Falling in love in college is a common thing, but it is really nerve-racking to deal with the problems of study and falling in love correctly, but it is not impossible. Our monitor is a boy from a poor family, but he works very hard and studies very well. His girlfriend has a good family, but she just likes our monitor. They urged and encouraged each other, and their academic performance was the top two in the class, and they never wavered. So I mean that when two people are in love, they must have a correct attitude. Even if you have the right attitude, your other half will be infected by you. So don't worry that falling in love will delay your study. The key is that you should take the lead and lead your other half to learn. You can't be blinded by love. After all, it's only in college. It is hard to say whether it will succeed in the future. Don't delay yourself or others.
I hope you are happy! ! As one of the basic emotions of human beings, love is an old and often new topic, and it is also a hot topic of "sleeping with the party" in college dormitories. A large number of facts have proved that the love that fascinates and fascinates college students most is also the biggest "source of troubles" for college students. How to treat love correctly and how to deal with the relationship between love, life and career is of great significance to the growth and progress of college students and their future family happiness. First, put the position of love right-love is precious and the cause price is higher. The word sparkling love has opened the hearts of many young men and women throughout the ages and written many beautiful and touching chapters. Beautiful love stories such as butterfly lovers, Romeo and Juliet, Marx and Yan Ni are celebrated by the world. It embodies people's desire for happiness and perfect love and their pursuit of lofty and sacred love. There is no doubt that love is an indispensable part of human social life and occupies an important position in life. For the young college students in Seeds of Love, love is the "poem and sun" of life. On the advantages and disadvantages of college students' falling in love
"Which young man doesn't love, which young woman doesn't love spring." College students in their prime must be full of romantic fantasies and longings for love. With the change of people's social concept and lifestyle, the problem of love has penetrated into all aspects of college students' study, life, attitude towards life and ideals. The maturity of adolescent sexual function and the awakening of sexual consciousness have caused subtle psychological changes of college students. In this small society where 65,438+08-23 young people gather, the phenomenon of college students' love has changed from hiding half of their faces behind guitars to openly wandering in love, which has become a real problem on campus. After college students crowded across the single-plank bridge, their study pressure was relieved, and they had more leisure time after school to face a brand-new and colorful college life. After a short period of novelty and curiosity, a long homesickness will haunt you. In addition, most college students in China are only children, and their ability to live independently is relatively weakened, and they have little experience in collective life. It is difficult to adapt to the double pressures of study and life for a while. Once the purpose of learning is not clear, it will inevitably lead to emptiness and boredom. Look at the seniors around you. Love will attract these empty college students with its unique temptation. Whether college students' love outweighs the disadvantages or the disadvantages outweigh the advantages has always been a matter of opinion. People who hold the view of approval say that college students can care for each other in their lives when they fall in love; Promote each other spiritually, comfort each other and relieve homesickness; Encourage each other in their studies, improve together, and promote the self-motivation of both sides. From the sociological point of view, there is no harm in college students falling in love, and allowing college students to fall in love at school can avoid the increase of unmarried older women at high levels in society; From a medical point of view, once a female student who falls in love at school enters the society, it is the physical maturity of women in age, and marriage and childbirth are beneficial to both individuals and society. Those who disagree believe that college students fall in love during school, on the one hand, they enter the world of two people too early, and their energy is too scattered, which is not conducive to the cultivation of self-motivation and will seriously affect their studies; Secondly, it is often difficult for college students to grasp the accuracy and moderation because of many contradictions and great setbacks in the process of love. Although college students are physically mature, their psychological development is unbalanced, their mood fluctuates greatly, and they are easy to get emotional. Once you are lovelorn, if you can't get reasonable emotional counseling, the consequences will be unimaginable. Thirdly, college students in love have a strong tendency in interpersonal communication, and often alienate their original partners or even the collective, which leads to the estrangement between classmates and affects unity. The sense of responsibility for the collective is also replaced by the affair between men and women, which is not conducive to the shaping and growth of individual roles, nor to the development of the collective; The employment trend is also a sensitive issue that has been bothering college students in love. Although it is said verbally that "I only care about what I once had, but I don't care about eternity", is it "bye bye" for an old Yan to fly from west to east after graduation? To sum up, we think that college students' love still does more harm than good. Psychologists abroad have proved that 20-24 years old is the best age to study in a person's life, and the years after graduation of China college students are not only the heyday of a person's intellectual development, but also the key period to lay the foundation for his future career. Three or four years of college life is short and precious. Young college students should not spend their prime time in love, but should aspire to success. When they succeed, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Classification of advantages and disadvantages of college students' love: emotion
The advantages and disadvantages of college students falling in love are positive;
Hello everyone! First of all, it is clear that the advantages of college students falling in love outweigh the disadvantages for the following reasons:
First of all, as a college student, I should be able to bear the pressure of love.
