1, social animals
The Bible, known as American Social Psychology, has sold tens of millions of copies all over the world. People are gregarious animals and are deeply influenced by each other. This book explores people's psychological motives and behaviors, and understands people's inner world and external influences. It involves cognition, prejudice, conformity, aggression and many other aspects.
Through rigorous experiments and appropriate life cases, the author makes us look at ourselves and others objectively. In order to adapt to survival, our brains have evolved a convenient way of thinking. Although this process saves a lot of trouble for mankind, there are also some loopholes.
For example, we may decide whether to be intimate at first sight. Because a person looks good, he will believe that this person has many advantages: smart, kind and gentle; Because the other party is not very good-looking, he will silently sentence the other party and avoid it. How terrible it is to determine the depth of a relationship in just a few seconds.
One sentence in the book impressed me deeply: human beings are such animals, and they have been trying to convince themselves all their lives that their existence is not absurd. There are always some people, whether reasonable or not, who insist that they are absolutely right; Even if it has been pointed out that it is wrong, it constantly defends itself. Also, blindfolded eyes cannot tell the truth. Only when we realize the defect in our thinking can we change it. The book not only explains the motives of human behavior, but also provides solutions. In a word, it is definitely worth your time.
2. The wisdom of life
The author is a famous German philosopher Schopenhauer. This book teaches us to look in from the outside. This paper discusses the principles that true happiness should follow from the secular and realistic perspectives. Schopenhauer said: What you have is very important for a happy life. We pay too much attention to external things, such as wealth and image, and often ignore our inner needs; If you want too much and want too much, you will feel dissatisfied when demand and possession are unbalanced.
What the world is like is not the world itself, but how you look at it. Similarly, our value is not reflected in the eyes of others, we have to live for ourselves. Whether a person's situation is good or bad depends more on how he feels about what happens in life. Only by paying attention to spiritual needs and learning to enjoy loneliness can we have real happiness.
3. A brief history of mankind
This book may subvert your previous cognition. From cognitive revolution and agricultural revolution to scientific revolution and biotechnology revolution. The author gives a comprehensive and systematic introduction to the history of human development, laying out the process of human development in front of him, which takes a long time and spans a long time and involves various important topics in life. To borrow a sentence from readers: After reading this book, I have a feeling of following mankind through 100,000 years!
The author's profound knowledge and unique imagination are amazing, and the language is vivid but thought-provoking. For example, how did humans jump to the top of the food chain? How to construct a false story to match? After reading it, let you have a deeper understanding of what kind of existence people are in nature. You'd better feel for yourself.
4. To Kill a Mockingbird
A book about education and conscience is recognized as a classic of American literature. It has been translated into more than 40 languages and sold more than 30 million copies worldwide. The story is not too complicated, but it is thought-provoking. Let's see how important the father's words and deeds are and what a real gentleman looks like. This book covers important aspects of life. For this book, people only regret not reading it earlier.
Step 5 control yourself
If you are troubled by your weak willpower: it always takes three minutes to do something; The set goal never begins; Habitually put off today's task until tomorrow. If you want to strengthen your self-control, this book is a magic weapon you can't miss. The author introduces the essence of self-control in detail and puts forward the muscle model of self-control. This book is full of dry goods, and there are many practical methods to enhance self-control. Pick any one. As long as you train deliberately, your self-control ability will be enhanced.
Step 6 be intimate
This book will refresh your inherent concept of intimacy. From the perspective of psychology, this paper makes a scientific and systematic summary of gender relations. The author reveals the true face of intimate relationship for us with a large number of cases. If you don't know how to get along with your partner, it's difficult to establish a close relationship. Whether you are in love or single; This book must not be missed. Spend some time reading, you can get a satisfactory partnership and increase happiness. Why not do it? Recommend Roland Miller Edition.
7. Puppy Qian Qian
This is an introductory book on financial management, written by Bodo Schaefer, a "European financial master". You can read it as a fairy tale and follow the little girl's footsteps to learn the knowledge of financial management and investment. It turns out that financial books can also be lively, interesting and easy to understand. About how to distribute income and how to make geese lay more golden eggs. These ideas can help you establish the concept of financial management and make money work for you. Learn to manage money, the sooner the better.
8. Social psychology
This is an introductory textbook of classical psychology, which can be found in various psychological recommendation books. The textbooks used by Stanford University in the United States for many years are full of dry goods and suitable for Xiaobai. There are a lot of life cases in it, which are rigorous but not boring, and can be understood even without psychological foundation. To introduce psychology systematically and comprehensively, this book is a big project and needs to be chewed slowly. Those who can read it patiently will feel that they have benefited a lot.
9. Non-violent communication
This is a communication bible, there is no so-called communication shortcut, but it can help you solve 80% communication problems. Maybe you think you don't need verbal violence, but why do we care about others very much, but sometimes we don't mean it and hurt ourselves? The key to nonviolent communication is to pay attention to the needs of yourself and others. Only by paying attention to personal needs can we abandon alienated communication methods.
In the book, you may see your own shadow and find yourself frequently recruited. Only one book is needed to reflect on the wrong way of communication and practice "non-violent" communication. Reading is one of the few shortcuts to improve personal ability, with low cost and great benefits. The life experiences of many great men are enough for us to learn on the shoulders of giants.
Reading can see the essence of things clearly, broaden your mind, experience a different life, and be calm when you really meet them. Books are good teachers and friends. With it, you won't be lonely.