In real life, most girls are dissatisfied with their looks. These girls always feel that their appearance is not perfect. For example, they often say, "I want to lose weight, I am too fat!" " ""My nose is not high enough, not enough! " "Why is my thigh so thick! "and so on.
Most girls are dissatisfied with their appearance.
According to a survey, in the study of children aged 8 ~ 10, half of the girls feel that their body proportions are not ideal and wish they could be slimmer. 1 female college students have bad eating habits, such as irregular eating time or overeating diet pills. More than half of adolescent girls say they are too heavy and need to lose weight.
Careful parents may find that their daughters pay attention to their appearance from an early age. It is a girl's nature to love beautifully dressed, but if children pay too much attention to their appearance, it will bring a lot of trouble to girls.
Aesthetic Guidance for Daughters
Lily is 9 years old this year. She is a chubby and lovely little girl, but she doesn't think so. She thinks her chubby body makes her lose face. Especially when her classmates called her a fat girl, she gradually stopped eating dinner, so she suffered from stomach trouble at a young age and was extremely unconfident.
It is extremely cruel for girls to lose their physical health and psychological self-confidence because of beauty and ugliness. So, as parents, how should we help our daughter?
Qing Qing, a 4-year-old girl, saw her mother make up in front of the mirror and ran to her mother and said, "Mom, please make up for me!" " "Looking at her daughter's expectant eyes, Qingqing's mother knew that her answer would have a great influence on her daughter. She thought for a moment and replied, "honey, you are the most beautiful, and you don't need makeup." Mom sees many customers every day, and wearing light makeup is a respect for customers. "
If a child asks his mother who is putting on makeup, "Mom, why do you spend so much time putting on makeup every day?" Perhaps most mothers will answer: "Perfect appearance makes me more confident!" "But if you say these words to your daughter, it is easy to mislead her: self-confidence comes from appearance. That daughter will definitely pay more attention to her appearance in the future.
Qingqing's mother knows that her answer determines her daughter's attitude towards appearance, but she euphemistically expressed her opinion: "putting on some light makeup is a respect for customers." Mother's words conveyed to her daughter the idea that makeup is beautiful, but it also varies from occasion to occasion. It is necessary to make some light makeup when dealing with customers frequently. This will not only mislead her daughter, but also make her pay too much attention to her appearance, thus cultivating her aesthetic taste and letting her know how to treat her appearance.
Instill correct aesthetics from childhood.
It is the nature of girls to love beauty, but paying too much attention to their appearance will bring a lot of trouble to these girls and make them escape from their studies. Therefore, parents should pay attention to guidance in this regard.
First of all, tell your daughter that true self-confidence does not come from appearance.
Everyone loves beauty, but the confidence gained by beautiful appearance is not real confidence. Parents should convey this idea to their daughters when they are young, especially those girls who are dissatisfied with their appearance. It is not a bad thing for girls to pay attention to their appearance, but if girls pay too much attention to their appearance, it will easily become a bad thing. Therefore, parents should tell their daughters when they are young that true self-confidence actually comes not from a person's appearance, but from people's full hearts.
Second, parents should pay attention to dressing their daughters appropriately.
When dressing up their daughters, parents should consider their children's age and personality characteristics as much as possible to reflect their nature and health. For example, a child's perm will make his hair yellow and brittle and lose its natural luster. Children wearing tights will not only hinder their development, but also limit their activities. At the same time, too tight clothes will also affect their skin breathing and sweat gland excretion, which is harmful and useless. Therefore, parents can't blindly pursue "high standards" and compare with others. They should educate their daughters not to choose clothes, to dress as old as new, to form a good habit of dressing neatly and simply from an early age, and not to get dirty clothes casually.
Third, parents should not complain about aging in front of their daughters.
Many parents, especially their children's mothers, often nag themselves in the mirror: "Time and tide wait for no man, and they are getting old again!" " "They often worry about another birthday, or they don't want to tell others their age, as if this is a taboo secret; They often sigh because they find a trace of white hair or wrinkles. ......
In fact, this attitude of mothers is wrong. It implies a daughter's wrong idea that a woman is terrible when she is old, and she will lose everything when she is old, including her self-esteem. A clever mother will set a positive example for her daughter and let her children know that everyone living in this world should be respected by others.
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