You can pay attention to the lovers around you. A woman with a boyfriend, if the relationship is relatively stable, often rarely sends a circle of friends, because she does not lack love.
If it is a single girl, I hope someone will pay attention and care. Some people may say that some single girls I know never send friends, so she doesn't need to pay attention. Of course not. She can get attention and care through other channels.
However, why do women sometimes get annoyed at the care and consideration of some men?
This is actually a matter of degree. Some concerns make people feel natural, while others turn into harassment.
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I remember a partner told me his emotional story before. He is very kind to his girlfriend, but in the end, her girlfriend must break up with him and want to save this relationship.
In love, he is really good to his girlfriend and thinks a lot about her. Why haven't you slept after three meals? When do you get off work? Are you tired? ……
He took great pains to arrange all her affairs and regarded her as a flower in the greenhouse.
The flowers in the greenhouse are also very sad, because flowers can only stay in the greenhouse.
What does this sentence mean?
It means that excessive concern is actually not concern, but a strong desire to control.
This is also the reason why he finally became an ex-boyfriend, because women don't want to stay in the greenhouse all the time and don't want to be stared at by their boyfriends every day. Even if two people are in love, they both have their own jobs, their own friends and their own circles. If they only look at each other every day, it will be very uncomfortable after a long time.
In the process of love, we should not only maintain a certain degree of enthusiasm, but also reserve a certain amount of private space for both parties, otherwise excessive concern will only become suffocating control.
Now let's talk about how to care moderately in the process of chasing girls.
1, don't let her think you have nothing to do.
Men have a lot to do besides falling in love, and seeking career development is also an important part.
Some men are too sensitive to every move of women. What does it mean for a woman to keep a circle of friends for a long time and forward an article?
It's really unnecessary. With this time, it is better to read books and go out for exercise.
2. Have a sense of boundaries and don't do anything beyond your relationship.
For example:
If you want to know a colleague who has just arrived at the company, but don't know how to speak, it can be as simple as saying, "Are you new here?" When we meet, we slowly start talking.
You know a female colleague is busy with a difficult project recently and needs to work overtime every day. You can say "Come on" to her when you pass her desk, and then go back to your place.
When you are near the water cooler, ask your colleagues around you if you want to drink water. Both men and women regard every female colleague as a friend. Don't underestimate these little things, they will become lubricants to promote the relationship between colleagues.
It should be noted that establishing a "friend" relationship can help you get to know each other, but this relationship should not last long. Otherwise, if she enters the friendship zone, she will lose patience. If you don't fight, others will fight.
In short, the most important thing to associate with girls is to have a sense of boundaries. Many boys and girls can't even say a few words, so they rush to confess, making girls feel insecure and disgusted, and then they are cold.
Grasp the degree, it is natural for you to be kind to girls, and girls will accept it gladly, and the relationship will be gradual. If you are in a hurry, it is easy for girls to feel harassed, offended and easily screwed up.