In fact, in this world, it is normal for young people to be confused. I used to have no direction or goal for the future. In the last two years, at the age of 30, I began to think about life, what to do next.
In this world, some people are precocious, while others are late bloomers. We can keep a positive spirit of exploration in the course of life, and we don't have to have a clear future at any age. But I still think that people who can clearly know what they want to do and stick to it are particularly valuable.
Audrey is such a girl.
Audrey is a little girl I met in this world. I found her because I wrote the movie The Shawshank Redemption. Audrey, 24, rummaged through her articles and friends circle, giving me the impression that she is a very hardworking, enterprising and kind girl. After seven years in college, she has lived her life step by step according to the goals set for herself. This year, she graduated from a famous school with a master's degree. Part-time job in college earned more than 200 thousand. After graduation, she went directly to work in a famous school in Beijing and became an English lecturer who loved reading and writing.
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The starting point may not be high, but you must know what you want.
You may think that Audrey must have a high starting point or a good family, but she is not. Her starting point is not high, and her family is just an ordinary northern family. Her undergraduate degree is not 985,211,but an ordinary university. But instead of going with the flow and giving up her efforts, she firmly believes in a sentence in the movie The Shawshank Redemption: "Some birds can never be caged, because every wing of them is covered with the glory of freedom!" Choose to live the life you want.
Limiting yourself has never been a school background. It's up to you whether you can live what you want.
In college, Audrey adjusted her mentality, stopped trying to please everyone, and actively chose her college life.
In ordinary universities, many students don't like studying very much. They go to bed in the morning and wake up naturally. If they can catch up with class, they will go to class. If you can't make it, just have lunch. Others brush online dramas, play games, skip classes, cheat, fail classes and mix so-called circles. But she didn't. At the beginning of school, she clearly told herself that universities should first lay a solid professional foundation and cultivate their core competitiveness. Besides, learn English and write well.
Excellent people are always lonely. When others are busy playing, she chooses a person who works hard and struggles silently. A person attends self-study, a person attends class, a person gets up early to recite English, a person asks questions after class, and a person sits in the front row.
In the four years of college, she insisted on self-study every day, sitting in the front row of every professional class, and taking the initiative to ask the teacher questions. In her spare time, she actively participated in English speech contest, presided over NPC contest, debate contest and English writing contest, and remained the first in her major for four consecutive years. Later, she was admitted to a famous school in Beijing with excellent results.
When she came to Beijing for graduate school, her biggest feeling was that the price was too expensive! When she was an undergraduate, her monthly living expenses were 500 yuan, but when she arrived in Beijing, the first month was 2000 yuan, which was simply astronomical for her at that time!
From then on, she decided not to spend her parents' money, to be self-reliant, to earn money to support herself and to buy things she liked.
So she worked hard to make money without affecting her studies. The way is to use your English skills, always be curious and try more.
The advantage of being curious at all times is that you will find more possibilities. Try more, and you will find more possibilities to make money.
For example, at the beginning of the first year of research, Audrey's part-time job was domestic English training, including junior high school English and postgraduate English. But after a long time, she will inevitably get bored, and domestic English training is generally not very expensive.
Later, by chance, I had dinner with a college classmate. She was curious about what the classmates were doing and making so much money. Her classmates told her to do SSAT (American Senior High School Entrance Examination), and then she had the idea of doing English training abroad.
After coming back, she searched all the information related to IELTS on the Internet, from knowing nothing about IELTS at first, to gradually understanding the composition and skills of IELTS, to borrowing all IELTS-related books from the library to study IELTS, to find out the way of English teaching, and finally applied to become an IELTS teacher in a big company.
Big companies earn a lot of money with high salaries. In addition, she also works as a sales assistant, etiquette assistant and English tour guide. During her college years, she earned almost 200,000 yuan from these part-time jobs.
Doing these part-time jobs not only helped her earn money, but more importantly, it also helped her broaden her horizons, meet many great people and understand what she wanted. She said, "Be curious and try more. If you are determined to make money, it is impossible not to make money. The law of attraction tells us that when you focus on a certain field, people, things and things related to this field will be attracted to you. "
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Insist on three things, what live high wants.
