"It is especially important for couples to send each other. This is a sign of love." Ma Ning, a college student in Ningxia, pays more attention to giving gifts to couples. She believes that if you just say "I love you" in love, it won't last long, because girls won't think boys are good to them.
Ma Ning said that girls like gifts, and they are happy to buy a little thing casually. Moreover, boys give gifts to girls, and girls will give them to each other, so that love can develop steadily.
"But you don't have to buy expensive gifts. It is best to be thoughtful and practical. " She said she didn't like drinking water, so her boyfriend gave her a cup to remind him to drink water every day. Because my boyfriend is a sports student, I gave my boyfriend a pair of running shoes, which can reduce sports injuries. Both sides are very moved.
In addition, Ma Ning thinks that giving gifts is also a good way to apologize. "After every quarrel, it is better for the apologizing party to buy a gift for the other party than empty talk."
Li, a college student in Hunan, also agrees with giving gifts. She thinks that life needs a sense of ceremony. Giving gifts to each other and expressing love can enhance the sense of security and intimacy in love. "The small gift in love is reserved as a souvenir. Later, when I recall it, it is also the romance and touch of a quiet life."
Tian Yaxin, a college student in Yunnan, also thinks that giving gifts between couples is very important. She pays more attention to the sense of ceremony. On anniversaries or important festivals, giving gifts to each other is similar to a small surprise. She will feel very happy when she receives a gift from her boyfriend. "I will also prepare gifts for each other on days I think are important. This is a two-way thing, a way for me to express my love and a show that occupies an important position in my heart. "
"Young people are not rich economically, and giving gifts to each other will increase the economic burden on both sides."
Wang Ruili, an Anhui college student, thinks it is not important for couples to give gifts to each other. She said that it is more important for couples to communicate and get along emotionally. Both sides can go out to experience the world together, instead of material communication.
"Because they may all be students, giving gifts to each other will increase the economic burden on both sides." Not only that, you may not like the gifts given by the other party, and most of them are unnecessary, which will eventually lead to the idleness and waste of items.
Wang Ruili confirmed her point of view from friends in love around her. The boyfriend of one of her friends gave her a relatively expensive gift, and the girl gave her a relatively expensive gift in advance. Finally, because of the gift-giving problem, their living expenses were overdrawn.
Wei Guimei, a part-time teacher of the Mental Health and Education Center of Guangxi University of Science and Technology and a national second-level psychological counselor. Photo courtesy of respondents
Expert: Giving and sharing material things is one of the expressions of love between lovers.
Wei Guimei, a part-time teacher at the Mental Health and Education Center of Guangxi University of Science and Technology and a national second-level psychological counselor, believes that except for some festivals that are not suitable for giving gifts, it is recommended to consider giving gifts appropriately if conditions permit.
She explained that there are many ways for couples to express their love, such as care and care in life, encouragement and help in study and work, spiritual communication and singing, and of course, material gifts and sharing should also be included.
Giving gifts on holidays can first make the recipients feel each other's love, confirm their position in each other's hearts and enhance their happiness; Secondly, giving gifts on holidays can enhance the sense of ritual in daily life and is an important way to maintain love; Finally, giving gifts on holidays can enhance feelings and make up for some previous shortcomings or even mistakes.
"Of course, couples are very particular about giving gifts at festivals." Wei Guimei suggested that, first of all, gifts should be given according to one's ability. It is unnecessary to bring great economic pressure and psychological burden because of gifts, and it is not conducive to the maintenance of couples' relationship.
Secondly, it's best to give gifts that the other person likes or needs. "Give others what they want" is the platinum rule of interpersonal communication. So, how can we know what a couple likes or needs? This requires us to be a conscientious person. Besides observing attentively, we can also learn from people around him or her, and sometimes even ask each other directly. Some people like to expect unexpected surprises, hoping that the gifts given by couples are exactly what they expect, but their couples are slow to respond. In this case, instead of being unhappy about receiving unwanted gifts, it is better to give some hints or express their needs directly.
"Finally, love, respect, understanding and acceptance are the best gifts for lovers." Wei Guimei said that only when couples really love each other can holiday gifts add icing on the cake to love life and bring the distance between two hearts closer. "Giving a gift is actually expressing a mind. And sincerity is better than the gift itself. "