A survey conducted by Qingdao Mental Health Center in 20XX years found that the incidence of mental illness among middle school students reached 15.3%. Experts pointed out that the psychological problems caused by students dropping out of school are mainly caused by academic pressure and poor parent-child relationship. Parents should pay more attention to their children's mental health. Growth is more important than success.
10 June10 is World Mental Health Day. This year's theme is "communication, understanding, care, psychological harmony and health". According to the survey data of Qingdao Mental Health Center from 2008 to 20 10, students have been in the first place among people with mental illness. Experts said that this is mainly due to academic pressure and poor parent-child relationship. Parents should pay more attention to their children's mental health. Growth is more important than success.
80% of children drop out of school because of psychological problems.
"Now there are more and more patients with mental illness, especially students, ranking first in the whole population." Pei Shutao, director of Qingdao Mental Health Center, said that from 2008 to 20 10, they investigated 73 19 people who had had psychological counseling. According to the survey, the top five people suffering from mental illness are students, company employees, unemployed people, ordinary workers and retirees.
Pei Shutao said that in the past, students took leave mainly because of physical diseases such as infectious diseases, but now 80% are due to psychological problems. In 2009, they also conducted a survey of students in two high schools and two junior high schools in the island city, and found that the incidence of mental illness among middle school students reached 15.3%, while the data in 2008 was 10.4%. Most patients show symptoms such as mental disorder, weariness of learning and paranoia.
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What causes students' frequent mental illness? "The first is academic pressure." Wang Guanjun, deputy director of Qingdao Mental Health Center, said that parents want their children to succeed, so their children are under great pressure to go to school. "I just received a high school student who didn't want to go to school because of the pressure." Wang Guanjun told reporters that the boy got good grades among his students, and now he is a senior three. With the entrance examination approaching, his parents enrolled him in a cram school during the 11th National Day, but he didn't want to go to school after school. Boys said that because they didn't have a rest during the holidays, "I always feel that the pressure has not been released and I have to start to be nervous again." He also told the doctor that his parents are usually very kind to him. In order to let him study with peace of mind, his parents don't talk loudly at home. He felt ashamed to face his parents because he didn't do well in the exam, so the more he thought about it, the more afraid he was to go to school.
"In the process of children's growth, parents should not overindulge and blindly pursue academic performance." Wang Guanjun said that children's growth is more important than success, and their achievements are only temporary. If children only have good grades without good psychological quality as a guarantee, they will not interact with others and will not succeed.
Wang Guanjun told reporters that children now grow up in honeypots and lack the ability to resist setbacks. Parents should correctly face the setbacks and failures in their children's growth. After the child fails, parents should help to find the reasons, accept the child, don't ask too much, and pay attention to the process rather than the result.
The pressure of entering a higher school makes parents and children insomnia.
Xiao Zhi entered the third grade this year. In order to make a breakthrough in his mediocre grades, his mother took him everywhere in the summer vacation to "catch up" with various tutoring, mathematics and foreign languages. After school started, Xiao Zhi had a lot of exercises every time he came back from cram school. He can't sleep until 1 1 at night, but he can't sleep in bed. Xiao Zhi was worried that insomnia would affect his studies, and his anxious mother was worried about his son's studies, so the whole family lost sleep.
Professor Fan Jiang, a child health care expert at Shanghai Children's Medical Center, said that many patients who came to the clinic were under too much pressure from their children and parents, which led to insomnia. Moreover, the more anxious family members are, the more likely they are to affect their children's sleep. This vicious circle is harmful to health. Children with "lack of sleep" are often inattentive and impulsive, which affects students' emotional maintenance and behavioral ability. Children who don't sleep well not only have low learning efficiency the next day, but also show irritability and activeness, making it easier to contradict the teacher.
