In love, we often say, don't care too much about who pays more and who pays less, because when you care, you also hurt each other's feelings.

The premise of two people's love is to give to each other.

If there is no such relationship in marriage, then this marriage must be meaningless. If you think your marriage is meaningful, don't care too much.

But in real life, many women think that they have to pay more than men, because after marriage, they should not only take care of their families, but also their jobs. It can be said that both body and mind are ready.

Really?

Xiaobei still thinks that men pay more than women, because he not only has to entertain all kinds of pressures outside, but also carries all the burdens of the family on his shoulders. Isn't it because men take care of that warm home?

In fact, more and more people think that marriage will be happier if men pay more than women.

Because only when men pay more than women can women feel the sense of security from men and make women warmer to men. Then, marriage will naturally become happier.

However, if a woman pays much more than a man in marriage, she may be warm and happy in the eyes of a man who loves her, but in the eyes of other people in her husband's family, she often becomes "cheap" and "upside down".

Moreover, women who pay more than men in marriage are often looked down upon by their husbands, resulting in their lack of status in the husband's family.

I don't think there should be a woman who wants to be seen so much.

In fact, there is another point. Men living in such an environment may be grateful to women for their efforts at first, but after a long time, they will inevitably look down on this woman who has done a lot for themselves like family members.

For those who regard women's paying too much as "upside down", or men who never cherish women's paying for him, he doesn't deserve happiness at all, nor does he deserve women's paying, and he doesn't understand the true meaning of happiness.

02

Ming Xiu (a pseudonym) is a girl who grew up in a city. It can be said that Xiao Mingxiu's family conditions are better, and Ming Xiu is an only child, so she has been living happily and growing up carefree.

My parents didn't put any pressure on Ming Xiu in all aspects. They just wanted Ming Xiu to be happy.

Ming Xiu and the program (a pseudonym) met at the university. At that time, Ming Xiu was a blank sheet of paper emotionally. She yearns for the beautiful love mentioned in the book and is willing to pay the price for it.

In other words, Ming Xiu at that time had no scheming at all, just a simple "silly white sweet".

Because of this, the program is very friendly to Ming Xiu.

Originally, in front of Ming Xiu, the program felt inferior and dared not confess, because the family conditions of the program were different from those of Ming Xiu.

The programmer lives in the countryside and his parents are farmers. The conditions are not good, let alone a luxurious life. Even the tuition of the program university is a student loan.

But Ming Xiu's sincerity and kindness gave the program great courage. Unexpectedly, after the confession of the program, the two really came together. Moreover, Ming Xiu belongs to the kind of person who has loved once.

After graduating from college, Ming Xiu followed the procedure and came to the city where his hometown was located. For this only child, parents just want her to be happy. Reluctantly, they finally respected her decision.

The parents of the program are really happy and proud that their son can find this good wife.

Before getting married, the parents of the program were really good to this "prospective daughter-in-law" and had nothing to say. And Ming Xiu to "in-laws", nature is also very filial.

However, when they got married, Xu Chengjia couldn't get much bride price. Moreover, it is almost impossible to buy a house in the city. This made Ming Xiu's parents feel a little embarrassed.

They only have one daughter, and they don't want her to suffer with men after marriage.

However, Ming Xiu has always insisted on marrying the program. In this way, the two families finally discussed it. Ming Xiu's parents agreed not to pay the bride price, and they also planned to marry off the house and car. However, their condition is that the car and house are the property of Ming Xiu before marriage.

03

In fact, Ming Xiu's parents don't despise the program and his family. That is, they want to do their best to leave a guarantee of happiness for their daughter. In this way, they just want the program to be good for Ming Xiu.

Ming Xiu and the program's wedding, most of the money also comes from the Ming Xiu family, because Ming Xiu's parents think that a woman's marriage is a life-long event, and they want their daughter to hold such a wedding, so they want to make it grand.

Xu Chengjia has no money, so naturally it can't be too grand, so the money can only be paid by Ming Xiu's parents.

