The survey results show that the criteria of mate selection of contemporary college students tend to be rational. "Charming appearance and money will give you a lead at the beginning of the marriage race, while wisdom and kindness are the factors that will play a role after the race begins." The survey also shows that honesty, reliability, friendliness, good education, good health and a strong sense of responsibility have a great influence on both boys and girls. Of course, there are also significant differences in mate selection criteria between the two sexes. Among them, boys value appearance and chastity more than girls; Girls value honesty, reliability, affection, good education, strong sense of responsibility and family economy more than boys. This is similar to the so-called "love in the city" in traditional society.
Education on the concept of marriage and love should be an integral part of sex education. Therefore, we should make full use of sexual health education, while popularizing sexual knowledge, we should seize the opportunity to guide college students to establish correct sexual concepts, abandon vulgar views on marriage and love, ensure the healthy growth of college students, and make them play their due role in promoting social progress and building a harmonious society.
Men are under great pressure, and their mate preference changes greatly.
Researchers at Trier University in Germany say that stressed men may prefer the opposite sex who looks different from them. This research result was published in the Journal of Biology Branch of the Royal Society on June 5438+00.
French President Nicolas Sarkozy and supermodel carla bruni, Hollywood actor Tom Cruise and his wife Katie Hall Moss, and Hollywood stars michael douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones are all "different kinds" of star companions, according to the Daily Telegraph. The new experimental results may explain why their looks are quite different.
Previous research results show that men and women usually prefer the opposite sex who looks similar to themselves, and feel that such opposite sex is more trustworthy. In addition, men are willing to find a partner who looks similar to their mother, while women prefer a spouse who looks similar to their father.
Experiments on mice and flies show that stress can change mate preference, but no experiments have been done on people before.
Although the experimental results show that men may prefer to choose women with different looks under pressure, researchers are not sure whether this is in line with real life.
As for why the results of stress experiments are like this, the researchers said that stress may stimulate men's desire for "external reproduction", that is, women with different genetic characteristics have offspring.
So, what are the criteria for stressed China people to choose their spouses?
Husband standard: practical and interesting
Because all the men in Beijing live in Huangchenggen, they have heard of it and felt the rich cultural background there. They are easy-going, don't haggle over every ounce, and can enjoy themselves in various environments. Whether it is abalone, sea cucumber or cucumber Zhajiang Noodles, you can enjoy life, which is an important foundation in marriage. Without a strong utilitarian heart, we can live practically. If a man thinks about "luxury cars and mansions" all day and has no time to communicate with his wife, it will cause indifference and contradiction between husband and wife. Of course, if you live this unremarkable life all day, it will be boring for a long time. At this time, the advantages of men in Beijing are reflected again.
"In the past, old Beijingers loved to raise flowers and birds, and they loved to go to the theatre and visit the garden." Peng Guoqiu, deputy director of the Department of Psychosomatic Medicine of the First Affiliated Hospital of PLA General Hospital, said that this kind of life interest is also very attractive to women. Women always want their lover to spend more time with them, instead of facing "wood" or "money-making machine" all day. Two people together for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions. The eloquence of men in Beijing has played a great role, and a few words can make women happy. This kind of coax is often just right, not "glib", but humorous. Women are more sensitive, get angry quickly, and soon get angry. It depends on what method you use. An expensive gift is not as useful as a kind word.
Wife standard: dress sweetly and take care of your family.
Chuanmeizi can be a man's "popular lover". Dr. Peng Guoqiu said that generally speaking, Sichuan girls have white skin, good figure and can dress up, which is of course an important aspect to attract men. Men are mostly "visual first", especially women who have become mothers. If they feel that they let themselves go in order to take care of their children and family, they will definitely make their husbands feel tired. After all, beautiful women have more confidence in marriage.
The premise of dressing up is to "save money and be decent" like Chuanmeizi. When you go to Sichuan, you will find that not all Sichuan girls are famous brands. They wear gold and silver, and simple clothes can also wear charm. In addition, Sichuan girls are "sweet-mouthed", and they can observe words and feelings, and they can talk to people's hearts. This is an important skill for marriage. Many women often complain about the bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but they complain when they do too much. Most of the reasons are that women can't speak, so if they want to have a harmonious family, they must first "learn" to speak.
Grasping a man's heart, grasping his stomach first, this is what Sister Chuan knows best. Most of them can cook good dishes, and they will never stay away from the kitchen for fear of smoky fire. Women's eating habits affect the health of a family. Learn some nutrition knowledge, mix meat and vegetables properly, and go to the kitchen under the hall. This is the charming woman.