With her English skills, Audrey earned the first pot of gold in her life. In the process of making money, she constantly polished and improved her skills and met a wave of like-minded friends. In the process of expanding social circle and constantly improving herself, she realized the importance of personal image, so he also embarked on the road of beauty.
During college, she insisted on doing three things well-learning English, making money, becoming beautiful and gradually becoming what she wanted.
The first is to learn and cultivate English skills.
English, learning English is Audrey's wisest decision so far. She said that everything she is doing now is based on being good at English.
7-year English major, CET-8, IELTS-7.5, French-4, 3-year part-time IELTS teacher and postgraduate teacher. It was English that made her earn the first pot of gold in her life and have the capital to invest in herself.
The second thing is to make money.
"A girl, why do you fight so hard?" "Why do you have to work so hard to make money?" Many people will ask her.
Audrey herself has been confused and hesitant. Why do you have to get up early every weekend to squeeze the subway? Why not make a little money safely? Why do you have to spell it like this every day?
But get busy living or get busy dying. Making money has brought her freedom, a sense of accomplishment and meaning, and made her insist on making money.
Make money and set her free. There is a saying that "having money doesn't mean you can do whatever you want, but if you don't want to do it, you can accomplish nothing." She said that when she had no money, she was reluctant to take the high-speed train. Every time she goes home to squeeze the train, she gets up at 5 am, and it will be dark when she gets home. Therefore, my mother still complains that she "walks home with stars every time."
When I have no money, I can't bear to buy my favorite clothes and cosmetics, even the books I want to buy.
But now, she has made money and can buy books she likes at will. Buy clothes you like when you see them. You can buy your favorite cosmetics when you see them. This feeling is really cool!
You will find that a girl's ability, self-confidence, dignity, texture of life, courage to leave and opportunities to help others are too many, all in that small money symbol.
Making money gives her a sense of accomplishment. A friend once quipped, "Why are you so tired of making money yourself? Better to marry well than to do well! "
The person who said this may not have really experienced the fun of making money, which is outside the experience of taking other people's money. Every time Audrey earns money through her own ability, she has a sense of accomplishment in her heart, followed by self-confidence.
Making money gave her a sense of meaning. Although money is only a symbol, it actually reflects its own meaning and value.
When Audrey saw that her students got the offer to study abroad, when Audrey saw that they were admitted to graduate school, and when Audrey heard the students say to her, "Teacher, your speech is very good, it is the best class I have ever heard", she felt a sense of existence and value in her heart.
The third thing is to be beautiful.
When it comes to beautiful girls, many words like "unlearned, vase" will pop up in my mind, and I always feel that they only have a glamorous appearance and no connotation. Audrey once thought so. But when she was slapped by reality, she realized how stupid and ignorant she was.
With the expansion of her circle of friends, Audrey has met many beautiful women who are learning hegemony. They either graduated from a famous foreign school or were top in China 10. Not only that, they are good at illustration, cooking, dancing and singing.
It is really a sentence, "Is there an ugly headmaster now?"
No one wants to know your heart through your sloppy appearance. The truth is, beautiful women just have more choices.
Doesn't necessarily mean changing our appearance. In fact, clothes, hairstyles and makeup are enough to change a person's gas field.
If you want to be a successful person, dress up as a successful person first. The book "Controlling the Field" says that changing a person's clothing can change a person's gas field.
So Audrey also began to become beautiful, began to learn makeup, learn to wear, and change her hair style. There is a saying that "phase is born of heart", but she thinks it is just the opposite, "heart is born of phase".
When you change your appearance, you will unconsciously match your words and deeds with your appearance.
Life, sometimes, just needs some sense of ceremony.
Audrey has always believed that whether she can live the life she wants is her own choice.
Audrey, 24, has just graduated from graduate school and has accumulated a lot of wealth. Now she stays in Beijing and teaches in a famous school. She said that she has a Beijing dream, that is, to live the life she wants in Beijing through her wisdom, hard work and courage. Cheer for her!
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Attachment: Audrey exploded "You can't recite words, do you still want to learn English well?" Five cruel tricks of vocabulary exceeding 10000 and five ways for Audrey to learn English;
I am often asked a question: After studying English for seven years, what have you learned? Will it take another seven years to learn English?
