(2) "University" III. Explain the chapter in Xinmin: "Therefore, a gentleman does his best."

Gentleman here means "king" and "ruler".

There are similar chapters and sentences in "University", such as: 4. Explain the chapter "Stop at the best": "A gentleman is virtuous and kisses his relatives." The "gentleman" in the book should also be interpreted as "king". So ancient gentlemen also had the meaning of "monarch".

2. The concept of modern people

What is a gentleman?

Also want to borrow the metaphor of the ancients:

Confucius called him a "villain" when he swore, and there is a famous saying that "a gentleman is righteous and a villain benefits." The oldest gentleman

Meaning, mainly refers to educated people with good moral character, while ordinary people have no opportunity to receive education, so they are also with uneducated people.

People with high moral character are also called "villains" ...

What is a gentleman?

To borrow a friend's words:

At dinner, talking about "what is a good man", I asked my friend, do you think you are a good man?

He thought for a moment and said, "I don't know what the definition of a good man is, but I am a man of my word and can be called a' gentleman', because the definition of a gentleman is that he has a sense of responsibility and doesn't promise easily, but he can definitely keep his word." Of course, he will say whatever he says and judge the crux of the matter. In modern society, it is difficult to be responsible for various interpersonal relationships and roles. "

I also thought about it and replied: "In fact, not only men who are trustworthy, but also men who wait on time, don't stand in line easily, and don't act arbitrarily easily, such as' drunken crimes', can also be included as gentlemen and good men!"

In fact, we girls are shouting every day that we should find a good man, have the bearing of a gentleman and have the demeanor of a general. In fact, our requirements are not very high. Unfortunately, it may be difficult for men. Because people who bear the name of a gentleman must be very considerate of the feelings of people around them and take care of their families. Unfortunately, for gentlemen, the details of life they are used to are definitely a burden that they have never really been free and easy.

The benefits of a gentleman

It is popular to say that men are not bad and women don't love them.

Some men like to pretend to be "gentlemen", obedient to the woman they like, and make themselves fall into the gentle trap and make a 180-degree change.

Women are naturally curious animals, so they will feel puzzled, pursue, incredible, love and hate!

In fact, a careful and keen observation of a man depends not on pure superficial gentlemanly demeanor, but on knowing more about his living conditions, treating people with things and whether everyone is equal. Don't believe that the world only loves you and only pleases you. As long as he is kind to you, he will not consider anything.

The faults of a gentleman:

If you really fall in love with a gentleman, I advise you to be prepared to accompany him under pressure, because he will have many friends, a lot of entertainment and even take part in accidental amusement.

At this time, sensitive women will have a very sour taste, secretly admit bad luck, so many men in the world, why choose a gentleman and let themselves pay for him silently?

But I believe that the human heart is made of meat, and a gentleman should know how to be grateful and be full of expectations and beautiful fantasies. Because they are the most perfect in their own world, they have been expecting the perfect you to appear beside him and grow old together.

Gentleman = persistence

Because a gentleman treats things and things with dignity, it is a kind of consciousness that drives him to persist, which we can define as "persistence"

Persistent people will treat life emotionally and always pursue perfection. Because the reputation of a gentleman is gorgeous and glamorous, I sincerely wish such people can stand out, find their own goals in life and find a world of their own!

The Description of Gentleman in The Analects of Confucius

(1) "A gentleman's righteousness is beneficial to a villain." ("The Analects of Confucius")

"Righteousness" means "propriety", that is to say, a gentleman is always on the right path. The villain attaches great importance to self-interest, and it is easy to go astray driven by self-interest.

(2) "A gentleman is wild, and a villain is pregnant with soil. The gentleman is pregnant with punishment, and the villain is pregnant. " ("The Analects of Confucius")

In other words, gentlemen and villains think differently every day.

A gentleman cares about his moral restoration every day, while a villain remembers his hometown; There is always a rule and statute in a gentleman's heart that cannot be surpassed, while a villain is full of small favors.

(3) "Compassion without dispute, group without party" (The Analects of Wei Linggong).

In other words, gentlemen are gregarious. Although his heart is solemn and sacred, he never argues among a large group of people. At the same time, he will never pull gangs and seek personal gain. This is what Confucius called "gentlemen are harmonious but different" (The Analects of Confucius, Lutz). The villain is just the opposite. He is "harmonious but different" (The Analects of Lutz).

In life, we often see such a scene: when we discuss a thing, before the leader finishes, someone will immediately jump out and say, yes, yes, the leader said it well, and there are a lot of praise words such as strategic thinking and foresight; But after the meeting, he will turn to others and say, hey, what is this leader saying? I totally disagree with him!

Regarding the difference between a gentleman and a villain, Confucius has another expression, which is called "A gentleman is not as good as a week, and a villain is not as good as a villain" ("The Analects of Confucius").

Zhou can unite and take care of many people. He associates with people based on morality, so he has many like-minded friends. No matter how many friends a real gentleman has, he will make his friends feel happy and cared for like oxygen in the air. The glyph "Bi" is like two people standing side by side, indicating that the villain likes to form a small circle and he will not blend into a large group.

(4) the sentence magnanimous, a petty man is anxious and worried.. "(The Analects of Confucius)

The villain likes to collude with each other because he has a ghost in his heart and wants to seek personal gain and safeguard vested interests through this collusion. This is what the so-called "nepotism" means. The gentleman is open-minded, because he is calm and selfless, so he can be peaceful and come together with everyone sincerely.

(5) "A word from a gentleman is a promise. Don't say it; It also allows people, this device. It's easy for the villain to say something difficult. Although it doesn't matter, it is also said; It also makes people want to be prepared. " (The Analects of Confucius Lutz)

Say "Yue" and everyone will be happy. A gentleman is easy for you to get along with, but difficult for you to please. If you try to please him by unfair means, he will be unhappy instead. Never say that if you give him a small favor, he will give you the green light and open the back door. When he really uses you, he will arrange a suitable seat for you according to your talents. This is the so-called "device"

The characteristic of a villain is that you can please him easily, but it is difficult for you to get along with him. There are not a few such people in life. For example, if you give him a little favor, do him a small favor, or even buy him a drink, this person will be very happy. Even if the way you please him is immoral and unfair, he will still be happy. But it is not easy for such people to * * *. Don't think that if you win his favor for a while, he will give you a green light loyally in the future. Although you have spent a lot of effort and money to get through the joints, when he really wants to hire people, he will not arrange a job for you according to your talents. On the contrary, I feel that you are not qualified here and there, and everything you have done before is in vain. He will try his best to make things difficult for you and make you feel embarrassed. So it's hard for you to get along with such people.