As we all know, the purpose of parents' banquet for teachers is nothing more than to make teachers pay more attention to their children and let them make continuous progress. Of course, there are also banquets that really respect teachers and emphasize "thanking teachers for their kindness". The original intention is good. However, have parents ever thought about it? Is the entertainment teacher really good to children?
I am a teacher with many years of teaching experience, and I have a better understanding of the students' situation. Generally speaking, students in a class can be roughly divided into three types: excellent type, medium type and problem type. These three types are all jujube stone-like, excellent type and problem type are at both ends of jujube stone, accounting for only a few, and medium type is mostly in the middle of jujube stone. However, no matter what type of students, teachers will treat them equally, and parents don't need to entertain teachers. The reason for this is the following：
First, for excellent students, parents think that hosting a teacher can make their children "icing on the cake" and "outstanding". To tell the truth, this kind of students have high self-esteem. Parents may regard the teacher as a kind of gratitude, but this will inevitably put pressure on their children. Because children's academic performance is sometimes like "stocks", which is normal. However, if a teacher is invited, a respected teacher will be greatly discounted in the eyes of children, which is not conducive to the formation of children's values. Moreover, parents will have more worries after entertaining their teachers: Is the teacher strict with their children? Did the teacher help the child when he encountered setbacks in his studies? Children's grades occasionally regress. Did the teacher forget my party? Anyway, if you are not afraid of 10 thousand, you will be afraid of one thousand, which is not good for your child's normal study and growth.
Second, for middle school students, children's academic performance is average, and parents invite teachers to dinner. It is nothing more than hoping that teachers will care more about children and pamper them. Perhaps teachers in all subjects will spoil them, and children will also enhance their self-confidence so that learning will really make progress. When children's grades improve, their self-confidence will be greater and their potential will be discovered. It is not impossible to make rapid progress. In fact, in class management, every teacher wants to make the total score of his class among the best in the grade. Ordinary classmates are often called "classmates along the route" and are potential stocks. Every teacher will try his best to tap the potential of "students along the route" to improve their grades and strive for perfection.
Thirdly, for problem students, parents of such students have no choice but to entertain teachers, because their children have poor study habits, are addicted to the Internet, or play truant and fall in love. Parents think that bringing their children's teachers together to discuss countermeasures and combining family education with school education at the dinner table seems that their children will get well at once. There is a saying that is very ugly. As the saying goes, eating people is soft-spoken, taking people soft, but words are not rough. Once the teacher accepts the parents' dinner invitation, the teacher may not be "soft" but "hard" to the students. Doing everything possible to pull the problem students out of the quagmire may be counterproductive.
In fact, the school management class requires the class teacher and subject teacher not to leave any student behind, because the school should quantify the score of class management and rank teachers according to their academic performance, so teachers dare not take it lightly in management; And out of conscience and professional ethics, teachers will not ignore students who ask questions. No one wants to be that "lax and lazy" teacher. What parents should do is to fully cooperate with teachers and educate their children not to cover up their mistakes. There is absolutely no need to pay attention to eating and drinking.
Fourth, respect the teacher, "Thank you for your kindness". It should be said that this is the courtesy of the parents of the students to the teachers, and they want to express their respect for the teachers through banquets, but in fact it is often counterproductive and not enough.
In short, parents really don't need to entertain teachers. Usually, we only need to cooperate with teachers to cultivate children's good habits, and pay more attention to children's moral education on the basis of paying attention to their academic performance. This is the key.