Secondly, college students falling in love can arouse their sense of responsibility.
Third, the university is a small society, and all reasonable things can happen.
Therefore, the advantages of college students falling in love outweigh the disadvantages.
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Don't thank each other. Didn't the debaters find their own serious mistakes in logic? What makes you say that college students can bear the pressure of falling in love and their sense of responsibility to society is cultivated by falling in love? Obviously, this is absurd.
I have such a set of data here. The annual mortality rate of college students is 1.97%, of which 90% commit suicide, and 70% commit suicide because of family ties, which is much higher than the rate of suicide because of family ties in society.
I want to ask other debaters why they can say that college students can bear the pressure of love. In addition, I don't deny that personal responsibility can be cultivated through love, but it is only a small part and most of it comes from boring and entertaining magazines and novels.
Think about it. How can a person who enjoys happiness in love have a sense of responsibility if he can't see his future clearly? Finally, the other party also admitted that it is a small society, which is different from society. This is not a real society.
Reasonable things can happen there, but not everything is reasonable! Used for:
How do you know that college students can't stand the pressure of love? How do you know that a person in love will not strive for the future because of love? It is true that the university is a small society, and a small word distinguishes it from society.
It is not a real society, but it is a microcosm of the real society. In this society, all reasonable things can happen, but not all reasonable things, but love is reasonable.
So the advantages outweigh the disadvantages:
First of all, let's look at the topic, college students fall in love. Actually, it's hard to say, and it's not like my brothers said before. Actually, let's think about it. We are in college, especially in the early days.
I believe our relationship is not very mature. Are they really full of that kind of love? So love in many universities is immature. The main purpose of going to college is to study. Of course, some schools no longer set obstacles to falling in love or even getting married, but this does not mean that the advantages of falling in love outweigh the disadvantages.
When two people fall in love, they must first sacrifice each other in time. I don't believe that two people can be consistent in everything. If so, then these two people can't live together. Second, love needs to be cultivated by irrigation, and it takes two people to think of each other, which will definitely distract some energy; Third, when two people fall in love, compared with most students, they will spend less time with everyone and lose many opportunities to exercise their abilities.
Of course, in reality, falling in love certainly has advantages and disadvantages. The advantages may be as the classmates said before. There may be psychological encouragement and hints, but in general, there are still few people who can handle relationships well in love. Why is the success rate of college love so low? Maybe this is the reason!
To sum up, I think college love still does more harm than good.
But I also encourage you not to miss the opportunity. If you lose something, you may not get it back! )
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Our view is that falling in love during school should do more harm than good! ! My reasons for objecting are as follows:
First, the starting point of our actions or activities in college comes from the support of our family. During school, several people have the ability to gain economic independence, and talking about a love will cost a lot of money. In other words, your chic at school and your sweetheart are all behaviors based on the sweat of your parents.
Secondly, we can't say that our college students are physically and mentally immature, but we still have to admit that a large part of love in college is still at a loss! The purpose of two people together is not purely for feelings or a goal. I found that there is such an incredible and unacceptable phenomenon in the university campus. What is this? Attention, everyone, if more than half of the people in a dormitory fall in love, then the rest will soon find their sweetheart, as if they are comparing themselves. So, is this love reliable? Don't tell me anything that feels like an alarmist, but if you carefully consider the behavior of people around you, you will find it is true! !
