I am not smarter than others, and I have no better foundation than others. I didn't come to SUFE because of the mistakes in the college entrance examination, nor because I chose economics as my major because of my clear goals. The first lesson when I came to university was to know that IELTS is a foreign language test. The first surprise is to know that many people around me have the same papers as me in the college entrance examination, but they have transcripts that are 50 points higher than me. The first question that bothers me most is what is PPT? I want to cry for the first time because it is difficult to introduce myself in oral class, but others can speak for more than ten minutes.
I have no foresight after entering the university. I don't study. In order to follow Kobe Bryant during the day, all classes have become contemptible. In the afternoon, all the professional classes became a good time for a nap. Play online games until dawn at night. When I saw the average score of 82(3.2/4.0) in the first semester of my freshman year, I thought this score was quite high, because I have been aiming at 80 all my life. Later, I learned that at least I have stepped into the ranks of "underachievers" in my grades. Since the second year of high school, I have studied hard with the goal of 90 points. I use the time I practice shooting on weekdays to practice my points. I encouraged myself to sleep in class even if I slept, and I didn't forget the book on macroeconomics at night. Results My average score was 86 (3.6), and I won the only scholarship social practice award in the university. But at the same time, I also realized that I can't beat others in the exam. Only by working hard can I rank above 10 in my class.
Just when I was depressed about the mediocrity in the first two years of college, I got a research assistant position in the Market Research Center of Fudan University by chance, which became a turning point in my college career. Here I first came into contact with the subject of marketing, which is extremely interesting and runs through many disciplines such as business, sociology, anthropology, psychology, statistics and management. It can be seen everywhere in our daily life. Compared with economics presented only in mathematical form in books, I realize that this is what I love. So I began to keep company with all kinds of top academic journals day and night involuntarily, began to pay attention to marketing in every corner of my life, began to build my own research framework, formed my own research field, and began to open up a new little world for myself here. At the same time, in addition to being immersed in the academic ivory tower, I began to look for marketing in the commercial field, so I began to contact the consulting industry, began to study business cases, and tried to enter a consulting company to do marketing consulting projects. At the same time, I also decided to take marketing as my most important study and career in the future. How many documents I read, how many marketing textbooks and monographs I read, how many cases I practiced, how many instant noodles I ate, how many times I slept in the office chair, and how many times I didn't pay attention to truancy, roll call and grade point because I wanted to read the documents. I firmly told myself that I would be an excellent marketing researcher in the future, unaware of my own small world. I work more than 12 hours every day, but I'm not tired at all. When I saw the grades of 3.7 and 3.8 in my junior year (my average grade was only 3.4/4.0 in my junior year), I never felt that I had lost. For the first time, I feel so happy to do what I love from my heart. For the first time, I firmly believe that I can do something enviable even if my grades are not good. This feeling is that you will always be with me now.
In the last semester of my junior and senior year, I have been looking for challenges and novelty with such internal motivation, to exercise and extend my ability, to learn and explore what I want and to realize my potential. During the period of1August, my articles in Nankai Business Review, China Social Sciences, Managing the World and the international journal Psychological Marketing successively entered the second round of evaluation, two of which were accepted for publication, and two working papers were invited to be published as results reports at academic conferences in Chicago and Lille. He has worked as a business consultant or project assistant in consulting companies such as roland berger, McKinsey, Tharns and Gallup, and has undertaken marketing consulting projects such as Carrefour, Red Bull, Volkswagen, Procter & Gamble and Unilever. I applied for postgraduate marketing majors in five foreign universities, including Columbia University (CU), Rochester (UR), Virginia (UVA), Texas AM(TAMU) and Bentley (BU), among which TAMU and BU won the full prize, UVA and UR won the prize, and CU was rejected after the second interview. Of course, behind these stories, I have finished reading more than one meter thick literature. I can lead my seniors and sisters to carry out academic and commercial projects independently. I can help people around me write nearly 100 high-quality documents. I can help my friends to process all kinds of data in the papers by statistical methods. I can influence and even change others with my own views. The most important thing is that I am not lost in love. My heart is full and peaceful, not happy and sad. I don't stop because I lose my depression, nor do I stop because I gain it. All I do is to create a comfortable niche for myself with my own life according to my inherent nature, and then get a perfect life function.
This is my story, an unusual story. I used to be as confused as most people, as confused as I was, and as confused as I was about difficulties. I'm not as smart as others, and my math and economics are just so-so. My college GPA is only 3.6, I didn't take any certificates, and it wasn't smooth sailing (TOEFL three times 107, GMAT three times 720). The difference between me and me is that the experience of my junior year made me grow up completely and found something I love. With strong interest and full autonomy, I tirelessly pursue what I want, enjoy a highly concentrated flow, and finally release the potential of life.
This is my story, but I think everyone can, should and will have a similar story, because it is only the peak experience brought by the realization of life potential. I believe many people have heard of Aristotle's virtue, Maslow's self-realization, Roger's perfect life experience, and Fromm believes that the satisfaction of the needs beneficial to human growth can bring real happiness. Happiness in psychology holds that the happiness of life is to realize one's own potential (happiness occurs when props are the most condensed or try to participate in deep-rooted values and participate effectively as a whole), rather than hedonism advertised by eating, drinking and having fun. Everyone has their own daimon, which we really love and are good at, which makes our eyes shine. They will be gradually discovered in the process of continuous study, work and thinking. When one day you find the patron saint of your life (market it to me), no matter how helpless the reality is, don't turn a blind eye, pay attention to it and follow it. Even if you read an interesting book in your spare time and experience an adventure that satisfies your curiosity, your life can be perfectly displayed in your favorite career (of course, this refers to things that are beneficial to you).
I couldn't help crying when I saw Jay's speech at Peking University the other day, because I suddenly understood the story of my idol accompanying me 10. "I didn't go to college, but I gave you a speech. Isn't it a little strange? Vincent fang only went to primary school, but what he wrote can be found in textbooks. I think an extraordinary person is not how well he reads, but his skill. " "When you are a little different from others, you should try to enlarge it so that you can become different." Even if not everyone can be as successful as Jay and become a symbol of an era, we can grow up like him. It doesn't matter if you don't have smart talent, excellent growth environment, bad study and good job, because real growth doesn't come from these things. Everyone's most precious wealth is the ability to do things that can fully show their abilities with strong autonomy, and these things are not limited to you. Reading a book from the heart can better meet people's basic psychological needs (the needs of autonomy and ability) than reading a book for exams, so that we have stronger internal motivation and perform better, healthier and more energetic in what we do.
This preface was written by me last semester in college. School admission and graduation thesis have been decided, but the last few months have become the most difficult and happiest time since I was in college. Report to the library at 9: 00 every morning and endlessly absorb the nutrition of top psychology and marketing journals. Time also passed quickly in such ecstasy, and I left at night 10. Even the uncle who drives people away every night wonders, "Why didn't Xiao Zhao see you so serious three years ago?" I immediately found and appreciated my change. My inner love and pursuit of inner goals have kept me from stopping because of an admission notice, a publication, a successful project or the appreciation of some people. Only when my curiosity is constantly satisfied, my cognitive field is constantly expanded, and my ability is constantly improved and extended, can I realize my potential and find long-term and most meaningful happiness.
In the last month of college, I will still shuttle through the intimate streets accompanied by familiar desks and chairs to meet the challenges and novelty every day. Get up every day and look at the sunshine outside the window. Walking on the road, I can confidently tell myself: "I am growing!" " "