After so many years of hard work, he has bought two suites and got a promotion on the job, but the only regret is that the fifth grader is still single.
His family was extremely anxious, but he was calm and comfortable.
When friends get together, everyone will say in front of him that a person is fine, has enough time to enjoy life, doesn't have to deal with housework, and some will envy him.
Xiao Liu's relatives are my good friends. He said to me, "Look at Xiao Liu. Although he has good conditions in all aspects, his career is incomplete because he has no family. His parents are old, and he is embarrassed to go back to his hometown. The so-called career and wealth didn't bring him much sense of accomplishment. On the contrary, people who are nearly fifty will see more shortcomings in his family. You don't say bleak? "
Marriage and entrepreneurship, for ordinary people, no family is always a shortcoming of life, and even washes away the gains in career and wealth.
I agree.
Living alone in a big villa, compared with an ordinary family of three, walking hand in hand in the street talking and laughing, the latter is still closer to human needs and more in line with the tonality of happiness.
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Hu Juan, a native of Northeast China, grew up as a child of others. He graduated from the University of Sydney with excellent personality and profound knowledge.
After returning to China, I worked as an accountant in a big factory in Shenzhen.
The income is naturally quite a lot, but it is still far from buying a house.
Therefore, Hu Juan decided not to buy a house, but to rent a house. He planned to stay until he was 50 years old and return to his hometown in Northeast China to support the elderly.
Hu Juan also faces the problem of elderly women. She is not very old, just 32 years old, but she seems to see through her feelings. After six failed blind dates, she doesn't want to go on blind dates anymore, and she doesn't intend to get married.
In her mind, there is no anxiety and no desire to start a family. Her so-called goal in life is to stay until she is 50 years old, take it out to earn money and go back to her hometown to recuperate.
She doesn't think of each other as her home at all.
Hu Juan is not ugly, even very feminine. According to her self-report, all the boys on blind date think she has a clear goal, and she is a little fidgety. Most of them don't last long, and the other party gives up.
Hu Juan's views on marriage and love are very dull and indifferent. She doesn't obviously regard starting a family as a major event in her life.
She felt that she was trying to support herself and was ready to leave.
If she finally plans to leave Shenzhen, it means that she thinks she doesn't love the city deeply and must stay here.
Then, why do you have to live in Shenzhen, and why do you have to pass by the best life in Shenzhen?
If it's just to broaden your horizons and experience life, why not shorten this time? With the diploma and ability of the University of Sydney, she can find a decent job and live a good life in her hometown.
Why do you want to stay in Shenzhen until you are 50 years old?
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Milan is also a Shenzhen girl, 3 1 year old. The same blind date has failed many times, indicating disappointment in love and preparing to be single.
"At a party, I invited 10 good friends, eight of whom were divorced. Coupled with my experience of blind date failure, I don't think it is necessary to get married or go on a blind date. "
Milan said these words calmly, without a ripple in his heart.
The difference is that Milan wants to buy a house in Shenzhen and intends to buy more than one set. She bought a house of 89 square meters by herself.
In order to buy this apartment, she borrowed 800,000 yuan from 24 friends. After several years of hard work, she has paid off the loan.
The next goal is that she wants to buy four more suites in ten years. After being introduced, she can use the rent to support the elderly.
This wealth goal is really beyond most people's imagination, and the post-90 s generation is really extraordinary.
At first I was shocked by Milan's goal.
It turns out that she has a main business, and her sideline is a sleep experiencer, a tour guide and a real estate agent. In addition to eating and sleeping, at other times, she is running at a high load and even replying to messages when she goes to the toilet.
The reason why she wants to buy four suites in Shenzhen is because when she was a real estate agent, her colleagues owned more than two sets of real estate, and she also found some ways to make money.
The power of the circle often affects a person's understanding and action.
Just like the secretary or driver around the leader, because he is close to power for a long time, it seems that he also has power.
Milan said that if she can't earn 40,000 to 50,000 yuan a month, it will be difficult to support her life. The mortgage is 15 thousand, and the living expenses, living expenses of family members and fixed expenses are all around 30 thousand.
And most of them live on four or five thousand wages.
As a Hubei native, Milan always leaves a deep impression on each blind date, but Milan thinks that she is actually a naive girl in dealing with her feelings and is willing to make changes for each other, but such a long blind date experience has completely lost her confidence in her feelings.
If you are confident to get wealth in first-tier cities, why is it so difficult to find a partner, so you are not confident?
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Thought affects action, and environment affects thought.
The inclusiveness of big cities lies in that everyone is rushing for survival. Without their parents' short-lived time in the West, people feel that they will not be taken seriously and will not point fingers at their own lives. There seems to be no pressure of life.
Many times, the pressure comes from the outside.
In small cities or rural areas, when you get married, have children and live, the fireworks around you can't stand the so-called "enlightened concept" of "who says you must get married".
For individuals, it is generally hoped to have a certain material foundation before starting a family. In first-tier cities, when this plan is implemented, time often slips away unconsciously while making money, and then when I look back, I find that my material wishes have not been realized and my feelings are blank.
The two girls in Shenzhen mentioned above are both excellent and hard-working, but in love and marriage, they can't realize their own gains, which will inevitably greatly reduce their success.
What is even more incomprehensible is that in the face of public platforms, they all clearly and clearly expressed that they don't want to get married, but they really want to have a baby.
Excuse me, where can I have children without getting married?
I believe that there are not a few girls who have this idea, just like a boy who can't find an ideal partner fantasizes that he has money and a career, and even at the age of 50, he can find a girl in her twenties.
