First, the connotation and influence of life attitude
(A) the significance of life attitude
The so-called attitude towards life refers to a stable psychological tendency and basic views on life problems formed through life experience under the influence of a certain social environment. The attitude towards life is often expressed through language, expression and behavior.
Attitude towards life is part of the outlook on life. What kind of outlook on life a person has, what kind of attitude towards life a person has, often directly affects his view of the whole world and life, which also plays an important role in the formation of personal world outlook and outlook on life. The attitude towards life is closely related to the purpose of life, and the purpose of life determines the attitude towards life. The former points out what a person should do in his life, while the latter explains what a person should do in his life. The formation and change of life attitude is a dynamic process, which is generally influenced by the ups and downs of people's social environment, personal experience, cultural education and psychological factors.
(B) the impact of life attitude on life
In people's life, life attitude, as an internal psychological mechanism that restricts people's life behavior, has a great influence on people's life. On the one hand, life attitude affects a person's understanding of life topics and contradictions, and affects a person's life trend and mental state. A correct attitude towards life makes people treat study, work, career and friendship positively and optimistically. Love life topics such as love and health, and correctly handle emotions, gains and losses, life and death, good and evil. Life contradictions such as honor and disgrace, choose a life path that is beneficial to yourself, people and society, and be a strong person in life. The wrong attitude towards life makes people treat the contradictions in life wrongly, or be self-righteous and self-centered; Or depressed, lost the spirit of life struggle; Or care about personal gains and losses in order to satisfy material desires; Or drag out an ignoble existence, reverse good and evil, and be proud of humiliation. On the other hand, life attitude affects a person's behavior efficiency. A positive attitude towards life makes people seize the day, cherish every minute of life, maintain high behavioral efficiency and realize the greatest value of life in a limited life; However, a negative attitude towards life turns people back to dust and wastes time and life in mediocrity.
Second, the type of life attitude.
As a specific psychological tendency, life attitude can be divided into two categories: negative life attitude and positive life attitude.
1, negative, pessimistic and mediocre attitude towards life. This is a life attitude that denies people's initiative, takes individuals as the center and is irresponsible to others and society. Negative attitude towards life also has some concrete manifestations among a few college students. One is to see through the world of mortals. Its characteristics are that life is meaningless, pessimistic and disappointed with life and society, muddling along and pursuing nothing; Academically, he did not make progress and shouted "Long live 60 minutes"; Life is sloppy and tired, laissez-faire, with no sense of time and discipline; Interpersonal relationship is "wild and unconstrained", which not only laments human indifference but also shows a heart of stone. The second is to pursue pleasure. Among college students, this attitude towards life also has considerable influence. Apart from "consumers who sacrifice their families to make me happy", there are also "pioneers who will become masters", "generals in Shuang Sheng" and "masters who dance in the forest" who ignore campus study. Someone gave such a college student an image description: "Wear famous brands, use brands, eat steak (western food), look at your face and learn to hang a' red card'". They judge things by whether they can bring pleasure and benefits to themselves. If they have something, they will be smooth, and if they don't, they will avoid it. The third is arrogance. People who hold this attitude towards life are self-conscious, conceited, ambitious, pushy, jealous of talents and regard others as "fools" and stepping stones. They disdain to integrate theory with practice, let alone workers and peasants. The fourth is to criticize everything. People who hold this attitude towards life look at everything with colored glasses, are dissatisfied with anyone, and think that others owe themselves and society is unfair to themselves. They always find fault with others, attack the "defects" of society, and complain and blame others all day.
2. Positive, optimistic and promising attitude towards life. This is a healthy and correct attitude towards life, which meets the needs of human development. It is characterized by actively exerting people's subjective initiative, organically combining personal interests with social interests, and participating in social life with a high sense of life responsibility. A positive attitude towards life is the source of strength for mankind to overcome difficulties and obstacles, and it is also the attitude towards life that young college students should strive to establish. As a college student, if you want to live a meaningful and valuable life in the world and truly live a "human appearance", you must treat life with a positive attitude. Living is not only a personal problem, but also related to the development of the country and the destiny of the nation. Young college students should face up to the reality, be proactive, love the people, serve the society, conform to the development of history, and make themselves a person who is beneficial to the society and the people.
Third, treat different life situations correctly.
(A) the prosperity and adversity of life and their influencing factors
People call the smooth situation in the process of pursuing ideal goals prosperity; On the contrary, it is called adversity. Prosperity and adversity are unequal to everyone's "opportunity", which depends on people's objective and subjective conditions.
