Yes, there is no deskmate in the university, and there is no deskmate in my school. There is no fixed deskmate, no fixed classroom, no fixed teacher and even no love. As for freedom, fuck it, I can only say this, because the beauty of the university you yearn for is really just what you expect. Of course, it is not that the university is so bad that it can only be scolded. We can look at the children who have just finished the college entrance examination in high school with materialist dialectics, and we should discuss what ideals the university has together.
I guess all the children who didn't go to college, like I did, described all kinds of beautiful things about the future, girls who smiled beautifully in cotton skirts, handsome guys who played basketball well, energetic young schools, gentle teachers, positive and upward style of study, holding a favorite book, reading their favorite song "To Oak" to the people they liked, and most importantly, they finally got what they wanted through hard work. My name is printed on the new book, and the title is.
Yours may be different from mine, but it must be that the corners of your mouth are rising.
There are girls in reality, but they don't wear cotton skirts anymore, and they smile beautifully, but not for you; Handsome boys generally don't play basketball, and teenagers who play basketball will pass you with sweat; The teacher's gentle performance is that he can talk a lot even if most people in the class are asleep. After a semester, even if you never attend his class, he will still smile at you politely, because he can't remember your name at all. School spirit, study style and school magazine will be printed clearly; You will also find that you will soon have a boyfriend when you see a good-looking girl in military training. If you tell others that you like oak trees, maybe they will suggest that you watch Tiny Times in the newly-released "polished rice country". If you can't control your expenses, you may not even be able to afford a movie ticket. As for the most important part, it may be forgotten the fastest, because there are too many facts in college. Anything can beat you. You want to do something for your reason. After a long time, you will naturally forget your dreams. When life bombards you with a gun, you may think of your own ideals that have been buried for various reasons. Maybe it is more appropriate to change it into a dream? This is just a dream.
However, if you live, life always pays off. If you lose those ideals that sound impossible (now many people call them "desires"), you will find a lifestyle that suits you.
love
Just like the story told at the beginning, there are no deskmates in the university. In my opinion, there is no love in college.
Many people will object to such words, because they think that love in college is the purest, and there are not so many material requirements. I estimate that people who say this are all men, and they are all men who are frustrated in society and can't find a girlfriend. I naively thought that college was a paradise, and it was easy for beautiful girls to catch up. Little girls who don't have much social experience are really easily moved and may appear at any time. Every day there are good morning and good night greetings, some sweet words from Baidu, and some small gifts. If you are not particularly ugly, and she happens not to be amazing, you can basically gain a life in which two people seem to love each other. No more Dean chasing you in the Woods with a flashlight. Your parents seem to acquiesce in your behavior, but you think you can eat together and go out to play together. Never. You will quarrel over a little thing, and you will forget what you really need to learn because of each other's existence. After graduation, you will break up easily, but you still don't understand how to tolerate yourself who has been frustrated repeatedly in society, and you won't learn what real responsibility is. You take it for granted that only the girl you like can walk hand in hand, but if you still ask your parents for living expenses one year after graduation, will you feel that holding her hand is not so firm? Some people will say that it is better to be a girl. You are wrong. This era has long changed. No one can live a good life without hard work. Don't be jealous of those rich second generation. They don't work hard, but their parents work hard. If a girl doesn't have a good skin, if she doesn't have a little knowledge, how can you live a good life with a good man with your bad temper and complaints anytime and anywhere? Only by standing at a certain height can you meet people at that height, and so is love. I never think that the feelings of three to five years are love, and true love is waiting for you to walk through the storms of life. If you don't have enough wisdom and good self-discipline, what will you exchange for the happiness of love throughout your life?
University, whether it is three years or four years, what we should really learn is to manage ourselves well, make ourselves better people and be able to do what we want. Freedom doesn't mean to do whatever you want, but when others ask you to do something you don't want to do, you have enough capital to say no without paying a painful price. You can marry a girl who loves you, or you can marry a man you admire, instead of being persuaded by three aunts and six grandmothers to spend the rest of your life with a "good man" who others think is almost the same.
friend
I equate this word with "interpersonal relationship". Wherever we go, we will meet a group of people, have a good relationship with someone, or hate someone to the bone. So, don't care too much about your relationship with someone, especially in college. Sometimes it can be changed with a little skill, because everyone is trying to learn to communicate better with others. Only you are not too much, don't touch the bottom line of others, and are willing to take that kindness as a signpost. You seldom meet roommates or classmates who want to kill you.
Many people are absolutely the center in their own homes, and the university time is your own. Unless you are a man of the hour on campus, few people care about what you do. You can sleep all day playing online games, or you can bury yourself in the library. No teacher will inform your parents, even if you fail in the exam, you have to make up the exam. You have to go to the campus announcement to see the make-up time yourself. This is freedom. Generally speaking, you will make friends with people who do things in a similar way. (Of course, it is also possible that you imitated the lifestyle of some people in order not to isolate yourself. There may be students who wear clothes all year round, students who buy clothes for a week, people who have a meal of three yuan, and people who have a meal of three hundred yuan. What you have to do is not how much a meal costs, but how to get along with them.
As for you, it is a personal hobby to befriend the counselor's student union or get on well with a few friends, and it has nothing to do with morality. As long as you don't do things that harm others and don't benefit yourself, there will generally be no big problems. Whether your friends will help you or not has a lot to do with your choice in college. University is the process of discovering your weaknesses and providing you with an environment and opportunities for change.
life
The thing in life is nothing more than a little desire, wanting to do something, wanting to live a better life, having three or five friends to play, having a close lover, giving some hope, disappointment, happy laughter, sadness and quiet for a while. This is what I understand. Of course, I know that real life is not that simple. You can look forward to it in the university campus. College life can also be very simple. You are simple, and your world can be simple. Work hard and you won't be mistreated. I don't believe in cause and effect, but I do. A kind person's life will never be too cruel to him. You are busy losing weight, keeping fit, putting on makeup and graduating from college. If you are actively keen on the student union and various societies, then your words and deeds will definitely fall behind those students who have been doing nothing for a long time when you graduate; If you concentrate on your major and make it exquisite and excellent, then you must not be too sad when you graduate; Even if you don't miss a movie or a novel every day, you can pretend to be a literary youth after graduation. Finally, if you do a little bit of everything like me, congratulations, I guess you will be half a cripple like me. There is a popular saying on the Internet, which probably means something like this. No matter whether the college entrance examination can get you to the school you want to go to, you will meet a group of people and an environment, and then spend your youth.
University, what is a university? I believe that everyone who has never been to college has a different definition. I'm just here to give you my own experience, otherwise you'll really feel "you didn't go to college, but you did." There is really no deskmate in the university. As for love, ideals and friendship. You will have the answer if you come to college yourself.