College roommates and boyfriends have been in love for six years, and the bride price of the woman's mother is 390 thousand, but the man's family can't get it out, which is a tragedy.
Two people began to fall in love from college and lived together after graduation. They think they can live happily.
Roommate and her boyfriend are a major in our university. Judging from her appearance, her roommate belongs to that lovely type of girl, very simple. When I was a freshman, my boyfriend took a fancy to her and took the initiative to chase her.
I still remember when her boyfriend confessed, he bought a lot of candles and balloons, put a heart under our dormitory building, and called many classmates to help. The scene is very lively and the atmosphere is very good.
The roommate agreed to him directly on the spot, and they started a love affair. Before we fell in love, my roommate ate with us every day. Later, she didn't even have to go to the canteen, because every day when her boyfriend arrived at the restaurant, he would send her meals as long as she went downstairs to get them.
At that time, two people stuck together, sat together at work during the day, and went to the library to read and study together at night. Both of them belong to that kind of good boy type. Both of them study very well and have won scholarships for four years. Although this man is not handsome and a little short, he is honest and diligent. If his roommate wants to buy things, he will earn money in his spare time and then buy things for her through the money he earns.
Every once in a while, my roommate will send a courier to the dormitory. This man cares about her in every way. Once, my roommate felt unwell in the middle of the night, so he rushed out to buy medicine and sent it to our dormitory. It was still winter and it was snowing outside.
The next morning, before the door downstairs of our dormitory was opened, he bought porridge and eggs for the housekeeper to take to his roommate. We were really touched when we saw it.
The man's hometown is in Fujian and the woman's hometown is in Jiangxi. After graduation, they discussed going to Hangzhou to find a job. At that time, when we graduated, we all teased them and told them to get married quickly, otherwise something might happen in the future.
At that time, my roommate called us a crow mouth, but I didn't expect it to be a slogan. We were right.
However, at that time, all of us thought that nothing could separate them. After all, the relationship between the two people is so good, and that man has a really good temper. Sometimes my roommate is angry, and he always coaxes her. And sometimes my roommate doesn't like washing his clothes, so he will take them back to the dormitory to help wash them, then dry them, fold them and bring them back later.
Therefore, all of us think that they will get married and start a family within one or two years after graduation. However, I didn't expect everything to happen as expected.
When talking about the bride price, my roommate's family actually asked for 400 thousand, and said that they were all like this there
What I'm saying now is what my roommate told me after they separated.
The man's family conditions are average, his mother left early, he was brought up by his father, and there is a younger brother at home. As for my roommate's family, there is a brother whose parents are in their hometown in Jiangxi. They have been farmers all their lives and have no savings.
After the two graduated, the man engaged in the internet and his roommate switched to accounting. Both of them are ordinary office workers, scrimping and saving. Only three years after graduation did I save 654.38+10,000 yuan.
From the beginning, my roommate's parents didn't like the man very much, just because the man was from Fujian, and the old couple didn't want their daughter to marry far away. However, there is nothing I can do about my daughter, so I turn a blind eye.
On May Day last year, the two met their parents for the first time. At that time, my roommate was also worried. Before that, she had quietly asked her parents how much the bride price was. Unexpectedly, her parents accused her of asking such questions, saying that she had turned her elbow outside before she got married, which made her roommate very sad.
Later, she asked her brother quietly, and her brother said that 166000 is usually enough. As long as you live well, it's nothing.
The roommate told her boyfriend the number of bride price she learned from her brother. After listening, the boyfriend told his family that his father said he could pay 654.38+ 10,000 yuan, and the rest he hoped the man would pay himself. The man is quite successful and can bite his teeth.
So, both parents met. On the day of meeting, the man's parents bought a lot of things and then took the bullet train to his roommate's house. That evening, the two sides went out for dinner.
