In this world, it seems that all right and wrong causes and effects can be measured, but in fact, there are no two identical leaves in the world, and there are no two identical situations for quantitative reference.
In my opinion, there are only a few "rules" worth following:
1. Free will.
2. All beings are equal.
Love should not be wishful thinking, but a form of relationship organized by the parties voluntarily.
If either party is unwilling for any reason, it is against the principle of freedom to ask two people to be together.
Individual will has both continuity and variability. Continuity makes love work, variability makes love end. There is no right or wrong in love. In this world, there is love that has been in business for a lifetime, and there is also love that is unwilling to be impetuous. But only talking about love, no love is immoral.
But one kind is immoral: rape free will with external force, whether it is tied together or forcibly separated. There are many kinds of external forces: the balance of practical interests, the indoctrination of mainstream values, legal public opinion and moral conscience, and many things wrapped in beautiful skins. Experience it for yourself.
Add one more thing:
"Responsibility" is a very empty and fake word. At present, the most commonly used word is an excuse to rape free will across personal boundaries.
True responsibility means that everyone can only be responsible for his own actions, but not for others. Everyone has the responsibility to bear the consequences of their own choices.
In fact, love is not a business, but in a broad sense, love and business are very similar, because in essence, business and love are both a way of contract.
To give a simple example, two people's lives are voluntary. When choosing to enter two people's lives, everyone gets their expected emotional benefits, but there are also potential emotional risks to bear. Blind people need to pay for their original "wrong" wishes; People with poor management need to pay for their wrong ways. Businessmen are fickle, but many companies have existed for hundreds of years. If the actual benefits in a business always meet expectations, all businessmen will choose to continue this business. The situation has changed, the buyers and sellers can't reach an agreement on the income expectation, and the business is over; So should love. In addition, profiteers have their own means, just like playboy men and women also have their own means, but they also need to bear the consequences of playing these means.
But the most disgusting thing is to buy and sell by force, which is quite common in our great socialism.
I don't object to lasting love, but I don't like the low-level means of maintaining love with "responsibility".
If you expect eternity, you need to manage every minute. A well-run love will be the sublimation of your personal life, and eternity is only a small by-product. And expect to achieve eternity through a ceremony or a promise, even if it is not safe, it needs public opinion to be bound by law. There is no doubt that this is a naive idea.