Showed as arrogance and self-esteem; Seldom care about others, only emphasize the feelings of self; Lose your temper regardless of the occasion; Raise yourself and belittle others.
② Jealousy: it is an unfriendly, hostile and hateful emotion towards others' achievements, reputation, morality, superior position and vested interests. It has the characteristics of universality, concealment, proximity, sociality and frustration.
Explain that people around you are stronger than themselves and unwilling; Don't want others to succeed. The objects of jealousy are often close classmates or even close friends, which are generally hidden in their hearts.
③ Doubt: Doubt is a complex emotional experience of distrust caused by subjective speculation.
It is manifested in subjectively setting others to be dissatisfied with themselves, then looking for evidence in life, imposing facts out of nothing, and even misinterpreting others' goodwill as malice. Skeptics often lack trust in the environment, others and themselves, and are easily dominated by closed thinking.
4 Inferiority: Inferiority is an emotional experience that is not as good as others because of too much self-denial.
It is manifested in the psychological state of underestimating one's own ability and quality, belittling oneself and worrying about losing the respect of others. It is a serious psychological obstacle that affects college students' interpersonal communication.
Everyone has an inferiority complex. Only when this sense of inferiority reaches a deeper level and affects normal learning progress and interpersonal communication will it be considered as a mental illness.
⑤ Internet interpersonal barriers:
Internet interpersonal communication is a new way of interpersonal communication in cyberspace. If college students get along with computers for a long time and hide in the network society, there will be problems such as network emotion and network interpersonal communication, which will lead to interpersonal emotional alienation, interpersonal trust crisis, individual soul closure and other problems, and even lead to psychological obstacles in network interpersonal communication.
Overcome:
To establish a good interpersonal relationship, we need to adjust and adapt from the following aspects.
Master the skills of optimizing interpersonal relationships and cultivate a confident attitude towards life.
First of all, we should learn to optimize our personal image, pay attention to gfd, be clean and tidy, have a natural hairstyle, have moderate makeup and dress appropriately.
Secondly, in interpersonal communication, we should pay attention to gfd, so as to stand straight, sit dignified and walk calmly and harmoniously.
Third, we should cultivate a good interpersonal mentality, be physically and mentally healthy, confident and happy, control emotions, have a calm mind, talk elegantly, pay attention to listening, pay attention to occasions and objects when speaking and doing things, and care about the enthusiasm of others without "crossing the line". Finally, learn to praise others, be patient and always smile.
② Correctly understand the interpersonal relationship on the Internet and cultivate a true attitude towards life.
First of all, we should learn to use network tools correctly to avoid the disconnection between the real world and the virtual world.
Secondly, we should correctly treat the relationship between reality and fiction, get in touch with real people in real life, learn to deal with interpersonal relationships and feel the warmth of friendship, so that we can better integrate into society after leaving college.
③ Correctly treat the value of life and cultivate a philosophical attitude towards life.
Different mentality constitutes different communication combinations. The root of jealousy lies in selfishness, that is, both sides are self-righteous, unpleasant and blame each other. If we can overcome selfish distractions, fully understand ourselves, see clearly our strengths and weaknesses, reasonably adjust our cognition and expectations, discover and develop our potential, and constantly improve our pursuit of life, then jealousy will not arise.
④ We should follow the general principles of interpersonal communication.
Treat others equally, be tolerant, be mutually beneficial, abide by honesty, abide by the golden rule of interpersonal communication (don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you) and the platinum rule (don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you), start from studying the needs of others, treat everyone as an important person, grasp the "degree" of interpersonal communication, adjust your own behavior, and let others get along with yourself with your own wisdom and talents.