This is a sad thing. Next, similar news appeared, and students' tuition fees were cheated to death.
I hate liars and blame operators for inaction. Why should the regulatory authorities go? These are all external reasons. From the internal reasons, some people say that girls are too fragile. But a simple "too fragile" can save this girl's life? Can you explain/kloc-the life of a girl aged 0/8?
Xu Yuyu is only 18 years old. He was born in poverty, studied hard all the way, and was finally admitted to the university. His life has just begun, and he suffered a blow at a beautiful moment. Flower of life suddenly withered!
What destroyed her young life? It is the self-reproach brought about by the poor tuition fees being cheated at home, the strong self-reproach of being ashamed of her parents, the incomparable fear of tuition fees, the helplessness and helplessness of hating liars but being helpless, and the concentrated explosion of sadness and superficial strength but inner fragility accumulated by her over the years.
A young flower of life withered like this, and we sighed and felt sad. For a poor family, her parents suffered such a change, which was 1000 times and 10000 times more painful than ours.
However, when we mourn, should we think about how hard it is for poor students, represented by Xu Yuyu, to grow up? What kind of burden is this road of learning from the bottom?
1. Parents' hard work, they can only study hard.
For poor families, it takes a lot of effort to train a college student. Parents have no formal jobs and can only do odd jobs. Hard-earned money is the source of bringing home the bacon. Seeing the hard work of parents, sensible children can only study harder. They try their best to study.
Xu Yuyu is such a child. She used an old-fashioned Nokia mobile phone and was absorbed in her studies. She is often the first in her grade. I used to be such a child, without a rich family, only a hardworking single mother. I understand that studying hard can change your destiny. I understand Xu Yuyu's learning and enterprising spirit, because there is really no other choice!
I didn't see what a mobile phone looked like until I graduated from primary school. From junior high school to senior high school, I didn't have a mobile phone, so I used a public phone to contact my family. It was not until 20 1 1 that I got my first mobile phone in my life. I forgot to eat and sleep in middle school, and I tried to be the first in the exam. Now I don't even have the time and qualification to write this article. If I didn't go to college, I would probably be an ordinary working girl, and my life began the cycle of parents.
However, how many poor students are sensible, strong and study hard. When others play, they are reading books and doing problems, while when others go sightseeing, they are helping their parents do what they can.
2. Narrow vision before going to college
I didn't travel before I went to college. My footprint only reaches the main city of Chongqing. Beijing, Shanghai and Shenzhen are just place names to me, which only exist on the map.
I used to think that some places should be mountains like my hometown, and the traffic is mainly on foot. I studied high school geography, learned about plains, plateaus and deserts, and learned about the wider world. I also learned about many big cities and many new things. However, I have no money to go out and have a look.
When I graduated from junior high school, I had my own qq. Some students have talked about space logs before, I don't know. They talk about traffic, and I don't know what it is. I envy them for listening to music on mp3.
The burden of poverty weighs heavily on young people.
Because there is no more money at home, although I like music, I can't learn a musical instrument. Guzheng, piano, a few hundred yuan a class charge makes me daunting. I have never studied musical instruments, danced or played chess. You can say I can't.
I can use it for free except my own voice. There is no charge for the call. It is my choice to practice reciting and self-study as a host.
After going to college, other girls are all piano level 10, dancing beautifully, or playing guzheng very well. Compared with them, alas, I am like an ugly duck.
Before I went to college, my only skin care product was baby cream. When I went to college and saw my roommate's skin care products and cosmetics, I realized that girls need to dress up.
I dare not buy books easily before I go to college. Although I love reading, I often use weekends and holidays to read in bookstores. My family, teachers and friends gave me birthday presents. I just want extra-curricular books. As a result, students said they were immersed in books since childhood, but rarely read them carefully.
4. Vulnerability in a seemingly powerful environment
Xu Yuyu, like me before, is a diligent and enterprising child. This strong and sensible, partly from their own understanding, partly from the family environment and living environment of persecution. For a long time, diligence, optimism and cleverness have been our labels. However, when we cry quietly, we can only carry others' backs.
When I first went to college, I got up the courage to buy a bike as a birthday present for my 18 years old, and finally realized my childhood wish. But one winter day, my car was stolen. That night, I looked around crazily, anxious, wronged and uncomfortable. Can others understand it?
My classmates comforted me and said, forget it, buy another one. But that's 200 yuan's money. It's my living expenses for half a month. When I say it's gone, it's gone Self-reproach, helplessness and even despair make me sick in the cold winter.
Seeing Xu Yuyu's news events, I can really feel her anxiety, remorse and helplessness. But I can't help her.
4. Parents don't have good psychological counseling
After Xu Yuyu died, her father said sadly, "If I had known, I wouldn't have taken her to the police station. Just let her cry. " . Maybe crying all night will be fine. "Parents with low academic qualifications don't understand how fragile teenage girls are. They don't know how to guide them, nor how to comfort and guide them better.
The girl's pain, despair and helplessness were not relieved in time, which eventually led to stagnation in her heart, and death took away Yuyu's life.
Parents are the closest and most trusted people to their children. Without the strong psychological support of their parents, they owe their parents and blame themselves, and the psychology of youth bears too much pressure. When this pressure accumulates, a fuse is enough to make young lives disappear.
If poor students can only try their best to get into college, then Yuyu has reached the starting point of this road. Unfortunately, she will never see her dear family or the long-awaited university campus again. I can only wish the jade in the sky less burden, no more regrets and rest in peace.
For the poor students who have been admitted to the university and studied well, don't be sad and closed again. Life before 18 is decided by parents, and life after 18 is your own effort.
In college, studying hard is the most important thing. Good grades can get scholarships, laying the foundation for future research. However, in addition to learning, college is more about feeling and contact.
As far as my personal college experience is concerned, I would like to share a few points:
1. Don't win or lose purely by grades, especially let go of the so-called "first place" complex. University is a diversified stage, you can get good grades, you can be active, you can be good at writing planning books, you can also be good at joking and forming cross talk clubs. As long as you are willing to participate, you will always find your stage.
2. Use your own ability to work and study and earn money to realize your wishes. Tutoring, selling, helping people write copywriting, acting as a campus agent and so on. According to your ability, try to find a suitable part-time job, which can not only exercise yourself, but also earn a little money.
3. Read more books, such as philosophy, literature, psychology, history and so on. Find your own direction in the book. Books enrich the soul and nourish life.
4. Be happy from the heart and tell yourself that I am strong and I can shape the life I want. Psychologists say that human beings are the only animals that can accept hints. Give yourself positive psychological hints and live a happy life.
Franklin once said: poverty itself is not terrible, what is terrible is the thought that you are doomed to poverty or must die of old age.
Poor students have experienced physical and mental torture caused by poverty for more than ten years. Don't let the narrowness and isolation of poverty in your mind trap future years.
Everyone tries to live a better life. This is especially true for poor students. The beauty of fate lies in knowing that it is impossible, but it is still worth fighting for. You may not succeed if you work hard, but you will not succeed if you don't work hard and challenge.
From poor students to independent life in the future, I hope that we will no longer be so afraid and closed, experience the tempering of life, be able to resist sadness and suffering, see the essence of life clearly, and have a calm mind of losing money temporarily.