1, creating a public image of "popularity"

"Popularity" is actually interpersonal relationship. A person's interpersonal relationship, that is, whether he has a good "popularity", directly affects whether his work, study and life are smooth, and it is more related to whether he can achieve his goals smoothly. So how can we have a good "popularity"?

First, there must be tolerance. In interpersonal relationships, sometimes there are contradictions, bad feelings, barriers, personal feelings, constant cutting and confusion. What should we do? One way is to "narrow the road to the enemy", which is petty and miserable; There is another way, that is, friends should make up instead of getting married-"meet and laugh to bury the enmity." Undoubtedly, the latter attitude is valuable when dealing with interpersonal relationships.

Second, be kind. When dealing with interpersonal relationships, don't be harsh and narrow-minded. Don't be jealous when others succeed. If someone else has a problem, he can't gloat, and he can't make a fool of himself.

Third, be a man. Care, love, respect and understand others. When people get along with each other, they should reduce the "smell of gunpowder" and increase the human touch.

Fourth, be honest with others. Honesty is the first virtue of human beings. To tell the truth, there must be some chivalrous hearts, open-minded and open-minded, which makes people feel like spring breeze, so as to have a good popularity.

Fifth, if you want to be popular, you must be close to "good popularity." When you choose friends and network, you'd better choose popular people. And the closer you get to such a person, the better. Why? First of all, everyone knows that "people near Zhu Zhechi will be black". Secondly, he will bring you many benefits. First of all, a well-connected person must have many friends. If you become close friends with him, his friends will naturally become your friends. This is of great significance for you to quickly establish or expand your interpersonal network. Secondly, a "popular" person has many friends and a good mass base, and his energy will be even greater. Sometimes you will feel that it is much easier and faster to ask this kind of person to help you do something than to ask other people.

2, learn to deal with people with different personalities.

As it's getting late, I have a class tomorrow, so I'll write this part again tomorrow. There is a lot of knowledge about interpersonal relationships, and I will discuss it with you later. Please help me. If the post is heavy, don't look for it ~ if you can't find it, you can't write any more:)

Learn to deal with people without personality.

(1) Key points for getting along with colleagues with different personalities:

You don't have to deal with many people in your life. In modern society, the exchange and transmission of all kinds of information has increased, and people's social activities have become frequent. Due to the needs of work, study and life, each of us will inevitably associate with people with different occupations and different concepts. There are naturally people with different personalities among these people. So, how do we get along with people with different personalities? We should see that since others have different personalities from ourselves, he naturally treats people differently from himself in many places. When we see the difference between others and ourselves, don't think it is not pleasing to the eye, and don't like it, let alone hate others. We should acknowledge the differences. When we realize this, we will not force others to be like ourselves everywhere when we see people with different personalities, but may tolerate their differences in personality.

1, learn to seek common ground while reserving differences.

People with different personalities often deal with problems in different ways, so we should learn to find similarities in differences. For example, if you are an equal person, if you give advice to Xiao Li, your words may be less intense and your tone may be euphemistic. If you have a strong and stubborn colleague around you, he may give advice to Xiao Li directly, with sharp language, and may even turn to criticize you, saying that you beat around the bush when giving advice to others. At this time, if you only see that the frank colleague's attitude and way of criticism are different from yours and think that he is too reckless and heartless, you may feel out of place with him. If you see that the two of you give advice in different ways, you also see that he is just like you, and he really helps his colleagues out of kindness, so you may not think that he is rude and heartless, but that he has a rare warm heart. At the same time, if we look at the similarities between others and ourselves, we will get along with people with different personalities more easily.

2. Pay attention to all-round understanding of others.

People may have such an experience when interacting with others: if you don't know someone, you must have an emotional distance from him. The formation of a person's character is often related to his time, family environment, education, experience and experience. When we examine a person's character, it is best to understand the reasons for his character formation. In this way, you may understand him, understand him and help him. Slowly, you will get to know each other better and even become good friends.

3, pay attention to find the advantages of others, learn from each other.

When two people with different personalities are together, because of the obvious contrast, they may soon find out each other's advantages and disadvantages. After discovering other people's shortcomings, the correct attitude is to point out and help them. Everything in the world is not perfect. Everyone loves to have shortcomings in thought and character, so we can't blame others for perfection. At the same time, we should pay more attention to discovering the strengths and advantages of others. In this way, we can not only live in harmony, but also benefit each other.

4. Be broad-minded and magnanimous.

5. Pay attention to different ways and means.

This does not mean those who tell lies to others, nor does it mean those who take part in accidental amusement. When I say treat others differently, I mean that people with different personalities have their own characteristics, and we should adopt appropriate attitudes that vary from person to person according to these characteristics.

Third, adopt different strategies for people with different personalities.

1, arousing the interest of rigid people.

This kind of person, even if you greet him politely, he will not respond as you wish. He usually doesn't pay attention to what you are saying, and you may even wonder if he is listening. In dealing with such people, you will feel more or less uncomfortable at first.

When you meet this kind of person, you should take some time to carefully observe and pay attention to his every move, and find out what he really cares about from his words and deeds. You can chat with him at will, as long as you can make him react, it will be easy. Next, you should make good use of this topic and let him fully express his opinions.

Everyone will have their own interests and concerns. If you touch it a little, it will come out. This is human nature, so you must make good use of this person's personality and psychology.

2. Try to talk less about arrogant people.

Some people think highly of themselves and are arrogant, and often show a "self-centered" look. You are a rude and arrogant person, which really makes people angry. You are the most unpopular model. But how did you treat him when you had to contact him?

When dealing with this kind of person, you should be concise and powerful, and you'd better talk to him less. The so-called "talking too much is useless."

3. Silence, straight to the point.

It is difficult to negotiate with a person who doesn't like to talk, because the other person is so silent that you can't understand his thoughts, let alone whether he likes you.

For this kind of person, you'd better take a straightforward way and let him clearly express "yes" or "no", "yes" or "no"; Try to avoid circuitous conversations.

4. Pay more attention to hidden people.

There are many hidden people around us, who refuse to let people know his mind easily, and sometimes even say something irrelevant. When it comes to the topic, they "talk about him".

When you meet such a hidden person, you should show him the information prepared in advance and let him make a final decision based on the information you provide.

Most people don't want to expose their weaknesses. Even when you ask him to say an answer or make a judgment, he deliberately pretends to be ignorant or evasive, making you feel "inscrutable". In fact, this is just a means for the other party to disguise themselves.

5. For those who make hasty decisions, step by step.

This type of person, at first glance, seems to react quickly. He often makes sudden decisions at the climax of negotiations, giving people the feeling of "lightning speed". Because most of these people have no patience, sometimes in order to show their "decisiveness", the decision will appear arbitrary and hasty.

Because "reaction" is too fast, such people often have illusions or misunderstandings about things. Their characteristics are: they have no patience to listen to other people's conversations, and often "take it out of context" and think that they are making decisions underground. Although this makes the negotiations faster, hasty decisions will mostly leave sequelae and attract unexpected side events.

If you meet this kind of person, you'd better divide the topic into several paragraphs. After writing a paragraph, ask his advice immediately, and then continue to do the problem to avoid mistakes and unnecessary troubles.

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