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If there is any way in this world to see through a person's emotional intelligence at a glance, I think it is only to order food.

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I wonder if you have noticed that the more people eat, the slower they eat, especially when ordering food. A person may only need 1 minute to decide what to eat, but a group of people may not be able to make a menu in half an hour when eating.

The biggest reason is that too much time is spent making concessions to each other.

Please let the guests order first. If the guests order with an open mind, the host need not be too reluctant.

"You order, I don't care." This is probably the most common sentence at the dinner table. Some people say this because they are modest, while others say this because they are guilty-afraid of what others don't like. Whatever the reason, one thing is certain: refusing to order is putting the trouble on others.

The most important basis for us to judge whether a person's emotional intelligence is high or not is whether he can solve the trouble. You take the initiative, you don't take the initiative, it's completely different. Ordering food is a concentrated expression of a person's food cultural accomplishment, and it is a complicated job, which is very important in interpersonal communication and worth studying seriously.

Making an appointment with others for dinner, from setting a position to ordering food, can't show each other's respect and attention. A person's ordering style is a true portrayal of a person's personality and style of doing things.

I used to be a casual person at dinner parties. When someone hands me a menu, I always subconsciously pass it on to the next person. Sometimes people are in such a hurry that they have to open the menu in a panic and point to it.

So during that time, there were always friends who said that I couldn't let go of private chat. Every time I heard something similar before, I would reply, "I'm slow, I'll be fine in the future." But then I slowly discovered that the so-called slow fever is actually an excuse.

People who order food passively and socialize passively are, in the final analysis, lacking in emotional intelligence. How can a person with high emotional intelligence put all the troubles on others?

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Maybe some people will feel disdainful when they see what I said. Isn't it just ordering a dish? What's the big deal?

It's amazing.

On the Zhihu, there is a problem of great concern. "The first time I had steak with a girl, the girl told the waiter that the steak was tender. What should I say to solve the embarrassment? "

The reason why the subject is embarrassed is because the steak is generally not even cooked. He probably thinks it's embarrassing for girls to say that in front of waiters.

An answer that won the approval of 1.4 million people is "I want it tender, too." The contrast between high emotional intelligence and low emotional intelligence is so obvious.

Never underestimate a person who can order food. A group of people gathered around the table. Some people like spicy food, some people like light food, some people like sweet food, some people like salty food, and everyone has different tastes. It's really not a simple thing to cover everything.

Any menu is the coordinates of the world.

Ordering principle: entering the restaurant corresponding to your identity is half the battle.

I've met many people. When eating, he ordered a lot of spicy "boiled fish, stir-fried meat, spicy crayfish ..." when it was obvious that others could not eat spicy food. As a result, others either had nowhere to start with chopsticks or took paper towels.

Obviously, such people just lack consideration for other people's emotional intelligence.

We should take care of the tastes, habits and taboos of all diners. For example, Hui friends don't eat pork, some people are allergic to seafood, and people with certain chronic diseases, such as hypertension, should pay attention to a light diet. So be selective when ordering food, so that everyone can have food.

There is a saying in Bao Puzi: "I don't have enough to eat, but I don't want to eat too much." When eating, we must prioritize, always put my offspring first, feed ourselves, and people who starve to death will not have many friends.

Because selfishness is the most fatal shortcoming of exposing emotional intelligence at the dinner table.

When I first joined the work, I often had dinner with several new colleagues in the company.

Xiao Jia, who was traveling with him at that time, had the best family conditions in our group, so every time he ate, the food he ordered was particularly expensive. Even if the meal is shared equally by everyone, it is still beyond the tolerance of others.

Colleagues have mentioned it many times in front of Xiao Jia for a simple meal. There is no need to order such an expensive one. However, Xiao Jia still went his own way. As a result, the dining team broke up in a few days.

Consider others, not only their tastes, but also their financial ability. Everyone's ability is different, and the results they can bear are naturally different.

To be a man, you must have both the ability to cook and the wisdom to make overall plans. Doing both well is high emotional intelligence.

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Some time ago, my friend complained to me that her aunt introduced her to a boy who works in IT, is a local, has a car and a house, and has a good education and a good figure. In short, she must take it seriously and have a good meal with others.

My friend nodded, dressed up for nearly an hour on the day of meeting, and put on all the skirts he seldom wore. Only after he went did he find out that the boy had booked a barbecue shop. Moreover, there were many people in that shop at that time, which was very messy and full of soot. When two people want to say something, they have to get close together and shout at the top of their voices. Needless to say, the scene was awkward.

After that meal, my friend never contacted the boy again.

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If there are many people, try to choose a restaurant with a box or a quiet hall. I have experienced more than a dozen people crowded into a small Vietnamese restaurant, so we had to line up with small tables, and finally everyone even talked? Forget it. Shit, it's too far.

If there are few people, you can choose some private occasions. For example, for a business negotiation with less than four people, it is appropriate to find a mid-range Japanese restaurant in CBD (but not a sushi restaurant? Lock), strength, weight and atmosphere are just right.

Of course, privacy should not be too good. I went on a business trip with a male colleague and chose a Yunnan restaurant. I was dumbfounded when I went in. Small carriage, ambiguous lights and heavy veil, we only have? You can signal the waiter not to put down the curtains and resolve the embarrassment to show innocence.

In fact, the environment is also a part of ordering food, especially when you are the host. Choosing a suitable restaurant is much more important than choosing a delicious menu.

When talking about important work, choose restaurants with strong privacy; When a group of people have dinner to relax, they should choose a restaurant with active atmosphere ... the environment is an important beginning, and targeted choice is an important manifestation of your emotional intelligence.

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Many times, whether a table of food is delicious or not has nothing to do with where it is cooked, its materials, and the nationality and identity of the person who makes it. The taste of dishes is often determined when ordering.

Do not know how to match = poor management and poor taste.

The best way to order food is to make a table of rice look like a mountain on the edge of a ridge, with different distances.

The ingredients should be scattered. Pig, cow, sheep, chicken, duck, fish, shrimp and so on, every dish is ok. The same is true of vegetarian dishes. (Except for theme banquets such as mutton banquet. )

Not long ago, I ate hubei cuisine once. As a result, there are ten dishes on a table, and three of them are mainly made of lotus root. Another dish is lotus root, his son-lotus root tip. There is almost no doubt that it is ironic that we "eat lotus root ugliness".

The types should also be dispersed. Just a soup, soup, etc. You can have several stir-fry dishes and two pots at most. Once, someone made a "pot" on a table. It's dark in front of you? The casserole is filled with soup and water, and there is no breath. Dark clouds overwhelm the city, which is also very funny.

There must be green leafy vegetables. Dessert is the icing on the cake, you can have it, it looks very vivid.

In short, you should have a sense of picture when ordering, and imagine what the picture will look like after your order is served. Whether the color scheme is too monotonous and the setting is too simple must be considered.

Can you consider other people's tastes, have you considered the environment, have you learned about the collocation of meat and vegetables, know that there is an active atmosphere when breaking ice, and whether you really ignore what others say casually ... Every detail determines the quality of this table.

A person who can order food can never be bad socially, because every menu he writes has his kindness and thoughtfulness to others. These are the real connections and the emotional intelligence that a person should have most.