At that time, the marriage between Ming Xiu and the program was widely circulated in the hometown of the program. Everyone said that the Hsu family had married a good daughter-in-law, and their parents were happy from ear to ear, and they were happy. He just graduated and has everything, so he doesn't have to wait for struggle.

Therefore, he vowed to cherish his daughter-in-law, love her and love her.

At first, their marriage was really happy, and the parents of the program loved this daughter-in-law very much.

If we say that the chief culprit of the unfortunate procedural marriage, then it is the sister of the procedure.

As a sister, she should be happy to see her brother so happy, but I don't know why, she just doesn't like his wife.

Let me think about it. The only thing that can be explained clearly is that my sister's marriage is unhappy and she finally divorced, so this may be the reason why she doesn't like other people's happy marriages.

Her husband is not good to her, so she can't see other women enjoying her husband's love, even her brother and sister-in-law.

So every time we are together, as long as we see the love between our younger brother and sister-in-law, she will always be cynical.

Originally, the program didn't like his sister's behavior. If it was before her daughter's divorce, the parents of the program were not used to her daughter's behavior.

However, since their daughter divorced, they have been distressed by their daughter, but they dare not say anything, for fear of stimulating their daughter. They have been telling the program that they should be more tolerant of their sister.

Since my sister divorced, the program listened to her parents and let her leave. However, they don't care. In the end, the deterioration of the younger sister of the program and her cynicism are all on Ming Xiu. The inaction of the procedure eventually led to the divorce of the two.

04

The sister of the program didn't divorce, but only met occasionally, but because of the divorce, she didn't want to go back to her parents' house, and she was ashamed. After all, those uncles and aunts in the countryside like to talk about these things behind their backs when they have nothing to do.

So the sister of the program went to her brother's house.

At first, the program thought that her sister came and could help cook and clean the house, but they thought it was great.

After the program's sister came home, instead of helping, she found fault. Ming Xiu will be with her at first. Sometimes, the program and Ming Xiu want to go out for a romantic meal. Considering that my sister is alone at home, they have to take her with them for fear that she will be uncomfortable.

But even so hard, they didn't get along well in the end.

Even sometimes, the sister of the program scolds her brothers and sisters like an elder.

For example, if my sister-in-law doesn't want to get up in the morning and let the program make breakfast, my sister will directly reprimand my sister-in-law: "As a woman, you should know how to keep a house. If you can't do these things well, what else can you do? " Don't let my brother think he married a vase, okay? "

Facing her sister's words, Ming Xiu hoped that the program could say something, but the program just looked at it and said nothing.

Afterwards, he said to Ming Xiu, "My sister just got divorced. Please treat her more. She won't be like this when she is in a good mood. "

Unfortunately, Ming Xiu didn't wait until her elder sister-in-law was in a good mood. Just one day, Ming Xiu was still at work and received a message from her elder sister-in-law, saying that she wanted to eat spareribs.

But that day happened to catch up with Ming Xiu's busy work, so Ming Xiu went back late and forgot that her elder sister-in-law wanted to eat spareribs.

After returning home, Ming Xiu saw her elder sister-in-law sitting on the sofa and was obviously angry. She squinted at Ming Xiu. At this time, Ming Xiucai remembered the information of her elder sister and explained it quickly, but her elder sister didn't listen.

She also said, "What do you want? What do you think of my sister's words as nonsense? Turn a blind eye, deliberately come back so late. Aren't you an impostor? Don't you just like to post backwards? Aren't you happy to let you buy some ribs? "

After hearing what the elder sister-in-law said, Ming Xiu suddenly became angry. She returned to menstruation angrily and said, "This is my home. I can do whatever I want. Want to eat ribs, pay for it yourself. It's not like you have no hands or feet. You are a guest at most in this family, and I am the most important hostess in this family! "

05

Originally, Ming Xiu didn't want to fight with her elder sister-in-law, but the elder sister-in-law didn't like everything about herself, and the more she accommodated, the more embarrassed she became.

