Perhaps for many people, college is the real starting point of the whole life.
Life before college is ignorant, firm and practical, because you only have one goal-the college entrance examination. As long as you concentrate on your goal, you are not wrong. Although life is boring, it is orderly and simple. Even feelings are pure and beautiful because they do not involve external interference and interests, because of each other's innocence and sincere desire for others, just like a bright moon lying on the lake.
However, after leaving middle school and entering university, there is no supervision and bondage, and there is no shadow of lofty goals and great pressure overhead. Just like a Buddha and a bird coming out of a cage, it is naturally released, and another self sleeping in the body is slowly revealed, even a completely different self.
No matter before, no matter whether you are top student admired by thousands of people, or a dejected scum, or the most eye-catching man in the class, or the quietest and most insignificant role, everyone can get rid of the past body, have no fixed identity, attributes and things to do, and get a chance of "rebirth" to change and shape themselves.
It also happens from time to time: once upon a time, a humble "classmate" mixed up in college life; The former "stupid classmate" with the lowest score has made many achievements in other fields; The female classmate who was bullied by others because she was fat has become a gentle and graceful goddess ... Because in these four years, there is no busy and demanding work to frame most of your energy and time, and there is no self-righteous guidance and questioning from outsiders to suppress your personality. It was a period of self-awakening, a period of life appreciation and the beginning of dream growth.
The moment I stepped into the university campus, I felt the dream I had held in my arms carefully, and I couldn't wait to beat gently, like the rhythm of new life, and I felt the hope of breaking out of the cocoon.
But the result of all this will always depend on yourself, how you irrigate this flower of time, and what color it will return to you. The time you put in will eventually accumulate into a part of your body and temperament and precipitate into the bright color of life.
If left unchecked, it will be a wasted four years, plus years, and then pushed to the whole adult world by one person at a loss, so you should turn the wasted four years into useless tears.
If we grasp it, it will be a journey full of hope and motivation. Every day, we are on the way to becoming better and more active. At least gestures, eyes no longer flashing hesitation and anxiety.
Therefore, the first step in life, from now on, is to think about the future life and make a good plan.
Although it is not that you have worked hard in these four years, you will definitely get the corresponding reward. However, through experience, even just through experience, your knowledge and skills, as well as communication with others, and even your mental state, are subtly changing, and bit by bit, you become stronger and better than the pale and powerless yourself in the past.
At the very least, we must ensure that when we look back on these four years, we sincerely feel that every day's life is full, and we feel that we have not lived up to any inch of time and have no regrets.
Please believe that it is never too late to realize. Every time you let go of the past and decide to move forward, it is the best time to change your life.
Because at least, you want to be excellent and beautiful, and you are always on the road. You haven't seen the result yet, but you are still firm, because you know that this road is right.
I also believe that there is no road in life, and every step counts.
(B) Thinking about life from four dimensions
How to enrich your college life? I want to discuss it from three directions.
First, grasp the general direction of life.
Some people divide life into four dimensions: height, depth, width and temperature.
Pursuing a high life is to pursue one's position in the workplace or on the stage of life, and to be the "princes and princes" who point out the direction.
If you pursue height, then you can try to work part-time in the student union.
Societies are places where students from different parts of the school and different grades gather, and have their own rules and regulations and work contents.
It is a small society, projecting all kinds of people and things you may encounter outside in the future; It is also a strict place, which requires you to complete the task seriously, give you irrefutable criticism and correction, and let you experience overtime and stay up late in advance, but there is no reward; It is a big family that surprises you. Everyone works together, no matter how hard and tired the work is, they will feel warm and moved because there are such a group of people around them.
Put time and energy into students' work, consciously exercise their leadership, organization, communication, coordination and adaptability, cultivate their sense of responsibility and work ability, and experience cooperation and competition with others in the community, as well as the performance of work ability and communication ability.
The real society may be more different, but the time we struggled together will always have a different taste of happiness in our future memories.
Pursuing the depth of life is to find a shining piece of gold on your original stone of life. Your life is dazzling because you explore it and polish it.
If you pursue depth, you must have a direction you like and want to pursue in your mind. It may be your major or other majors, your skills or hobbies. So, do everything that helps to improve and strengthen: if it is your professional course, read books, attend lectures, study related books, do related internships, or prepare for postgraduate entrance examination; Other professional courses, find ways to change majors, double degrees, and cross-professional graduate studies. On the basis of being responsible for your major, you will spend your time and energy on your interests. Although it will be hard, your efforts will eventually become your knowledge and ability. If it is a hobby, then practice and carve it constantly, turn it into a skill, be professional, and achieve the ultimate.
In short, the pursuit of depth is a kind of pure persistence and love, and it is to achieve the ultimate in a certain aspect. Like a dedicated carpenter, under the lonely appearance, you carve the richness of your inner world. Even if you don't attract much attention, you bring your own light, because you focus on your inner world.
The pursuit of a broad life is the pursuit of beauty between people and between people and nature. There is still a lot of natural beauty in human nature-kindness, honesty, gentleness and friendliness ... You are pursuing this kind of warmth, and you also want to let yourself use light and heat to warm and shine people around you and feel the tranquility and beauty of everything.
If you pursue the breadth of life, you can try to be a volunteer. Perhaps you will find the meaning of life and catch a glimpse of a sudden light falling into the darkness of the world in the kind smile of lonely old people in nursing homes, in the bright eyes of rural children, in maintaining order in busy urban streets, and in picking up a dazzling piece of white garbage in green grass. There are so many pains and disasters in the world, but because of some simple kindness and goodwill in human nature, it becomes less aggressive.
Maybe you are simply paying for the people around you, willing to listen to your classmates' complaints and communicate with your teachers sincerely. You injected your beautiful heart into your life and brought a smile to others. Although it is not a great achievement, it is great to bring warmth and smile to others!
At the same time, you also unconsciously accumulated popularity. When you encounter difficulties, many hands will reach out to you to repay your gentleness.
To pursue the temperature of life is to pursue the richness of one's inner world. The values behind the temperature of life are freedom and excitement.
You yearn for a free and romantic life, and you care more about your inner feelings. If you go against your inner rhythm, even luxury can't be regarded as an ideal life; Even if you are bitter, you are determined to do it yourself, willingly and without regrets.
Your life is controlled by yourself, arranged by yourself, and you don't care about external voices or secular judgments. Your standard is just how you feel inside. You should arrange your own life, do what you like, be positive, be yourself that you like, be yourself that you can have a sense of accomplishment and please yourself!
Second, hone your second sharp blade.
Third, make life interesting.
These two aspects will be developed in detail in the future ~ to be continued ~