1. In social life, the situation of life is subject to the social environment and its own objective conditions. The harmonious progress of social stability, economic development, material civilization and spiritual civilization provides favorable conditions for the smooth development of mankind. Among the social conditions that restrict people, some are determined at birth, and some will change accordingly after being reformed the day after tomorrow. For example, a person's birth age, nationality, country and family. Gender cannot be changed. They restrict people from different angles. However, people's working environment or nature can be changed through efforts to make it consistent with their ideal goals. A person can also acquire some abilities through education and training, thus gaining some opportunities for smooth development.
2. The formation of prosperity and adversity is also restricted by subjective conditions. Due to various reasons, people's subjective conditions and abilities are different, such as different knowledge, different cultivation, different thinking ability, memory ability, communication ability and problem-solving ability. A person's good subjective conditions and strong subjective ability are conducive to creating conditions, seizing opportunities and making himself enter a rich life; On the contrary, it is easy to lose opportunities, and may even enter a vicious circle, encountering or falling into major adversity in life development.
3. People's subjective judgment on their own situation is influenced by various subjective factors. Because people have different experiences, different knowledge and different psychological qualities, their subjective judgments on prosperity and adversity are also very different. People with poor psychological quality and lack of life training feel that they have encountered a small setback. And the same setbacks are nothing to those who have gone through hardships. Therefore, different people may have different feelings about the same situation.
4, some accidental factors will also affect people's situation, may change a person's environmental conditions, so as to play a role in a person's prosperity or adversity transformation. However, the role of contingency factors should not be overemphasized, because there is often inevitability behind contingency. Life should grasp those things that can be grasped and have regularity, instead of pinning the hope of success on illusory accidental factors.
(2) Treat life's prosperity and adversity correctly.
People prefer prosperity to adversity. Because under the same conditions, striving for the goal in prosperity is like sailing against the current, and favorable factors such as weather, geography and people are more likely to make people approach and achieve their goals. However, prosperity also has unfavorable factors for people's career development. The relaxed atmosphere and superior conditions in prosperous times are easy to breed arrogance, complacency and complacency, and will decline. The ancients said that "born in sorrow, died in happiness" is a warning to the negative effects of prosperity. Making active use of the favorable conditions of prosperity and avoiding the negative effects of prosperity are two aspects of a problem that college students should pay attention to in their life journey.
Advancing to the goal in adversity is like sailing against the current. Success requires more efforts and hardships. However, adversity only increases the difficulty for people to advance towards their ideals and goals, rather than depriving people of the right to struggle for their ideals and the possibility of realizing them. Things often have two sides. If you strive for your ideal goal in adversity, you may get something that is hard to get in prosperity. Because, for the challenger, the harsh environment of adversity can hone his will, cultivate his character and enrich his experience in overcoming difficulties. When you are in adversity in life, how can you win by fighting?
1, a self-respecting personality. Whether life is good or bad is often difficult to control. But independent personality and dignity are something you can insist on. "Wealth is not immoral, poverty is unyielding, and power is unyielding", which is the principle to be adhered to under any circumstances. With such a code of conduct, we can not be proud in prosperity and not compromise in adversity.
2, dilute personal fame and fortune, so as to be "selfless and generous at heart." A person who is self-centered and full of selfish desires is prone to gain and lose. Many troubles in some people's lives are mostly due to the dissatisfaction of personal desires; When people are freed from selfish desires, they will find that many so-called adversities are just illusions made up because selfish desires are difficult to fill. Moreover, even if you really fall into the adversity of life, you can be selfless and fearless as long as you ignore personal gains and losses and regard honor and disgrace as floating clouds, so as to overcome difficulties and get out of adversity.
3. Stay optimistic and take positive actions. Optimism is the spiritual strength to overcome adversity; Positive action is an effective way to get out of adversity. Without optimism, it is impossible to persist in fighting for a long time in adversity; Without positive action, you will be a blind optimist, and it is impossible to really overcome difficulties and win.
The development of things is not linear, so is the alternating process of prosperity and adversity. People's life often evolves in the alternation of prosperity and adversity. Therefore, when you are prosperous, don't get carried away, because prosperity is only a moment, not a lifetime; When you are in adversity, don't be pessimistic and disappointed, because as long as you have the courage to overcome adversity, prosperity is ahead. Whether in prosperity or adversity, the role of life is twofold. The key is how to know and treat them. As long as you are good at using good times, dare to face adversity and overcome it, your lofty goal in life will be realized.