There is an eternal principle in life. If you are good to others, you are good to yourself.
A young female college student once took a dissatisfied look at a classmate in her dormitory. The reason is that the classmate packed the books and piled a pile of dusty books on her bed. That classmate didn't see other students doing their own things and didn't pay attention, but after she finished staring, she immediately regretted it and looked around. Just like a girl looking up at her, she is very worried, afraid that her classmates will say that she is narrow-minded. "They must know my dissatisfaction, so little things, why should I do this to her? They will definitely blame me. " On this day, she paid attention to others' reactions and didn't go out to study. The classmate who happened to see her asked her again, "Why don't you go out to study this afternoon?" She thought it was to tell her what she was staring at just now. Everyone went to eat in the evening. She came back a little late, and everyone else talked and laughed and ignored her. She thought people really ignored her. Sure enough, the students who put the books went to bed early at night. "She must be angry with me." She thought that when she came to the classroom the next day, she found that others looked at her differently. It is broken. They must have told the whole class. Now the whole class knows that I am narrow-minded. Later, when she came to the classroom, she heard her classmates laughing and thought she was laughing. Sitting in front of the classroom, she is worried that others will speak ill of her behind her back; Sitting at the back of the classroom, she thought that the people in front would only look back at her and tell her jokes, which made her fidget all day and couldn't sleep, fearing that others would speak ill of her after sleeping. Soon he suffered from insomnia and neurasthenia, and his grades dropped.
This kind of psychology exists widely among many of our young people. This young female college student suspects that others speak ill of her and ignores her without foundation, which is all caused by her bad personality-doubt. Suspicion is characterized by extreme tension and paranoia. They seem to have a sense of detachment. They always feel that other people's eyes seem to have special functions, they can see their shortcomings at a glance, or they feel that others look down on themselves, and then they begin to believe it gradually. They seem to feel that they must be the center of others' attention and believe that others are always talking about themselves. Others seem to be doing things that are not good for themselves and do things that damage their reputation. Some people always feel that there is something wrong with them.
From the psychological point of view, doubt is a subjective imagination that does not conform to the facts and a negative self-suggestion psychology. Suspicious people often assume a certain point of view subjectively first, and then bring many unrelated phenomena together through the so-called "reasonable imagination" to prove the correctness of their views. In order to achieve this goal, they can even create some phenomena out of thin air. The more you guess, the more you doubt.
First of all, the emergence of paranoia is related to certain situational conditions and social and personal factors. To eliminate it, we must first understand the reasons.
Suspicious content is what we care about very much, such as people, events, reputation and so on. Because I care about my reputation and what others think of me, I pay special attention to what others say and do and what others think of me, and I also study it carefully. Naturally, I think more about the bad side.
Secondly, we will lose what we love because of some real or imaginary shortcomings. For example, "I am incompetent, and these people will definitely look down on me." "I am narrow-minded, they will ignore me."
Finally, the influence of family environment. If either parent has a suspicious personality, making the children imitate their behavior, or because of the parents' suspicious attitude towards their children, the children may have a suspicious personality.
-quoted from Yanbian People's Publishing House, "Being angry equals punishing yourself"