Note 1: Avoid talking about it.
Love is beautiful at first. Men always make way for women and invite them to eat, watch movies and play games. But once the love period is over, you won't avoid the real problems after all, and then you will start to settle accounts in your mind. If one party always forgets to pay the bill, the other party may remind you, and may bear it silently, but one day it will break out and quarrel is inevitable.
Brothers should be clear, and husband and wife should be clear. When you feel that money is bothering your love, you should put your cards on the table and make it clear how the two will share the expenses. In order to avoid the situation that one party thinks that he has paid too much, two people should set up a * * * account and use the money in this account to pay their daily expenses.
Note 2: The income is different, but the AA system is implemented.
Although it seems fair to implement AA system, we should know that everyone's income is different, and the one with less income is hard to bear. Moreover, the wages of the two sides are very different, and the living standards are definitely different. If every consumption is at a high level, then the party with less income will definitely be more difficult to accept. The final result must be a bitter end, and there is resentment in my heart.
For couples with large income differences, the best solution is to determine the proportion of daily expenses according to the proportion of income, so that everyone can save some money, buy things they like and buy gifts for each other without any resentment. There is no doubt that this is the fairest principle.
Note 3: One person is responsible for the mortgage and one person is responsible for the daily expenses.
Now most families are like this, one is responsible for repaying the mortgage and the other is responsible for daily expenses. However, not participating in the major investment decisions of two people economically will definitely bring regret in the future. The party who does not participate in the mortgage repayment will feel that the house does not belong to him, which is a very serious time bomb for the couple.
Young people under the age of 30 often hesitate to invest together because they are not sure about their future. But psychologists say that if two people want to invest together, the house is the best choice: living together in a house with their own rights can bring spiritual equality.
Note 4: One person is in charge of economic power.
Nowadays, many women will take the initiative to take charge of the financial power at home. Men think they are careless and can't save money, and they will also agree to women's demands. But economic rights represent the core of the family and are a kind of right. Many women will reduce men's pocket money in order not to let men spend too much money outside, but in the end men will resist and keep their small coffers from being discovered by their wives. Once discovered, it will be a river's lake turmoil. Moreover, in a love relationship, one party has absolute control, which will lead to a long-term imbalance between the two people.
Women are good economic managers, because they are careful, earnest and thrifty, and they also think they are responsible for the financial situation of their families. One person manages two people's money, so why not? But the condition is to respect each other's freedom and not comment. After all, everyone's values are different.
Note 5. Don't always pay the bill alone.
If you bear the economic pressure alone for a long time, you will make one party feel heavy, very unhappy, anxious and irritable, and feel unfair in the face of the other party's carefree.
The trouble of money should be shared by two people, even if your income is really much higher than the other. You can say to each other, "What do you think?" "Help me solve this problem together." Participation in love is very important. Two people working together will not only find a better way, but also find a psychological balance.