Freshman boys doubt that they like the sexual orientation of pink roommates and become confused.
"The elder brother who sleeps in the upper bunk, he likes pink clothes and pink bags, and speaks a little sissy. I was in a hurry when I met him. I should have a problem? " This is what a freshman boy Ming Lu (pseudonym) left in the reporter's QQ space.
Similar to Minglu's anxiety about sexual orientation, five years ago, the consulting volume of Liaoning Youth Research Association was zero. But in the last two or three years, similar consultations have increased year by year. The amount of sexual orientation counseling in 20 12 years has reached 30 to 50. Among this group of people, junior high school students and senior high school students account for 80%.
Minglu said that he was a freshman in a university in Liaoning. When he first arrived at the dormitory, an alternative boy wearing a pink T-shirt and pink shoes made him unbearable. Another boy lives in his upper bunk. Later, everyone became familiar with it and jokingly called him "Pink Brother". "Pink Brothers" especially like pink tones. Clothes, backpacks, and even back mattresses are all pink, and they speak a little sissy. At first, everyone was speechless, and Mingmu even hated it. He called others a false mother behind his back, and everyone seldom cared about this brother.
However, this "pink brother" is a warm-hearted, helping everyone when he is in trouble, and often helping everyone cook and fetch water. With the passage of time, everyone's attitude towards "Pink Brother" has changed, and so has Ming Road. Minglu told reporters of Beiguo.com and Liaoshen Evening News that he was shocked by a recent experience, and now he is entangled and even afraid.
It turned out that Ming Lu was ill just after the military training, and the "pink brother" in the upper bunk took care of him. Unconsciously, the shadow of "Pink Brother" occasionally shakes in front of my eyes. "Should I like him?" As soon as this idea came out, Ming Road immediately became afraid and confused. In the last week, Ming Lu began to hide from the "pink brothers", but in his words, the more he hid, the more he thought about it, the more he relied on it ... This question confused Ming Lu and he was very scared. He is worried about his sexual orientation.
The voice of experts
Re-establish social circles and expand the scope of communication with the opposite sex
"The fear of the road does not mean that he is gay, but that his sexual orientation is temporarily disordered." Zhou, deputy secretary-general of Liaoning Youth Research Institute, said that as early as five years ago, there was no consultation on the topic of sexual orientation, but in recent years, several or even a dozen consultations on sexual orientation have been received every year. In 20 12, the youth research institute received 30 to 50 related inquiries, of which 80% were junior high school students or senior high school students. To be sure, counseling about sexual orientation is indeed increasing year by year.
In this part of the people consulted, most of them have the same vague sexual orientation as the Ming road, or have a sense of confusion.
The reason is that Zhou said that some people grew up in single-parent families and had Oedipus complex. If someone cares about him in life, he will have a strange affection for the other person, regardless of whether the other person is of the same sex; Some parents raise girls as boys and boys as girls when their children are young, which is also the reason for the vague sexual orientation; But most people are frustrated in love and feel more secure with the same sex.
Zhou bluntly said that true homosexuals have no good impression on the opposite sex and are impulsive. Those who are vague or confused have either fallen in love with the opposite sex before or are impulsive to the opposite sex. Once the true and false are distinguished, people who are confused or vague should re-establish their social circle, expand the scope of communication with the opposite sex, participate in various social activities to distract their attention and get their lives back on track.
At the same time, Zhou also reminded parents that gender education for children from an early age will have an impact on his later life. We must not raise girls as boys and boys as girls!
(Liaoshen Evening News)