Many people are curious, how do English majors learn English? Today I'm going to talk about what it's like to be an English major for seven years!
There are only five words in undergraduate English: listening, speaking, reading, writing and translating.
listen to
Many friends are worried about how to improve English listening, which is actually two words-listen more. According to a conservative estimate, I have listened to at least 10000 hours of English for seven years. This is what English majors commonly call "grinding ears".
I still remember that on the first day of freshman class, I could only understand 20% of what the teacher taught me in English, and then slowly 50%-80%- 100%.
Of course, listening is also about methods. Many people wear headphones and play English songs every day, which is euphemistically called "soaking in English environment". But it is not very helpful to improve listening. Remember the melody at most, because it's called extensive listening.
To really improve English, we must rely on intensive listening, that is, listening to every word in a sentence, not just understanding a word.
A very good way to practice intensive listening is dictation. Put a sentence in a listening material and write a sentence until you write it correctly. At first, you may need 10 times to write it completely, but gradually it will be less and less, 7 times -5 times -3 times, or even once.
I started practicing VOA slowly, and later I can understand VOA constant speed, BBC and CNN constant speed.
This is the only way to improve English listening, depending on whether you can stick to it.
say
Improving spoken English is also two words-speak more. Think about how we learned to speak Chinese. Did our parents teach us to speak every day when we were young?
In college, you should take every opportunity to speak English-foreign teachers' classes, English corners, English speech contests, debate contests, poetry recitals, etc. Too many, don't say there is no chance.
In college, I am an active member in foreign teachers' classes, and I am very active and interactive every time I speak. In private, I became friends with foreign teachers, ate and chatted together, and my oral English was also laid in the university.
After graduate school, you don't have much time to practice these basic skills. Therefore, we must cherish time.
Another good way is to watch American TV shows for 20 minutes every day. I watched the first season of Friends 10 in college, and then suddenly one day I spoke with an American accent.
It's like, if you study in the Northeast for four years, you can also have a Northeast accent.
read
English reading should pay attention to two points: mastering the gradient; Combination of intensive reading and extensive reading.
If your vocabulary is small, don't challenge a difficult article at the beginning, otherwise it will be like reading this article:
We know that virtue is very important in life. For example, in Li Man and Ruo Lake, some chickens wandered around. Before that, they were interrelated.
I want to tear books crazily when I read books.
Learn to combine intensive reading with extensive reading. Extensive reading is more suitable for reading novels. Words you don't know can be guessed from the context, and you only need to understand the plot meaning of the novel. This can improve your reading speed.
Intensive reading is suitable for reading texts, newspapers, etc. And we need to know all the parts of speech, meaning and usage of a word. Only in this way can we use it. The most important purpose of learning English is to use it, isn't it?
For example, when we encounter the word "appreciation" when reading a novel, we only need to know that it means "appreciation", which will not affect our reading at all.
However, in intensive reading, we should not only know its meaning, but also master its usage of "adopting to do something", so as to use it in oral English and writing. Moreover, we should not only know that it has the meaning of "gratitude", but also grasp its other meanings of "gratitude" and "appreciation"
This is the difference between intensive reading and extensive reading.
write
Writing is an output process, both in Chinese and English. Without input, it is difficult to have output. Therefore, if you want to write a good English composition, you need to do the first three steps.
I participated in many English writing competitions in college, and the biggest problem I encountered was that I didn't have enough vocabulary to write what I wanted to write. The number of words is scarce, and a word has been repeated throughout the article.
Therefore, with vocabulary, phrases and sentence patterns, it is natural to write a good article.
translate
Translation is also an output process, and it is more difficult than the previous items, because to translate well, you need not only good English, but also a deep knowledge of Chinese.
Therefore, friends who are interested in translation, besides learning English well, must not lose Chinese.
In college, I laid a solid English foundation for these five basic skills. During graduate school, I will devote myself to a certain field, such as literature, linguistics or translation.
I studied English and American literature during my graduate studies, mainly studying English and American poems, novels and plays. I won't talk about this article ~ I will write a novel worth reading in Britain and America, so stay tuned ~
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