1, smile

"Many studies show that smiling more (even pretending) can regulate your mood and make you feel safe and relaxed." Nancy Etkov, a clinical lecturer at the School of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, said. Don't believe it? Bite the pencil sideways with your teeth, you can imitate the muscle expression of smiling, and then see if it works.

Step 2 accept compliments

If someone praises you, please smile and thank you. Don't be modest and don't explain. "It feels good to be praised in person, and it doesn't need to be decorated." Judith S. Baker, director of the Baker Cognitive Therapy and Research Association, said. Although modesty is a virtue of China people, it is more pleasant to receive praise.

Step 3 Lose the traditional impression

If a woman realizes that doing something is a man's specialty, the result of doing these things is often very bad. There is an interesting test that women can deal with math problems well at first, but when they are told that men are math masters, these women don't perform very well. What this story wants to tell you is, before you start a new project, throw away the traditional ideas you have in your mind.

4. Stop nagging

Marshall Gold *** ith, author of Mojo, said that when people lack self-confidence, they tend to complicate simple things. "Should I do that? Should I do that? " Stop nagging and make a decision. The big decisions you make will make you feel stronger and more fulfilled.

5. Improve skin quality

Makeup artist Mally Roncal reminds us that there are four areas on a person's face that will reveal your age secret, namely the inner corner of the eye, the outer corner of the eye, the side of the nose and the corner of the mouth. A little concealer can make you look more beautiful.

6. Keep learning

Keep learning, such as a new foreign language, new cooking ... the better you become, the more confident you will be, not only when you do that, but also always full of confidence.

7. Reflection

Studies at the University of South Carolina show that people who meditate for five days a week are more likely to accept themselves. The steps are: after sitting down, concentrate on adjusting your breathing, then think about yourself or something, and stick to it for 5 minutes every day.

Step 8 stop apologizing

How many times a day do you have to say "I'm sorry"? Try not to say meaningless "sorry" 24 hours a day, although sometimes it is purely polite. Baker said that when people feel unsafe, they often say sorry and force themselves to stop this behavior, so that you will be more sure of yourself.

9. Smell the fresh smell

This method is strange but useful. The smell of green apples and cucumbers can effectively reduce anxiety. Allen, the founder of the Taste Therapy and Research Foundation, told us. Spray some perfume of this flavor on your wrist and smell it when you feel stressed, which can effectively relieve it.

10, let the skin catch a breath.

Sleep is very important to reduce skin problems, and those skin problems such as dullness, dark circles and roughness are not unrelated to sleep quality. Amy wexler is the author of The Connection between Mind and Beauty. She reminds readers that sleep can reduce many traces of time and the harm caused by stress.

1 1, stay away from the mirror.

If women spend too much time on appearance, they will be unhappy. Of course, we don't mean that you don't have to care about your appearance, but too much care will distract you from other things in life.

12, tall and straight

This is a compulsory course for the supermodel of underwear brand "Victoria's Secret". No matter how big their bodies are, they are always on the alert. "When I was on a business trip with them, the first thing I said to them was to close my stomach, hold my chest and lift my hips." Kathy Duke said (she is the author of Kathy Duke Fitness and Show It Loves Exercise). It is not easy. It is tiring to keep a straight posture all the time, but it takes hard work to be beautiful.

13, always encourage yourself.

Set yourself some small daily goals, not distant big goals. You can do this by listing what you have done instead of what you haven't done yet, which will make you feel more fulfilled, and then stick to it and accomplish more goals.

14, show yourself some color.

Many people (especially men) think that tanning looks healthier, although excessive sun exposure may be harmful to health. Roncal suggests adding some tanning products to the emulsion, so that you can look energetic and don't have to worry about the damage caused by the sun.

15, discard junk food

Choose vegetables and fish. These healthy foods can make you feel good, because they can make you feel better about yourself.

16, recovering from failure

Failure is inevitable, so be prepared to face it at any time. You need to tell yourself that you may make some wrong choices and you can't do everything perfectly. The fastest way out of failure? That is to focus on the next goal.

17, instantly refreshing

The quickest way to make you look fresh is to remove aged horniness and dead skin. You can ask a doctor for some 20% salicylic acid, or DIY a yogurt honey mask at home. Full-fat yogurt is rich in lactic acid, while honey can moisturize the skin, resist bacteria and diminish inflammation. This mask can make the skin more tender.

18, sweating profusely

Even if you can only go to the gym once a week, stick to it, which will make your body feel more energetic.

19, change hair color

A study by Nottingham Trent University shows that women who dye their hair are more confident at work. "If you dye your hair, you want to be promoted, and you dare to challenge your colleagues and bosses." But don't worry, it won't overload you.

