What cold violence among college students has become a hot topic? Recently, Qilu Evening News reporters distributed 200 questionnaires in colleges and universities all over the country, and collected 80 valid questionnaires 109 for girls and 7 1 for boys. Through questionnaire analysis, it is found that 75% of girls have had sex during college? Isolated? The feeling that even 70% of the girls passed? Line up? Join a small group and find a sense of belonging. The cold violence in the dormitory is mostly caused by small things. The reporter found that using a roommate's hot water and leaving things lying around without saying hello may be the fuse of cold violence.
? Are they isolating me just because I'm a local?
? This is the power of cold violence. It makes you feel sad, but you can only hold it in your heart and don't know who to tell. Secondly, I keep questioning myself in my mind. I am introverted by nature. Did I accidentally do something to make her unhappy and offend her? I didn't expect Chang Lin (a pseudonym), a junior in an economic university, to recall her feelings after three years in college. Cold violence? .
Chang Lin has lived in a high school. There are eight people, all in the countryside, and the dormitory relationship is relatively harmonious. ? In high school, all we talked about was study or family situation. After going to college, our dormitory became a dormitory for six people, and five people always discussed Korean dramas, make-up movies and so on. I don't know much about this, so I can't say. Gradually, they don't talk to me much. From the sophomore year, I don't know why, a girl G in the dormitory began to crowd out and isolate me, saying hello without paying attention, which was a kind of indifference. At first, I felt embarrassed. I wanted to find out why, so I asked another girl in the dormitory. She didn't answer me directly, only said? Nothing? . ? Later, Chang Lin found that other m-girls didn't cry to her because of anything.
? When people have a heated discussion in the dormitory, if I join, I will always be ignored. When everyone enjoys the delicious food, they just ask me symbolically. ? Chang Lin couldn't get rid of her sense of loss and frustration, so she made an appointment with J, the girl in the dormitory next door. That is, J told Chang Lin that G of Chang Lin Dormitory often discussed Chang Lin's behavior with his classmates, saying that Chang Lin was bullied and even that Chang Lin was rustic. ? Are they isolating me because I can't figure it out? From sophomore year to junior year, Chang Lin has been in the process of constantly questioning and reflecting on herself. Occasionally, the relationship eased and everyone talked and laughed, but soon, I realized that I was treated by them again? Kick out? This feeling. ?
Gradually, Chang Lin found some changes in her mentality, from depression and self-denial at the beginning to half anger and half loss. After being isolated for a month or two, my mind kept flashing with the unpleasantness I had experienced before and some things that G made her unbearable. Besides, slowly? I started to get extreme. In order to escape the fact of cold violence, my brain automatically formed a protective mechanism, which shaped G into a heinous villain, magnified her shortcomings and narrowed her usual advantages, so that I could hardly remember them, although in fact, when I thought about being with her afterwards, I still had many good memories. ?