Third, love in college is not pure love to a great extent, but is based on material feelings and depends on the material cycle between two people. This feeling can't help worrying.
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Fourth, if two people are together, everyone will lose their enthusiasm for participating in collective activities to a certain extent, which is likely to cause strangeness with classmates to a great extent, which is not conducive to everyone's harmony! ! !
Fifth, if two people are together, it is likely that the good result will be that two people make progress together, but most of the lovers we have met rarely have this situation. When two people study by themselves, they are actually chatting and doing other things. Time is a little bit, all glued together, and the time for reading and studying is there.
Sixth, we see a situation where everyone likes to rent a private house outside when there are two people. I dare not say that there is anything wrong with this, but as far as safety is concerned, it has caused certain difficulties to the management of our school and also posed a certain threat to our personal safety. Some time ago, several unsafe accidents in Zhangjiagang were so early! ! ! Against:
I don't quite agree with my opponent. As my former friend said, I want to ask some questions:
One: "Attention, everyone, if more than half of the people in a dormitory fall in love, then the rest will soon find their sweetheart, just like keeping up with the joneses. Is this kind of love reliable? " I admit that this phenomenon does exist on university campuses, but if we look at it from another angle, why just compare? Why don't those people always find one themselves?
Two: If the love of college students is based on material feelings, is it pure love after leaving society? I think we all know what women in society look for first when looking for lovers. Although they will look at that person's non-external conditions, such as appearance and personality connotation, what do they pay more attention to? The answer is yes-money. If college students' love is impure love based on material, then social love is even impure love based on money! If the other debater said so, wouldn't there be many more "single aristocrats" in the world?
Three: the other side argued that the problem of college students living outside was touched. This situation is often seen. Maybe it's a bit of a threat to security. However, college students are no longer children. Will you live in a school dormitory after entering the society in a year or two? Another debater took a hand to several accidents in Zhangjiagang. But why don't you think about it again? Not only do many people in society rent houses outside, but don't they pose a security threat? Even if you live in your own home, is your safety really not threatened? So this can't be used to prove that college students do more harm than good in falling in love.
1. I often hear a sentence describing college love: young love. Because of immaturity, because I don't care about many realities, I am green, so Plato. Because of this, I think it is beautiful, and simplicity is a kind of beauty. Love is a pure feeling in people's hearts. There are always many steps in life that you can't take, and what you want can't be stopped. The romance in your youth can't be bought for thousands of dollars. Learn to love, learn to bear failure, and experience all kinds of separation and reunion before human growth becomes meaningful. Life has two heads, when it comes and when it goes, we can't grasp it, so we should take this process calmly and don't give it a heavy burden too early. Love is love for no reason, but it makes people more willing to live! Only when you fall a lot can you really grow up.
Second, love will not affect learning. Love is a positive motivation, sharing, giving, responsibility and mutual appreciation. Please don't equate desire with love.
Third, college students need guidance in love. Whether the advantages outweigh the disadvantages or the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, what I want to say is that everything has two sides. See how you walk and what kind of mentality you have.
Finally, I want to say: love. If you meet! Go find it, he (she) is waiting to see you! Against: 1. Our psychology is not yet mature. Are you sure you can afford to fail? Besides, is failure just failure? After failure, we will stay in the shadows for a long time, and even some people will never get out again. Look at the performance of lovelorn people. Can't we avoid such a thing?
Two. How can love not affect learning? Of course, if you don't study at all, that's another matter. You should spend most of your time with your lover in the normal time before falling in love. Where does time come from? I have to spare a lot of energy to think about you dear, where does this energy come from? There are people in love who don't quarrel. What will your mood be like then? Can you study in that mood?
Three. Who will guide you? Who will take the initiative to find someone else to guide you? What you said is completely unrealistic. If you get something, you will lose it. When you are complacent in love, look at what you have lost. See if it's worth it?