Needless to say, not getting married and not getting pregnant challenges the traditional concept of marriage and love, and even runs counter to good manners and customs. This also shows to some extent that these girls are so independent that they are super confident. Deep down, they think they can raise their children by themselves, but they have no confidence to get along with a boy.
Let's call it confidence. If you can't handle a man, what is invincible?
Similarly, boys, too, can't run a relationship smoothly at the oldest stage of life. Wait until you're 50 to show your abilities?
Imagination has always been beautiful, and reality has always been skinny and cruel.
Whether girls or boys, they are not confident about their feelings and marriage, can't have a married life and can't enter the challenge of marriage because they have the instinct to avoid risks, or they are too selfish.
Of course, everyone has the right to choose their own life. As long as they don't affect others, they can choose different ways to spend their lives.
However, when people around you or more people openly declare that they are not going to get married and are ready to live a lonely life, this phenomenon is worth pondering.
There may be no ideal love, but there must be a hard marriage.
If you don't even have the courage to get married, how can you say that you are brave, struggling, progressive and successful?
When it comes to the reasons for not getting married, that is, not finding the right person, not blaming yourself, not making do, and not getting married for the sake of getting married.
You only need one reason to get married, even on impulse, but there are thousands of reasons not to get married.
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Theoretically, a woman will fall in love with multiple men, and a man will fall in love with multiple women, but reality only allows us to fall in love with one person, and reality requires people to be single-minded.
Love is a feeling. As long as it is left unchecked, it can be produced in many times and in many environments. Because of its complexity, no one can study it thoroughly and clearly, and we don't participate in this excitement, but marriage has enriched our lives realistically.
Without marriage, there would be no us. As long as the marriage system remains unchanged, the potential energy of marriage cannot be weakened, otherwise, our survival energy will also be weakened.
Marriage is a responsibility.
Marriage needs courage and mature personality charm to undertake a series of moral constraints, challenges and responsibilities behind marriage.
Not getting married is irresponsible to society, to oneself and to parents.
Irresponsible to society.
Without children and successors, it will inevitably affect the demographic composition of the whole society. Most of these people who don't want to get married have high academic qualifications, good material conditions and excellent conditions. They can support a family and educate the next generation. If they don't get married and have children, it is a waste of social resources.
Not responsible for yourself.
Through hard work, I have obtained a high degree of education, a well-paid job and a good material foundation. I feel that I have done a good job, but I don't realize that forming a complete family, cultivating the next generation and enjoying family happiness are the precious beauty of life and the primary task of getting human warmth alive. The idea of staying unmarried continues, focusing on the material security needed to live in this world once, ignoring that material only occupies a small part of the meaning of living.
Singles don't take the initiative to look for and pay attention to the fascinating warmth of happy families, but they are interested in failed marriages and various reasons for not getting married in the world, and even find comfort from them. You see, it's great to be single. Is it hard to be single?
Marriage is never good or bad.
Just like, we can't judge the good and bad of day and night.
In the world of marriage, if you feel good about yourself, then pursue it bravely, walk in and feel the different beauty of life immediately.
Not responsible for parents.
On holidays, all kinds of reasons for not going home to spend the New Year with parents are actually deep inferiority and self-distrust, as well as dissatisfaction and helplessness with themselves.
Afraid of urging marriage, embarrassed to face the stimulation of distant relatives, neighbors, peers, children, wives and hot kang heads. Complain about parents' concern and urging for their singles.
"I am responsible for my life. What does it matter to you whether you are married or not? "
When you said this to your parents, did you ever think about their mood? Parents endure the hardships of life because we are growing up. As children, we are their hope and their capital against fate.
Parents may not make money or study as we do, but they bravely continue the fireworks of life, and we also thank our parents for everything they have given us.
But in our generation, we suddenly stopped getting married and having children. Is this selfish? If there are angels waiting in line to come to this world, and their chance of reincarnation is in our hands, we will control our own destiny, that is, we will give them a chance.
Life is like a relay race with no end. When the baton turns into your hand, you shout, I'm so tired, I don't want to run, I want to lie flat!
Is it selfish? !
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Even a failed marriage is better than a single choice.
The college entrance examination is so cruel that everyone works hard because it is the right thing.
It is so difficult to make money, and we are always thinking about how to make money freely, because making money is the right thing and something that everyone in society should practice.
If you do something wrong, it is a form of work, of course, at your own risk.
Rural junior high school didn't graduate, so his wife and children surrounded their knees and their lives were hot. Think about your hard work, you can't even eat a hot meal, you can't even guarantee a good night's sleep, you are still alone all your life, you can only keep dogs and cats, you can't accompany your parents, and the continuation of your life suddenly stops in your generation.
You call this fashion? Is this alive? Is this what the so-called winners do with culture and pursuit?
I don't believe it.
Ok, I'm a little excited to write this, haha, of course, again, we respect everyone's choice and the diversity of the world.
But then again, most people are ordinary people, ordinary people, just lucky, caught up with the good times and good opportunities, entered the city and gained some wealth, but we can't be self-righteous and do whatever we want.
It's April on earth, so singles should find someone to warm themselves up.
Married people quickly responded to the call of the country and began a vigorous campaign to make people.
Let parents no longer worry, no longer look at other people's children and grandchildren, and feel sad inside. Don't let them worry and be unwilling for us in their later years.
If so, how can you say that you have succeeded and have no regrets in life?
Who is not pushed forward by life step by step?
Earn money, support the family, raise children, live, we will be old, and our life is sunset red.
No matter how good your partner is, at least you have to have one, right