Roy, female, 27 years old:
My family is very traditional. I was taught from an early age not to have premarital sex. In fact, I don't think a man's love for you has anything to do with XOO. No matter how long, he can love you. If he doesn't, he can only rely on XOO to maintain it.
Guoguo, female, aged 25:
It is ok to have sex before marriage, but I personally think it is better when you are 18 years old. No matter whether you are a man or a woman, you can be responsible for your actions, and as you get older, girls will know what they want.
Huanshan, male, 27 years old.
Before I met her, she gave it to someone else for the first time, and she was a little sad! But she is the person I want to marry, so I will respect all her actions.
After reading the "small sample", let's take a look at the "big data" and how contemporary young men and women view premarital sex.
1.60% of college students accept premarital sex. China Family Planning Association, China Youth Network and Tsinghua University Public Health Research Center jointly launched a survey-"National College Students' Sexual and Reproductive Health Survey".
The survey results show that more than 53% students have had definite sexual behavior from the beginning of college to the graduation of undergraduate course. From the perspective of gender, the incidence of sexual behavior of boys is higher than that of girls, and then to the graduate stage, the incidence of sexual behavior of men and women is basically the same.
Source: China Youth Network
From the age of first sexual intercourse, the average age is between 18 ~ 19, with 28.84% for boys and 25. 14% for girls. There is no significant difference in the age of first sexual intercourse between men and women. And with the increase of age, the incidence of sexual behavior is also increasing significantly.
On the attitude towards premarital sex, 75./kloc-0.4% of boys and 55.03% of girls said "acceptable". Moreover, from freshman to senior, the overall acceptance of premarital sex is also increasing year by year, and the overall acceptable ratio of senior reaches 86.56%.
In the view of opening a house or even living together, up to 83.85% of boys can accept opening a house or living together, while the proportion of girls is relatively low, but it has reached 60.97%. Similarly, with the growth of age, from freshman to senior, the overall acceptance is also increasing.
Another survey also reflected similar results.
In China, people born between 1995 and 20 12 have relatively distinct personalities, and their advantages and disadvantages are equally prominent. The era of their birth and growth happened to experience the prosperity of domestic economy and the rise of mobile internet, which is called the powder Z era.
According to the data reported after China 1995, 66% of men and 53% of women accepted premarital sex. However, after 95, only 9% of men and only 16% of women did not accept premarital sex.
Source: Yangcheng Evening News
Regarding the attitude of getting pregnant before marriage, 76% people will choose to have children and get married, while 1 1% people will choose to abort their children and not get married, 9% people will choose to abort their children and get married, 3% people will choose to have children and not get married, and 1% people will choose to have children and be raised by their parents. In terms of gender, 86% of men and 66% of women are in favor of "having children and getting married".
Generally speaking, in the case of unmarried pregnancy, although there are some differences between men and women, most people will choose to have children and get married.
In the form of marriage, 54% of the post-90s generation are willing to travel and get married, 3 1% people don't care, and 24% people are willing to choose "naked marriage". But in the group of "naked marriage", 65% of men agree, while 35% of women agree.
Second, why do more and more people accept premarital sex? More and more young people are open to premarital sex, which is an essential change in the concept of the times.
Since the beginning of the 20th century, sexual culture has changed all over the world. On the one hand, with the advancement of the equal rights movement between men and women, sex has become the best choice for mutual acceptance. Another objective fact is that in the era of agricultural civilization, people got married in their teens. After entering the era of industrial civilization, the age of marriage was generally postponed. Therefore, from a purely physiological point of view, there is nothing wrong with premarital sex itself.
In addition, due to the change of social structure, many people are not married at the age of 30 in order to study or work, and the marriage in the legal sense has not yet taken place, but physiologically, the sexual demand is very mature. The change of ideas makes premarital sex a reality, and more and more people accept it.
And premarital sex is not without benefits.
First of all, it can meet the physiological needs. People gradually mature after puberty. In this case, if the demand is not met, it may affect life and work, and even lead to psychological and mental illness.
Secondly, we can test the degree of harmony. Whether the sexual relationship between husband and wife is harmonious or not directly affects their feelings and later life. You can test their fit in advance before marriage to avoid regret after marriage.
Best of all, it can also enhance mutual understanding and bring the relationship closer. After getting to know each other better, feelings will also deepen. In addition, you can also know in advance whether the other person's sexual orientation and physical condition are healthy.
Third, there are certain risks in "trying to love" before marriage. Although premarital sex has certain benefits, it also has certain risks, especially unplanned pregnancy, which is more harmful to women.
From the data point of view, as early as 20 12 years, the rate of induced abortion in China reached 29%, and the average number of women receiving induced abortion exceeded100000 every year. Among them, women under the age of 20 have become the top three high-risk groups of abortion. At present, about130,000 women in China have abortions every year, and more than half of them are under the age of 25.
The harm caused by abortion to women is both physical and psychological.
Physiologically, induced abortion is a kind of artificial curettage, a surgical instrument with strong adsorption, which dismembers the fetus and adsorbs it to the outside. This process will cause damage to endometrium, which is irreversible. 12% of women will have induced abortion syndrome, with symptoms such as bradycardia, arrhythmia, decreased blood pressure, pallor, hyperhidrosis, etc., which will seriously cause fainting and convulsions.
Even if the operation is successful, there may be complications such as endometritis, pelvic inflammatory disease and hematocele in the uterine cavity, or sequelae such as chronic pelvic inflammatory disease, abnormal menstruation and endometriosis. If the situation is serious, it will lead to infertility, and even if it is pregnant, the fertility will be greatly increased.
Psychologically, most young women have no financial resources and are worried that their pregnancy will be known at home, so they bear a heavy mental burden. Some serious patients will also be prone to depression and seek suicide.
Message: Remember to pay attention to safety at all times. Therefore, both men and women should pay attention to the safety of sexual behavior before and after marriage.
Especially for premarital sex, whether for contraceptive reasons or to prevent sexually transmitted diseases, condoms must be worn correctly. If you have the possibility of pregnancy, you should take birth control pills in time to avoid "self-defeating" and eventually hurt your body.
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References:
[1] Liu Xin, in. Analysis of the number of induced abortions on endometrial damage [J]. China Health Nutrition (next issue), 2013,23 (008): 4202-4203.
[2]20 19-2020 National Survey Report on Sexual and Reproductive Health of College Students was released! China Family Planning Association, 2020-05-06