What is this "realm"? Where should we start? Most people are vague or don't understand at all.

The source of the word "cautious independence" is a sentence in the University. When we can sincerely praise others in front of them, we can also do so when we are alone. This is the behavior of a gentleman. "

Then what is a "villain"? "Little people live in seclusion and do everything they can. Seeing a gentleman is disgusting, covering up his incompetence and focusing on his goodness. " This sentence means: the villain has nothing to do. When you meet a gentleman, you hide your ugly behavior and show your "good" side. In our current words, we just have different views.

From here, we can have a simple glimpse of one of the bases for the ancients to distinguish between "gentlemen" and "villains".

How to understand "cautious independence"?

As mentioned above, "cautious independence" means that a person's heart is consistent. Only now do we understand that what we say and do in front of others is also what we say and do when we are alone. For example, if we say in front of others that I want to read 1 hour every day, then we should read 1 hour every day when we are alone. This behavior is called "cautious independence".

How to practice "cautious independence"?

Let's just say these two words, which are abstract and general. I concretize it, or a small realm of "cautious independence" is called "cautious words and cautious actions". It means: Speak cautiously and sincerely, be careful of your every move, don't cross the line, and don't go against your wishes.

What is the connection between "cautious independence" and "self-discipline"?

Just now, when we talked about reading 1 hour a day in front of others, we had to do it alone. What if I can't do it? I'm just making an analogy here. I didn't say it must be reading. Here is another realm of cultivation-self-discipline.

I believe that the word "self-discipline" that you hear the most is the advertisement word "self-discipline gives me freedom" of keep.

There is a certain connection between "self-discipline" and "cautious independence". Where is this connection? "Self-discipline" is to control yourself to do something regularly; "Cautious independence" means doing what you say in front of others and when you are alone. This connection lies in the word "law and independence". Many times, it is difficult for us to stick to one thing completely, even for 30 minutes every day. Needless to say, it is very difficult to control yourself completely by your own willpower without supervision.

The difficulty here is not what we insist on doing. It lies in "persistence" and "self-discipline" is to insist on doing one thing regularly, which is the cultivation of self-discipline