"I don't know. I can't stand him. I am angry with him and always miss him. "

Want to talk about a hot topic.

To be honest, I have seen many people asking questions about love topics on various platforms recently. The key point is that these problems are all based on the epidemic situation. For example, in the case of many contradictions in the epidemic situation, what should couples do if they feel that there is no topic to talk about or whether to break up? My first reaction to this kind of question is really a pity. I guess they think the cause of the epidemic has destroyed love, but in essence, two people will not maintain a relationship.

In fact,' under the epidemic' is only a special case, but we find that problems that rarely or even will not occur at ordinary times have occurred during this period, so many people will blame couples for breaking up because of the epidemic, but it is not. Even if it's not because of the epidemic, if you don't keep close relationship, something will happen sooner or later.

For most couples, the epidemic has forced them to become long-distance lovers who have never experienced long-distance love. Usually, people with rich communication methods can only chat through the screen, and it is inevitable that many people will not be used to it, which will lead to conflicts. If it is not handled properly, it will lead to a breakup. After all, it is because of the epidemic.

Think carefully, why are there more couples breaking up at this time? One is that there is no physical interaction through the screen, and the way of communication can only rely on words. The more leisure time everyone has, the more likely it is to cause conflicts, and there will be real personality defects. I won't mention them. If you choose a separated couple because of the first kind, it means that you are only suitable for falling in love together and can't learn long-distance love.

It probably means that you have to meet before you can fall in love, otherwise you can't accept it and break up in conflict.

To tell the truth, the way to treat feelings is a bit immature, and such feelings are too fragile to manage.

No relationship can stick together every day and surround you all the time. When you enter the society, you will understand this sentence better. There are many things that you can't do if you want to.

I also understand that these couples feel like a hot sentence before, "any quarrel and conflict only stems from my wanting to see you." Yes, if you don't meet, you will lose a lot of contact, you won't feel each other's breath, and you don't know what he is doing at the moment. All this is because you care.

However, mature love must transcend all kinds of external influences. In my opinion, it is a pity not to break up because I don't love.

Then let's get back to the topic and talk about how to maintain the intimate relationship across the screen under the epidemic.

First of all, we should know that intimate relationship includes six characteristics: understanding, caring, interdependence, mutual agreement, trust and commitment. These are the key points. People in love can understand that two people begin to develop in depth on the basis of mutual understanding, first falling in love, and finally love. This is a process in which two people start to depend on each other, determine the same development direction, trust each other and make a commitment before they can finally come together.

Then let's reflect on whether we have achieved these points. Most couples may be able to do these things in the early stage, but as time goes by, they often forget them. You see, many breakups in life are due to disagreement and lack of trust, all because they have not achieved these six points.

In fact, it is not only love, but any kind of relationship can be applied to these points. Robert Jeffrey Sternberg's love theory includes commitment (cognition), intimacy (motivation) and passion (emotion). These three factors are equally indispensable. In love, it is because two people have passion that they can be intimate. Intimacy will naturally give each other a promise. These are all interlocking. I think passion is the foundation, and the other two points can be derived.

Let's look at five languages to express love: affirmative words, meticulous moments, accepting gifts, service actions and physical contact.

We all love to hear compliments from others, and so do couples. Many times, when we first got together, two people appreciated each other's praise. After a long time, there were only complaints and criticisms. This is also because the longer we get along, the truest ourselves will be exposed, but we only love each other's advantages and can't accept everything that can't be called love.

Personally, I realize a truth in my feelings: when two people are together, one of them must have feelings of worship for the other, and such feelings will last for a long time.

Just like in my own love life, I have always been attracted by the characteristics of the other half, but I can also see his shortcomings, but this does not prevent me from worshipping him. So it won't make me feel bored for a long time. What fascinates me is his personality charm.

Here are four points: careful moments, preparing gifts, action details and physical contact. It seems that every couple who just fell in love will do it, but after a long time, few people will take the time to do it again. The reason is that they don't need to get married. Once such an idea appears, it seems to me that it is irresponsible for love. If you try your best to be nice to each other when you don't get it, you will no longer manage your feelings with your heart after you catch up. This is a lack of responsibility.

If two people want to be together for a long time, learning to express love is something they need to do for a lifetime.

The last thing I want to say is about communication in intimate relationships.

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Am I introverted or extroverted, rational or emotional, and so on. Only when we know who we are can we know what kind of talents are suitable for us.

Pay attention to each other

What is his personality, what he needs, what is the bottom line and so on. To maintain a good relationship, we must first understand this person.

Pay attention to the situation

Different situations will happen in love, so we should learn different ways to deal with different situations.

These three suggestions need to be grasped in the management of a relationship. Both sides should understand each other and maintain good relations in the process of growth and progress.

On the basis of grasping these, we can do something to improve our happiness, such as creating memories, being soul mates and exchanging ideas about life.

If you want to maintain a long-term intimate relationship, you must first learn to keep love fresh, and then what you do can develop based on love.