Family alienation (parent-child)

Q students drop out of school for a month, stay in the room behind closed doors and read comics and novels alone, rarely communicate with their families, and parents often remain silent when asking questions.

Emotional distress (depression)

At the beginning of school, my mood was once low, mostly in tears. The results of psychological test show that the depression value is slightly higher (Q has a mental health diagnosis before entering school and has been taking antidepressants during school).

Insufficient stress management skills

Mainly manifested in the management of academic pressure, self-reported school homework is more, after the study, my mother will arrange herself to participate in various remedial classes, and the remedial classes will also leave homework, which can't be completed together.

In addition, there is resistance to the exam, thinking that the exam will lose its meaning after the goal is determined, so refusing to take the exam and do homework is actually a resistance to authority.

15 days observation and test

In adolescence, with the development of physiology, the individual's psychology will also change, especially after entering the middle school stage, self-awareness develops rapidly and emotional changes are also significant.

In adolescence, individual emotions are rapid, intense and difficult to suppress. Therefore, when encountering certain events, especially the part where the self has been suppressed for a long time, it is easy to produce two situations without warning.

At present, after a disciplined childhood and a stressful adolescence, the case is stimulated by the induced events, showing the above-mentioned second situation, extreme depression and malaise, having no interest in anything, and living in his own world with one heart.

This judgment is based on:

Based on the understanding of students' current situation, the educational environment Q students have received since childhood is relatively depressed, and the pressure of consciousness is beyond their capacity, which leads to their aversion to learning and eventually gives up their studies.

Judging from students' psychological motivation, the cognition of exams in their growing experience is an optional thing. Learning is not a happy thing for them. They will bring higher standards if they do well, and will be punished if they do badly.

To sum up, on the one hand, positive behaviors are not properly strengthened, while negative behaviors are bound to be punished. If you choose for the benefit and don't do it directly, there will be no result to refer to, and you can avoid punishment without hard work.

On the other hand, judging from the current psychological energy of students, they are unable to face and bear punishment, and more will choose to escape, hide themselves, not be found, or attack the executors of punishment, in order to achieve the purpose of avoiding punishment.

To sum up, the adjustment direction will focus on students' cognitive reassessment of the original appearance of learning problems, adjust students' current self-cognition, and help students objectively look at their parents, exams and their significance!

According to the actual learning situation of students, personalized teaching is carried out to maximize the effect of students absorbing knowledge.

Adjust the direction

Adjustment strategy

Adjust cognitive and management stress through psychological counseling.

The countermeasures of psychological counseling in the early stage are mainly to establish a stable trust relationship.

In the middle stage, through narrative therapy, help Q students realize the root causes of choosing to drop out of school and choose to confront homework and exams, and help cases have a clearer understanding of themselves, understand why they have some thoughts or behaviors, and realize their stress problems.

At the same time, guide Q students to understand what they want and how to achieve their ideal goals in an appropriate way, and gradually carry out relaxation training and stress management skills training for students' academic pressure.

Secondly, through encouragement, support and phased goal setting and implementation, students' self-confidence, self-identity and self-efficacy are continuously improved.

In the middle and late stage, it is necessary to cooperate with family therapy, improve the parent-child relationship, adjust the internal psychological mechanism of Q students to the family education environment, help cases understand the family education model and their communication model with their parents, and further clarify their role in the family and the obligations and responsibilities they need to bear.

On the one hand, it helps students to eliminate their cognition of their parents, on the other hand, it helps families learn to express their love for each other in an appropriate way.

Finally, it provides suggestions for the later family education, and makes adjustments from two aspects: family and individual.

Enhance learning motivation through one-on-one learning ability training.

Students report that since childhood, there are basically no summer vacations and weekends, and all the time is arranged to go to interest classes and remedial classes. There are too many homework to finish in schools and remedial classes.

Q students have been under academic pressure since childhood, and have been enduring it until high school. The academic pressure has further increased, and they feel that they can no longer support it, so they choose to give up their studies.

Considering the great academic pressure of Q students, the difficulty of the course is gradually deepened in the early stage, from easy to difficult, and the learning objectives are gradually established in the later stage to enhance the learning motivation!

1, find the right position and preset reasonable expectations (children have their own ideals and goals, and will work hard towards them, thus stimulating the internal driving force. )

2. refuse to compare and explore the potential of children.

3. Look for the cause of depression and jump out of the emotional dilemma.

4. Stimulate curiosity by cultivating interest, so as to build new motivation (cultivating sentiment can improve your knowledge and aesthetic ability, such as reading and calligraphy).

5, cultivate children's sense of accomplishment (do what children can, experience success, cultivate a sense of accomplishment, thus stimulating interest. )

Solve the problem of behavior habit through behavior training.

Behavior training adopts behaviorism therapy, including positive reinforcement and negative punishment, to strengthen and shape benign behaviors, such as time management and arranging one's own life. Also includes:

Adjust a positive and healthy attitude through the cultivation of hobbies.

Research shows that beautiful and soothing music can increase the activity of endocrine system, improve blood circulation system and enhance the activity function of the body.

Calligraphy and painting can make people's brain cells in an excited and active state, dredge the whole body's airflow, and make people's body and mind in a positive and happy state;

Walking, jogging, boxing and other activities can activate declining cells and enhance the body's immunity.

Promote the healthy development of students' body and mind through colorful activities.

School leaving feedback:

1, emotional state

At the beginning of school, I couldn't accept the reality of studying and living here and was dissatisfied with it. I used to be depressed and refused to communicate, which was manifested in silent tears. ?

Psychological counseling until now, Q students gradually realized that there was something wrong with their problem-solving methods, and began to face the reality and actively adjust.

At the same time, I stopped taking drugs, my emotional state gradually picked up, and I laughed a lot in my external behavior.

2. Learning motivation.

Q students can basically know themselves clearly, have their own ideas about the future, have clear plans, and understand the significance and importance of their own learning.

My attitude towards study has changed, so I can arrange my study consciously.

3. Parent-child relationship.

I am willing to take on some family responsibilities by recognizing my responsibilities and obligations in the family, clarifying the psychological root of my behavior in the process of communicating with my parents, and the influence of this behavior pattern on the parent-child relationship.

At the same time, I am constantly improving my ability to find social support!

Follow-up family education suggestions

1, improve children's sense of self-worth.

Discover the advantages of Q students, build up self-esteem, expand the interest range of Q students, and establish positive interpersonal relationships.

Find your own advantages in many ways, instead of losing your sense of self-worth if you lose your competitiveness, so as to consolidate the existing effects;

Step 2 understand and affirm

Q students can clearly understand their current academic level and have a certain understanding of the future. They also need parents to give more support under certain guidance, especially for Q's own ideas.

Only when the psychological environment is affirmed and respected can individuals have more psychological energy to exert their advantages and potentials.

3. Adjustment of parent-child relationship

Both parents must make adjustments. Father's praise and affirmation have a far-reaching impact on the cultivation of boys' masculinity and sense of responsibility.

In our daily observation, we can find that students Q still have some responsibilities internally, but they just don't have the energy or opportunity to show them.

At the same time, mothers need to let go appropriately, give their children opportunities to explore their own growth, and allow them to assume some family responsibilities as male roles.

At the same time, please firmly believe that your children are the best!

He can thrive and do many things well. I believe that he can take every step of the future independently and have a beautiful life. As long as he gets social support from his family, the affirmation of his parents is the most powerful social support for his children!

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Parents' thinking problems