Elder sister-in-law looked disdainful and said contemptuously to Ming Xiu, "Hey, let's see what you can do. Marry my brother, but you are upside down. What family status do you want? Return it to the hostess? I think you are a born girl! "

Sister-in-law's voice just fell and Xu Chenggong pushed the door and came in. When Ming Xiu saw the program coming back, he probably heard what the elder sister-in-law said outside, so he should be able to defend himself. But the program just glanced at Ming Xiu and said nothing.

Finally, Ming Xiu asked the program angrily, why didn't he say a few words for himself at a critical time? She also asked the program to send her sister back to her mother-in-law's house immediately, but the program advised Ming Xiu to stop doing so now.

That is, the program's preference for elder sister-in-law completely angered Ming Xiu. She cocked her head and said with a wry smile, "am I fooling around?" This is our home, not your sister's maiden. She came to live at home. I thought she was your sister, so I was patient and treated her like a guest. But what about her? She said I was selling goods. Don't, I don't want to marry you, not understanding you, but I want to marry into your family?

If her own marriage is unhappy, she can't stand the happiness of others, can she? Isn't this too overbearing? I have seen shameless people, but I have never seen such shameless people, even shameless people. You see, since she came home, when have I stopped her? She pushed her luck and called me a maid.

I tell you, I married you, not because I am cheap, but because I pity your family for not being able to afford so much money. "

Maybe Ming Xiu was too wronged, so he didn't know what to say to the program. As soon as her voice fell, the program slapped her in the face.

The program glared at Ming Xiu, gnashing her teeth, and said, "Who is shameless? I tell you, no matter how bad she is, she is also my sister. How many times have I told you to make way for her? Can she make you lose a piece of meat by saying those words, or what? "

The slap on Ming Xiu's face by the program took a lot of effort, so Ming Xiu felt a sudden burning pain in his face.

Ming Xiu covered her face and snorted. "If it doesn't work, it's your sister. Okay, so you followed your sister. Get out, both of you! "

Yes, this house was originally married by Ming Xiu's parents to Ming Xiu, and when they got married, Ming Xiu's parents also made the program and his parents promise that they would not consider this house.

The program seems to have forgotten this now, so he indulged his sister and embarrassed his wife.

No one in this world owes anyone and is good to you. She loves you, not cheap, not upside down. Because she trusts you and thinks you love her as much as she loves you, she is willing to pay so much.

However, you not only connived at others bullying her, but also slapped her inner love for you and erased it. You are really a capable person!

06

On the same day, Ming Xiu called his parents and drove the program and his sister out of the house.

In the evening, the parents of the program came to apologize and slapped the program in front of Ming Xiu. But all this shows that in any case, Ming Xiu is determined to divorce the program.

In the eyes of many people, this may be a trivial matter, not to the point of divorce.

But in Ming Xiu's eyes, during the time when she was bullied by her elder sister-in-law, she turned to the program for help more than once, but the program never preached to her elder sister-in-law to restrain her.

Moreover, even more chilling for Ming Xiu, just when she couldn't stand quarreling with her elder sister-in-law, the program finally stood on the side of family, instead of putting the woman who loved him first in her heart.

What's more, Ming Fan was directly slapped behind the program.

A slap in the face seemed to be provoked by Ming Xiu's careless words, but why couldn't the procedure at that time be seen? Ming Xiu how much injustice in my heart, just can have such words?

After all, love, which has always been said, is not that important in front of family. "No, she's my sister", this sentence is enough to show that on the question of right and wrong, a man like the program will still ignore love because of his family.

This is what Ming Xiu saw in her eyes, so her heart is cold.

Maybe all this is their own fault. They regard the kindness and tolerance of others as weakness, and the ambiguity of the procedure led to the breakdown of his marriage.

In marriage, no one is cheaper than anyone else, and the one who pays more just loves much more. However, what she paid was not the chip you bullied her.

So, please cherish the woman who is willing to pay more, because she loves you in her bones.