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There are advantages and disadvantages for college students to fall in love, so before we know this, we should understand what love is. In this conversation, I learned that in their eyes, love means washing clothes, shopping, spending money and time. I think this represents the love view of contemporary college students to some extent. Who knows that life is precious and love is more expensive! Obviously, love nowadays has been misunderstood. Love is not spending money and time on clothes. Is it because Meng Jiangnv cried the Great Wall that her husband accompanied her shopping?
Love is an emotion, an input and a part of oneself. Love is more about giving and responsibility. To make matters worse, all the students think that the key to the pros and cons lies in whether falling in love is useful to them. The criterion for judging the pros and cons is not whether it is useful to yourself. Love is an emotion. Since it is an emotion, it cannot be suppressed. The problem is that no one loves for love's sake, but they think too much about other factors.
Similarly, there are people who love for other purposes. Of course, I understand that love cannot be bread, but bread cannot be love! In today's society, love is no longer noble and pure, but has already become a tool. Finding a rich boyfriend has become the general trend of girls. However, I think there are still some people who are still pursuing that sincere love.
I think college students do more harm than good in falling in love, because college is a microcosm of society. We just walked out of the greenhouse of high school, still pure. How can we resist the corrosion of society? Let's grow up first, find out the relationship between bread and love first, or get bread first. This is from a big perspective. Growing up, we just walked out of high school and were curious about everything, including love. College students don't fall in love, but talk about-falling in love, falling in love for love's sake. The existence of love at first sight is undeniable, but the probability should be small, and there are many people who fall in love after only knowing each other for a few weeks in college. (Because there are some phenomena among my classmates), this is also the trend of falling in love in universities, so both sides want to fall in love and hit it off, which is mutually beneficial. This kind of love is not beneficial to study and life, wasting money, energy and time, not thinking about each other, and everyone thinks that each other exists. Perhaps, my first lover doesn't agree with me, but a person who has experienced it won't deny my statement.
Of course, I don't deny the existence of pure love, and of course I shouldn't object, but I still think the disadvantages outweigh the advantages. It can be said that when we first went to college, our psychological age was very young, our thoughts were immature, and we were unable to deal with the problems brought by love. Therefore, you should think clearly before falling in love, knowing that falling in love is not a kind of gain, but more a kind of pay and a kind of responsibility. Sometimes not loving is also a kind of love. If you do, I applaud your sincere love and courage. After all, love is above life, but courage alone can't solve the problem. You should calm down and deal with all kinds of problems correctly. I think the reason why the disadvantages outweigh the advantages is that I think many college students can't correctly handle all kinds of problems brought about by love. To be exact, I think that falling in love too early in college is a positive side that does more harm than good:
When you have a lover, you will know what you will be like. Different people are different.
If you are a high school student, you can do anything without affecting your study.
Against:
Our time is limited, and falling in love will affect your communication with your classmates, won't it? Used for:
First of all, we must make sure that our topic is the pros and cons of college students falling in love. What is a college student is that he has his own thoughts, his own logical thinking and his own opinions, and he can accurately judge the pros and cons of a thing.
Therefore, falling in love in college is not just as simple curiosity as primary and secondary school students, but is fun.
We are college students. If we fall in love in college, we can encourage each other, lay a good foundation for our tomorrow and be moved by each other. Not only will it not delay learning, but it will also move us to learn and let us have a better tomorrow.
Do you know how college students come? Of course, apart from trying to get good grades, who else depends? It's your family, parents. They don't want you to be romantic there, and they don't want you to bring one more person back to repay them. Does falling in love cost money? /take time? Spend your youth? College is a good opportunity, and you won't come back after it. So why bother? For the sake of your family and friends, do your study well first, and then you won't be afraid of the person you like, right? Against:
College students just want to grow up in school. Can falling in love make them understand more and hurt more? Come to college to get all the good things, so you have to do something. Some things depend on fate, not importune. Used for:
When you meet it, put down your heart and love it! As long as you stick to your ideal, you will have the most beautiful! !
