Children's kindergarten adaptation problems and phenomena have attracted more and more attention. It is normal for children to adapt to the new park. However, if children are in anxiety, sadness and pain for a long time, it is very harmful to their physical and mental development. Children's difficulties in adapting to the park are mainly caused by improper parental rearing patterns and improper teaching methods of teachers. We should start with parents, kindergartens and children, help children overcome the adaptation difficulties in entering the park through family education, and promote children's rapid integration into kindergarten life. Keywords park adaptation difficulties; Current situation; Reason; Countermeasures Infants and young children are the primary stage of a person's socialization, and entering kindergarten to start collective life is their first step into society. How to shorten the "running-in period" of children's life in kindergarten and adapt to the collective life of kindergarten as soon as possible has become an important topic of early childhood education. First, children adapt to the status quo. When children enter kindergarten from home, they are in a strange environment for the first time. The child has a strong sense of insecurity psychologically and shows great discomfort physically. The specific performance is: 1, abnormal mood. When entering the park, some children hold their parents' necks and cry. Some silently walked into the activity room to wipe tears; Some struggled desperately, crying to catch up with their parents who had just left. In the garden, some children don't eat, drink or play, and don't participate in any group activities; Others have been following the teacher "to ask for a mother". 2, physical changes Some children are afraid to go because of urine and urine, and dare not tell the teacher that they wet the bed or pee their pants from time to time; Some children don't want to eat with others or even eat; Some children have difficulty taking a lunch break and even refuse to sleep; Some children will also have fever, cough and other physical discomfort. In view of the above problems, it is necessary to carefully analyze the reasons, scientifically formulate countermeasures, and give targeted guidance to young children. Second, the reasons and analysis of the existing problems (1) The problem of children's adaptation to kindergartens is manifested in individual children, but the fundamental reason is that parents and kindergartens have problems in the way adults treat children. 1. Parents' problem children often cried and chanted when she first went to kindergarten, which often affected parents' sympathy. Some parents can't bear to leave when they hear their children crying. Some parents ignore their children's emotions and leave. Other parents are peeking at the door or outside the window. The anxiety expressed by parents' words and deeds has a certain negative impact on children. At the same time, family education does not pay attention to children's self-care ability, which leads to poor self-care ability of children, and on the one hand, it also prolongs the adaptation time of entering the park. 2. The teacher's problem is ignored: some children have poor adaptability, and even if they enter the park for a while, they will always cry. For these children, teachers began to care more, but after many failed attempts, teachers would lose patience, "snubbing them" and let them cry as long as there was no safety problem. Deception: The child cried for his mother. After the teacher's comfort doesn't work, they often trick the child into saying, "The baby doesn't cry, and the mother will pick you up right away." But when the child finds out that his mother didn't come to pick him up, he will cry again, even more excited than last time. Threats: "Cry again and let 1 10 take you away", "Cry again and let the wolf take you away". In order not to make children cry, some teachers will scare them. This practice will leave a shadow on children's young hearts. (2) Cause analysis 1 and environmental factor analysis (1) Changes in living environment. The living environment changes from family to kindergarten, and the inner feelings of children are completely different, and there is no harmony between children and kindergarten environment. Different living habits, the bondage of collective life and unprecedented life experience make children feel uncomfortable. (2) Changes in interpersonal relationships. In the family, children have their own stable kinship and specific family status, and a certain interpersonal balance is formed and maintained among children, parents and elders. Once in kindergarten, facing teachers and many peers, children feel completely different from home, from "holding the stars of the moon" at home to a few people in kindergarten, interested everywhere and limited everywhere. 2. Analysis of group relationship (1) Family is related to the change of social relationship. In family life, children are often the little emperor, the little sun and the center. After entering the collective life, become an ordinary member. For children who have no group life experience, they will feel lost and helpless, which becomes an important factor for children to adapt. (2) Changes in communication objects and relationships. Family members, especially parents and children, interact frequently. After entering kindergarten, the children's contacts become unstable, and the complicated one-to-many relationship makes them at a loss. It takes a period of kindergarten life to develop feelings with teachers and peers and build trust. (3) Acceptance of the new environment. If a child's attention can be attracted by the new environment, then his adaptability is strong. On the contrary, it will aggravate their inadaptability to entering the park, and will produce certain physiological and psychological pressure, and then produce escape psychology. 3. Psychological factor analysis (1) produces separation anxiety. Children gradually develop and form attachment to their parents or other direct caregivers from birth. Once children are separated from them, entering a strange kindergarten from a familiar home will produce psychological insecurity, and will produce anxiety, anxiety, crying and other "separation anxiety" to varying degrees. (2) Lack of security. Children get along with their parents and relatives at home, and when they leave their relatives, they will be anxious because of lack of emotional attachment and security. From the above analysis, it is normal for children to feel uncomfortable when they first enter the park, but if they are in anxiety, sadness and pain for a long time, it is very harmful to their physical and mental development. When analyzing this problem, teachers should accept and guide children with a tolerant and humanistic attitude. Third, the countermeasures to solve the problem (1) Take precautions and prepare for entering the park 1. Pay attention to communication before entering the park. The contact information of teachers and parents can be announced before children enter the park, so that parents and teachers can communicate by telephone, QQ, WeChat and home visits. Parents can let their children know their teachers as soon as possible, and teachers can also know their children's living habits, personality characteristics, parental rearing patterns and other information in advance. Good interaction between teachers and parents will make children feel intimate, which is conducive to teachers' targeted individual education and achieve good conservation education results. 2. It is very important for parents to make more positive hints and positive psychological hints. "The baby is really good these days, and we will go to kindergarten in two days"; "There are many lovely babies in the kindergarten. Shall we go and play?" Parents say more encouraging words before entering the park, which can help children adapt to kindergarten life quickly. 3. Be familiar with the environment and reduce anxiety. Before entering the kindergarten, parents can take their children for a walk and watch outdoor activities such as exercises and games in the kindergarten. If the kindergarten allows, they can go to the activity venues in the park to play, make friends with other children on their own initiative, feel the fun of group activities and peer games, and reduce their strangeness and inadaptability to the new environment and groups. (2) Cooperation at home and effective education after entering the park 1. Kindergartens should provide a good living and psychological environment, organize colorful games and activities, and attract young children to actively participate; Ensure that children have enough to eat and eat well with sufficient and varied meals and flexible and relaxed time. At the same time, we should pay attention to the emotional communication with young children, appease their emotions from person to person, and try our best to make every child pass the psychological adaptation period smoothly. 2, parents timely counseling to promote the growth of young children First of all, parents should take the lead to spend the anxiety period, fully believe in kindergartens, and gradually guide children to like kindergartens and teachers. Secondly, parents should provide their children with more opportunities for peer communication and constantly reduce their attachment to their parents. At the same time, it is necessary to cultivate children's self-care ability, and "capable" babies will quickly adapt to kindergarten life. 3. Communicate in time at home and cooperate closely. The simplest and most timely way to communicate is to talk with parents for a short time when they pick up their children, so that parents can know the specific performance of their children's study, activities and life in the park in time, and teachers can also get effective information from parents, so as to coordinate family education with kindergarten education. Children entering the park is not only a challenge and test for children, but also for parents. As long as parents and children are psychologically prepared before entering the park, parents and teachers will trust and support each other after entering the park. I believe that children will successfully pass the first socialization process in life and lay a good foundation for future all-round development. Reference [1] (Su)-monash Willy. Hello, children. Education Science Press, 2005. [2] Shi Wenxiu. On the separation anxiety of new kindergarten children and its relief from Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory. 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