20. Making mistakes is not terrible.

"Other people are more forgetful than we thought," said Mark Leary, a professor of psychology and neurology at Duke University. Accidentally wrestling in a public place, or saying the wrong thing on impulse, or accidentally stuffing a skirt into a public place ... Don't worry, these mistakes won't be remembered for more than 3 minutes.

2 1. Imagine someone like you.

Thinking like this often will make you less nervous when you walk into a room full of strangers.

22. Try exercising.

Physical pain after exercise can make people feel stronger. Fitness coach Duke said: "When my students are exhausted, they will feel better!" When others are exaggerating how hard they have worked, you can proudly say that you have worked harder than her (and you have survived)!

23. Build positive beliefs.

Don't let yourself think that you are not good at a certain sport. The subconscious will make you really can't do it. On the contrary, you should learn to hypnotize yourself and tell yourself that you really want to learn a new language, and you should practice the piano again … it will be more enjoyable.

24, treatment of hand sweat

If the hand sweat is serious, you can seek the help of a doctor for treatment. So you don't have to be afraid to shake hands with others, and it's much easier to deal with strangers.

25. put your wallet in order

Organize your wallet once a week, which is the suggestion of Gretchen Rubin, the author of Happiness Project. Put away your receipts, business cards and waste paper. Such a small thing will make you feel that your life is under your control.

26, stop jealousy

Stop being jealous, it will make you feel insecure. Ask yourself what kind of success you want to achieve. Leary said: Is it really necessary for people to be the most attractive, interesting or rich? In fact, we seldom need to be (and can't be) a perfect person.

27. Please reduce the size.

Using floral perfume will make you feel thinner than you really are. Usually, men think that women who wear perfume are lighter than they really are. Hirsch explained that if you think your weight affects your self-confidence, remember to use some perfume with this smell to help you reduce your worries.

28. Make eye contact

It is the habit of a truly confident person to look directly into the eyes when talking to others. (Inspirational article Sun) Others can't see the sense of security from your words and deeds, and they will naturally find your anxiety.

29. Remember the good things

Recall the wonderful compliments that others have given you in the past few weeks and record them. Take it out and review it when you doubt yourself in the future.

30. Talk more

Baker said, talk to strangers more. In cafes, planes and queues waiting for admission, impressing others will make you more confident in yourself.

3 1, stop procrastinating

Procrastination does great harm to the establishment of self-confidence. Baker said that if you want to escape from a nightmare task, you can start with small things. Once you have done it, you will feel that the big task is not so terrible.

32. Apply lipstick

A survey by Kanebo Cosmetics Company in Japan shows that makeup can make women feel that they have changed a lot. When women see their more confident image, they will adjust their words and deeds to match their confident appearance.

33. Be a volunteer

Many studies have proved that people who volunteer usually feel better about themselves.

34. Don't be listless.

This is not only about your manners, but also about your thoughts. According to a recent study by Ohio State University, slouching at your desk will prevent you from having positive thoughts about believing in yourself.

35. Tell yourself you are still young.

Tell yourself that being younger than your actual age will make you behave younger. The research of a university shows that people who keep the feeling of youth have more confidence in their cognitive ability in the future 10.

36. Donate clothes * * *

This not only helps others, tidies up the wardrobe, but also gives you a sense of accomplishment.

Don't be bothered by slogans.

Research from the University of New Brunswick in Canada confirms that if you are an inferiority complex, repeating the slogan "I am a lovely person" will make you feel worse, because you will subconsciously say "No! I am not! " So, get rid of those slogans and spells, they really don't work.

38. Be grateful

Write a thank-you letter to your parents, or call a friend who invited you to lunch. People who know how to express gratitude are more tolerant of themselves.

39. Blow your hair

Mark Townsend, a stylist at new york Salon, said, "I always blow-dry my guests' hair from the front. Once a person sees that his hair is blown well, his behavior will change-his shoulders will relax and his posture will be light. These are all performances that they think they are great.

40. Walk more.

Girls who walk 3500 steps more than the average person at least three days a week (about half an hour's exercise) will be more satisfied with their personal figure. The researchers found that the more roads women walk every day, the more satisfied they are with their bodies.

4 1, don't be too ambitious

It is said that the happiest people in the world are Danes, because they have correct goals and lofty but unattainable ideals. So, being ambitious is a good thing, but being too ambitious may make you feel depressed.

42. Try new sports

Try a new exercise to make you feel better. No matter what sport it is, self-confidence comes from constant trying, not just the result of success.

43. Imagine that you never existed.

This sounds abnormal, but if you imagine how other people's lives would change if you never existed, you will find your own value.

44. Imagine that you have succeeded.

Suppose you are challenging an impossible task, and imagine in your mind that your performance is perfect. Experts say it is more likely to win in real life.