Some things can't be retrieved once they are lost. Don't let yourself regret for a lifetime! ! ! ! Against:
So if this person is not the one who can get along with you for a lifetime, is it necessary? Does it make sense? Only oneself is sad, isn't it? Yes, if you can't let yourself regret it, you must choose rationally and don't regret it.
Although it didn't come to the end, it did, and it was beautiful. From a psychological point of view, falling in love is also the psychological need of our time. Don't you think it's a pity if you once loved someone and thought too much about practical problems and didn't fall in love?
Regret? Then I have to ask what is the real regret! After vowing to study hard under the ivory tower, do you regret forgetting the significance of coming to college? Is it because you can't find a job after graduating from college and regret spending too much time in love? Is it wrong to regret too much under the expectation of parents?
When we hesitate to find a lover to meet our psychological needs, our psychology itself has become obscene and disrespectful. We didn't know there were compatriots struggling on the poverty line under the same blue sky! Used for:
Love is the inevitable choice of human beings. It is impossible for a person not to fall in love. As big brother said, love in college is the most sincere love. Although it is blind for college students to talk about love, I still support college students to fall in love. Against:
Are we talking about whether the advantages outweigh the disadvantages or the disadvantages outweigh the advantages? We are not discussing whether college students should fall in love. Moreover, according to reliable statistics, the failure rate of college students in love is 99%. The psychological quality of most college students is not yet mature. In the face of the blow of failure, several people can cheer up immediately, and more is a long time, wasting a lot of valuable study time! Used for:
Agree with the positive view: the love of college students is different from that of primary and secondary school students and high school students. College students' cognition has reached a certain level, and they will consider the future. If two people really come together, there is no need to emphasize, they will understand what should happen in the future. Besides, love is not equal to marriage. Love itself is beautiful and worth pursuing. Although everyone has different ways to deal with love, it is one-sided to deny the value of college students' love! Against:
If the advantages outweigh the disadvantages, should schools promote dating? In this case, is it detrimental to the appearance of the school? Are people who come to school, including your parents, surprised to come to this school? ! Well, this is a school that educates people with books! ! It is purely emotional education. Really going to be a school! ! ! Isn't it a bit like a marriage agency? Some people spend more than half an hour polishing a pair of leather shoes. What a lie "shoes are not bright, love has no direction"! ! How nice it is to spend these hours on study! Used for:
Hugo, a famous French writer, once said that there are two times in life: the first time is the day you start living; The second time, it was on the day when love was born. With the footsteps of youth, love will quietly come to young people. With the maturity of sexual psychology, the desire and pursuit of love will naturally sprout in the hearts of college students. University is the golden age of a generation of spoiled children. In this season, the bud of youth makes them start to set foot in another field-love source. First love is a great change in the emotional world, a revolution in the structure of life and a renewal of ethical consciousness. From the perspective of individual development, love can greatly promote the maturity and perfection of teenagers' psychology.
First of all, love is an important way for young people to release their increasingly strong sexual impulses. Contact the opposite sex through love, so that young people are no longer depressed and nervous about sexy. Secondly, the development of sexual consciousness can only be perfected through the stage of love. Sexual identity should also be established through love. Moreover, love means more to young people than that. Because love is the deep contact between two people's personalities. In this process, young people's self-concept is developed under the influence of each other. They really know how to adjust their own defects to adapt to each other while maintaining their independence. In other words, after falling in love. Love is of great significance to the development of certain personality factors and social emotions. Moreover, the deep communication between the two people in love has laid the foundation for improving young people's communicative ability and adapting to the future society. No wonder some psychologists believe that love is the most important event in the late adolescence and early adulthood. Only after falling in love can people really mature. Against:
I agree with the positive view. First of all, college students fall in love for the exercise of entering social marriage in the future, so as not to be confused after entering society. Secondly, college students can enrich their emotional life by falling in love. It can be said that high school is not allowed to fall in love, which makes many people depressed and they need to be free. Thirdly, college courses are much looser, so most students begin to lose themselves in the game. Instead of spending time there, it is better to lay the foundation for their marriage. So I think the advantages of college students falling in love outweigh the disadvantages.