I don't know if you have heard of a child prodigy named Wei Yongkang. When he was thirteen, he was admitted to a key university. What is more enviable is that he went to the top national research institute at the age of seventeen? China Academy of Sciences? .

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Wei Yongkang, like most people, lives in an ordinary family. His father is a soldier and his mother is a worker in a department store. He is not a scholarly family.

However, it is worth noting that his mother attached great importance to Wei Yongkang's education and gave him some early education when he was very young, which is also the reason and foundation for Wei Yongkang to be ahead of him.

Of course, Wei Yongkang himself has a unique learning ability, so he mastered more than 1000 Chinese characters at the age of two, and finished junior high school knowledge at the age of four.

With such a high ability, Wei Yongkang played truant one after another and was admitted to Xiangtan University at the age of thirteen. It was this college entrance examination that brought Wei Yongkang into people's field of vision, and people formally installed him? A prodigy? The name of.

But even talented people? A prodigy? , also has defects, Wei Yongkang is no exception. His parents attach too much importance to their children's study, and even neglect the education of his daily life in order to make Wei Yongkang concentrate on his study. In Wei Yongkang, even simple daily habits, such as washing clothes, cooking and washing face, need the help of parents.

Even when he was in high school, Wei Yongkang needed his parents to feed him three meals. He has little ability to live alone, including in college life, and Wei Yongkang still needs his parents to accompany him.

In fact, Wei Yongkang later felt that he lacked the ability to live. Therefore, when he was studying in Beijing, he chose self-study and refused the company of his parents to exercise his life ability.

However, independence is not as simple as Wei Yongkang thought. In the eyes of ordinary people, simple things like dressing and eating are problems in Wei Yongkang's eyes. For example, once, in winter, he didn't know how to change clothes and shoes, but he still wore clothes in spring and autumn. It doesn't matter if the time is short. In the long run, his life and study became more and more unbalanced, which began to affect his study.

He also isolated himself from his classmates and tutors, and even forgot many exams and graduation papers. Not only did he not get a master's degree, but he was also dismissed from the school because he got a zero in a subject.

This persuasion is not only a setback in Wei Yongkang's studies, but also has a certain impact on his psychology. The Society reported the news of Wei Yongkang's high scores and low abilities, and people were interested in it? A prodigy? Publish more and more negative comments and laugh at him as an imbecile in life.

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It is not only himself but also his mother who is frustrated by Wei Yongkang's persuasion.

Wei Yongkang grew up under the care of her mother, which can be said to be the most successful work in her mind. Wei Yongkang's dismissal also destroyed her mother's ambition. She turned her attention to her son and reconstructed her educational philosophy.

Although Wei Yongkang has extraordinary intelligence and learning ability, he is a person after all. Besides studying, he should be able to live and communicate with others. At least, he should be able to take care of himself.

However, from what Wei Yongkang and his mother described, when he was a child, his task was only to study. Only when someone comes to contact Wei Yongkang, his mother will automatically stop communication, which leads him to alienate others more and more and gradually stop talking. Even in his later postgraduate life, Wei Yongkang didn't have much communication with his tutor, which led to his graduation failure.

So after so much experience, his mother also realized the seriousness of this problem. She regretted it very much and told the media that she was too cruel, so she began to teach him to study life, do housework, take care of his disabled father and so on.

But for Wei Yongkang, it is obviously very difficult to learn life just by doing these things. After all, the most important thing in life is to communicate with others.

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After being expelled, the most influential person was Wei Yongkang's godmother, Zhang Jinping, director of Changsha Education College Admissions Office.

Zhang Jinping used to be his primary school teacher. He has always liked this prodigy. Knowing his situation, I really want to help him. So I introduced him to work in a hotel to exercise his independence.

At first, Wei Yongkang kept her old habits, so when she first worked in a hotel, she didn't deal with others, but she still studied with a book in her arms.

After seeing this phenomenon, Zhang Jinping made a rule for Wei Yongkang, that is, don't avoid other people's questions, don't just say that you don't know, but also say hello to everyone and learn to cook.

With the passage of time, Zhang Jinping's method has gradually played some roles. During this period, Wei Yongkang not only learned to communicate, but also learned to cook.

However, he still has a long way to go before his normal life, because although Wei Yongkang knows communication and gratitude, he doesn't know the etiquette of communication. For example, once, Wei Yongkang offered to visit his teacher, and Zhang Jinping prepared a gift for Wei Yongkang to visit the teacher, but he didn't give it away, but ate more than half of it and took it back.

In 2005, Wei Yongkang was finally invited to work in an aerospace research institute in Shanghai, but this work experience further exposed the problem of Wei Yongkang's living ability.

Although Zhang Jinping has changed Wei Yongkang a lot, Wei Yongkang still depends on the people and is not independent enough. For example, at the beginning of work, Wei Yongkang didn't go to work on time and told Zhang Jinping to remind him to get up on time every day.

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Of course, with the help of Zhang Jinping, Wei Yongkang gradually overcame these problems and achieved complete independence. Not only that, he also met someone who accompanied him all his life.

It turns out that in Wei Yongkang's mind, girls have always been untouchable species, because his mother often taught him that girls are goblins and snakes, so they can't touch them.

Zhang Jinping tried to change his mind. While leading Wei Yongkang to visit his teacher, he specially sent a girl to accompany him, and told Wei Yongkang to take the initiative to take care of the girl. However, this method was not successful at that time. Wei Yongkang didn't say a word to this companion during this trip, and even chose to escape to an Internet cafe.

However, this failure is a good start. After this experience, he gradually stopped resisting girls, overcame communication barriers in this area, and even dared to take the initiative to pursue girls.

When Wei Yongkang worked in Shanghai Research Institute, he met Fu Bi who came to Shanghai to play or be a student. After getting along, I was tempted by her and began to pursue her.

Later, after graduating from Fu Bi University, he went to work in Shenzhen. Wei Yongkang even quit her hard-won job and followed her to Shenzhen. His behavior finally touched Fu Bi, and now they have tied the knot.

Soon after, Wei Yongkang also had his own children, became a husband and father who knew how to live, lived an ordinary life, and knew how to communicate with people completely.

Of course, Wei Yongkang didn't give up his dream of becoming a scientist. He decided to continue his studies. In 2009, at the age of 26, he was admitted to the Graduate School of Beijing University of Technology.

Wei Yongkang may want to give his wife and children a better life, or he may want to continue to realize his dream. After all, he said that reading is his specialty and his pleasure. At present, he has been transferred to Nanjing to engage in software development.

Now, Wei Yongkang, who knows how to live and overcome communication barriers, is considered to have a happy family and a successful career. The present situation is still very good and enviable.

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However, although Wei Yongkang has improved now, the incident of dropping out of school once sounded the alarm for parents.

Children can't study for the sake of learning. Parents completely ignore their own ideas and turn their children into emotionless learning tools or animals, which is not conducive to their future growth.

Wei Yongkang's mother's wrong view of education almost ruined the life of prodigy Wei Yongkang. Even Wei Yongkang himself once said that he was cruel to his mother for a time.

Mothers should cultivate their children in an all-round way, such as psychology, personality and communication with others. And they should not only pay attention to their academic performance. If they still focus on academic performance as before, let their children's future lives be ruined, or even resent themselves, it will be too late to regret.

After all, not every child is a child prodigy, Wei Yongkang. Even with such a huge blow, he can quickly adjust his mentality and personality and stand up again.