According to the sleep questionnaire data of more than 4,000 senior high school students in Shanghai, about 1 1% children reported insomnia. Nowadays, primary and secondary school students are under all kinds of test pressure. Not only do they often have poor sleep, but they also have obviously insufficient sleep time. Most children are "not getting enough sleep". The survey also shows that more than 70% of primary and middle school students in China lack sleep. Compared with their peers in Europe and America, they sleep about 40 to 45 minutes less every day on average, and high school students sleep less 1 hour. Almost all high school students feel sleepy during the day. In fact, China's "Hygienic Standard for Primary and Secondary School Students' One-Day Study Time" points out that primary school students should sleep at least 10 hours a day, junior high school students 9 hours and senior high school students 8 hours.
For those young students who are stressed, anxious and unable to sleep, Fan Jiang reminds them to take a deep breath before going to bed. Holidays and weekends are best not to disturb the usual routine at will, even if you sleep late, you should control it within one hour. It is suggested to form a fixed schedule before going to bed, such as taking a bath first, then drinking milk, then brushing your teeth, reading for a while, and then turning off the lights to sleep to ensure the regularity of bedtime activities. Children with poor sleep should try to drink less stimulating drinks or foods, such as coffee, tea, cola and chocolate, before going to bed. We should learn to arrange our study reasonably, combine work and rest, communicate with others more, eliminate bad emotions in time and keep a happy mood. Parents should also encourage their children to do more outdoor sports, such as swimming, running, sweating properly and exercising to help them sleep. It is best to avoid exercise after 6 pm. For patients with severe insomnia, they should go to the hospital in time to find out the reasons.
Bad parent-child relationship makes children feel insecure.
He was deeply impressed by a girl from Grade One who was treated by Wang Guanjun. This girl is 13 years old this year. Her parents are both intellectuals. They emphasized quality education since childhood, so she began to learn piano when she was in kindergarten. By the time the child is in the fifth grade, the piano has reached the sixth grade. However, in the process of learning the piano, her mother has been sitting beside her. If the child makes a mistake, she will either beat or scold. After a long time, children feel uncomfortable as long as they sit in front of the piano, and then slowly the children develop obsessive-compulsive disorder.
"This is the parents' excessive pursuit of perfection and failure to give their children a sense of security. This bad parent-child relationship has caused psychological obstacles to children. " Wang Guanjun analyzed that parents blindly impose their ideas on their children, making them feel scared.
Wang Guanjun said that in recent years, in addition to mental illness caused by study pressure, bad parent-child relationship has also become a new cause. This stage of junior high school is an important stage in the formation of adolescent personality structure, and rebellious psychology usually appears. If parents don't handle it well, children are likely to have mental illness.
Babysitter-style children are more likely to have psychological problems.
It is a common phenomenon that the generation after 00 is taken care of by nannies. According to experts, in the past two years, the proportion of children with psychological problems raised by nannies has increased significantly, increasing by about 10% every year.
Xiao Juan, a first-year student in a primary school in Luwan District, Shanghai, grew up with several nannies from birth. The teacher found that Xiao Juan got excellent grades in school and was quiet, but he had a bad temper. Once he conflicts with his teachers and classmates, he is prone to self-abuse. After testing and communicating with Xiao Juan, experts believe that Xiao Juan abused himself to attract the attention and attention of his parents.
Xiao Juan's parents said that it was really helpless to hire a nanny at home. They tried to make their children worry about food and clothing, but they didn't expect it to hurt their growth. Chen Mo, a consultant in the psychological counseling studio of East China Normal University, believes that people who take care of their children must be very maternal and should be fixed in order to give them stable psychological support. You can't contact your mother often, and the nanny at home often changes, which will make your child feel insecure.
Qiao Liping, a consultant in the psychological counseling studio of East China Normal University, said that in the past two years, the proportion of children with psychological problems raised by nannies has been on the rise, increasing by about 10% every year. Nannies can only take care of children's daily life and personal safety, but their quality, habits, language and culture are very different from children's living environment, so they can't communicate with children in education and thought, so children will have the lack of emotional and ideological communication.
Experts suggest that mothers should take care of their children themselves, which is more conducive to their psychological growth. Once the child who is taken care of by the nanny has psychological problems, both the child and the parents should consult a psychologist for a period of time to learn how the parents take care of the child from the nanny and how to carry out psychological interaction between the parents and the child, so as to gradually correct the child's psychological problems.
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