My work unit is near the university district of this city. There are many rental houses near the unit, and most of the tenants are students from neighboring universities. Rental housing has become the main industry for residents near the university area. Every afternoon after school, pairs of male and female students from the nearby vegetable market come to buy food with kindness and love, which has become a unique scenery near the university area.
With the introduction of the new marriage law, it has become an indisputable fact that school-age college students have the right to marry independently, which has also become a hot topic in the new society and has also aroused widespread debate in society. The attitude of most colleges and universities is neither supporting nor opposing. Therefore, at present, colleges and universities also hold a vague management attitude towards college students' going out to rent a house and live together, and have certain requirements and suggestions, but they do not take a casual approach.
As a special group of adults, college students are not completely independent in economy. At present, their main task in life is to study and accumulate life. Nowadays, people's social concepts, especially the parents of most students, hold a negative attitude towards the phenomenon of unmarried cohabitation of college students. Because in their view, there are still many uncertainties in the future and social orientation of college students, it is a very irresponsible behavior to choose unmarried cohabitation at the student stage.
I don't object to cohabitation, but this kind of cohabitation should be aimed at entering marriage. China's culture and people's mindset, after five thousand years of traditional cultural precipitation, are still very cautious about the concept of marriage and sexual partners. As a social group whose main task is to study at school, college students are fully mature physically, but psychologically, they are not mature enough in their sense of marital responsibility. But also face uncertain factors such as graduation, job hunting and working in different places. This also caused those college students who lived together at school to finally get married together.
Vigor, vigor and personality are the characteristics of contemporary college students, and impulsiveness is also a personality characteristic of young people. It is normal for men and women in love to forget everything and only love is left in the world. In particular, the education system in our country has caused a student to be very nervous and slightly depressed in his student days before he was admitted to the university, and his personality is considered immature. Schools and parents should strictly control him. Being admitted to the university seems to have completed a major event in life and suddenly relaxed. Most college students enter the university campus, which is the first time in their lives to live independently, and the feeling of growing up is particularly strong. Independence and self, freedom and space are the primary goals pursued by these young people who have endured the exam-oriented education for 12 years.
The colorful college life, the openness and vitality of college life and the strong attraction between young people of the opposite sex will all become the reasons for college students to fall in love. People in love can't wait to be together every minute. Because of the rights granted by law, it is also a violation of human rights for the school to interfere too much in students' private lives, and the management position of the school is also very embarrassing, which has also helped many college students easily enter a new era of cohabitation. College students who have entered the new era of cohabitation will have an impact on their lives, whether from their own psychology or from the public psychology, if they cannot enter the marriage hall together in the future. Perhaps this is also the price for college students to mature. There is no criticism of "love plot" and "hymen repair surgery" here. Philosophically speaking, "existence is the last word", and their existence should give college students some hints when making their own life decisions.
My unit recruits a group of fresh college students every year. Among these college students, I only met a pair of lovers. They gave up the opportunity to go back to their hometown for love, stayed together and entered the marriage. What I see more is that in the face of severe employment pressure and social reality, there are too many tears of separation and lovelorn, as well as concerns that gradually disappear.
If we compare marriage and cohabitation from the perspective of economics, I think marriage and cohabitation are both contractual behaviors, marriage is a written contract notarized by law, and cohabitation is an oral contract. Although both parties to the contract are full of sincerity when concluding the contract, there are still great defects in the seriousness and rigor of the oral contract during the execution of the contract.
So I want to remind my dear college students here, please be careful to enter the new era of cohabitation, and don't leave scars and shortcomings for yourself in such a beautiful youth.