At the dinner table, when talking about the wedding, my roommate's mother said that according to their local rules, the bride price should be at least 399 thousand, and there should be three gold and one silver. When you get engaged, you have to pay 99 thousand yuan first, which means 99 thousand yuan needs cash. Then, the remaining 300 thousand should be deposited in the bank, and a passbook should be mounted and sent to me when you get married.
In addition, some red envelopes and gifts should be prepared and distributed to all relatives of the woman when she is engaged.
Hearing these words, the faces of roommate boyfriend and his father immediately sank. Didn't we agree to 166000? Why is there another 230 thousand at once? This is too much.
The bride price of 400,000 yuan is simply astronomical for the roommate's boyfriend's family. How can we do that?
But fortunately, at the dinner table, the man's father was calm, then ate with a smile and went back by car the next day.
Roommate's mother wouldn't let her see her boyfriend, and the man came to her house to apologize, but it didn't help.
After this meeting, my roommate and her boyfriend had a big fight over the bride price. The man's family really can't afford so much money, and his roommate also told her mother, but there is no way.
Therefore, this matter has been dragged on. Her mother said that she would never allow her roommate to get married without the money. Moreover, this money is not allowed to be taken away by her roommate. It is used by her parents as pension money, and her roommate knows it very well.
My roommate had a long argument with her parents. Finally, her mother saw that she didn't want to give up, so she simply locked her up and wouldn't let her go out of the house, and she was not allowed to work in Hangzhou again. She is still at home and asked to be introduced to her.
My roommate collapsed at that time. On the one hand, she loves someone; on the other hand, she is her parents. She doesn't know what to do.
Later, my roommate's boyfriend resigned and bought a lot of things to discuss with his roommate's parents, hoping that the bride price would be less, because the family really could not afford that much money.
But who knows, after seeing the man, the roommate's mother kicked him out of the house directly, and even refused to let him drink a mouthful of water, let alone let him see his roommate.
This time, it completely broke the man's heart. After he returned to Hangzhou, he also returned the house and went back to his hometown. Up to now, he is still in a slump and doesn't go out to work every day. I heard that the whole person just stays at home every day in a daze, and doesn't talk to others, doesn't go out and has no friends. He cried all the time when chatting with his roommate occasionally. He even complained that his father had no ability to earn money, which made him lose to reality. Many people say that men nowadays have become a little demented because they are greatly stimulated.
His father was angry, too, and had all kinds of troubles with him. He felt that he had worked hard to raise a son, but he didn't expect to become like this for one person, which really made him feel chilling.
However, roommates are not much better. She can't find a good job by staying at home. She refused all the blind dates arranged at home, and she didn't want to go. She is also very nervous about her parents' concern, and she will start all kinds of quarrels without saying a word.
Until now, they still can't get out, and they don't know what will happen in the future. The sky-high bride price ruined a seven-year love. They could have worked happily together, but it turned out to be a peaceful world.
Why does the sky-high bride price exist?
The existence of sky-high bride price is not a matter of one or two days. There are even pictures of bride price circulating on the Internet. Although the exact amount is not allowed, it also roughly reflects a phenomenon that the price of bride price is very high in many places.
Many people joke that it takes three generations' savings to get a wife.
The reason why many parents want high-priced bride price is actually to find a guarantee for their daughters after marriage, for fear that their daughters will be wronged after marriage.
It is right for parents to fight for the protection of their daughters, but it is not only the bride price that can be protected. The appropriate bride price may be protected by her daughter, but the sky-high bride price will only make the two people who are going to get married bored with their families, even destroy the feelings between young people, and finally end up in a bad mood.
A sense of security does not necessarily come from money. Many times, the sense of security also comes from the other person's character and personality.
Finally, the bride price is just a ceremony. Give more and give less, depending on the family situation, and have skills. Never ruin a marriage because of the bride price.
Old people often say: it is better to break a bridge than to break a marriage.
Let the sky-high bride price no longer become a cancer that destroys marriage.