and talk about a pure love.
However, university is a transition. In college, we should not only study, but also look at other abilities, such as communicative competence. Moreover, interpersonal communication in the university is no longer simple, and maybe you can find a few like-minded bosom friends. but
Most of them just know each other and say a few words. Such friends don't talk to each other. It's good that they didn't stab you in the back.
There are also organizations such as the student union youth league Committee in universities, and it is also very dark and suffocating. Many people suffer because they can't adapt.
For people with a strong sense of responsibility. If they neglect their studies in college, they will feel very painful. Nowadays, there are many temptations in universities, which tempt us not to study and fight for the future. Instead, I am addicted to games, film and television dramas and entertainment places all day. For people with a strong sense of responsibility, it will be very painful for them to do things other than study outside the planned play time every day. They think it is a waste of life, and good times are not used to improve themselves but to have fun.
University is a safe haven for those who muddle along. In this safe haven, they can enjoy themselves, regardless of family or money. As students, they think it is natural for students to ask for money from home. So for such people, college is not only painless, but also relaxing.