1, I was very enthusiastic when I first met.

For example, just a few days after I met you, I will often chat with you or ask you out to play, and I can't wait to say "I like you very much" and "You are my ideal type". It's probably that I'm casting a wide net and telling this to all the girls, or he's bored now and wants to talk about love and find something for himself.

Girl, don't rush to the top at this time. Observe.

2. The fuzziness of the relationship boundary.

He said something like "I'm not ready to fall in love" and "you're too kind to me", but he didn't refuse your kindness and invitation, and he didn't keep the proper distance in a normal relationship, which shows that he just didn't want to confirm the relationship and take responsibility.

3, hot and cold, often lose contact.

Being at arm's length will make you feel insecure. When he is bored, he often chats with you and is full of enthusiasm for you. But when you want to contact him, it's hard to find him. Even if you do, it will be ignored and will not give you a reasonable explanation. This situation is either forgetting you, or having other warm-hearted objects, or even he may not be single. People who really care about you will not keep you waiting.

I always say I love you, but I don't do anything about it.

Often talk about "love you" and "miss you" without any concrete action. When you tell him "I'm in a bad mood today" or encounter any difficulties, he just perfunctorily comforts or changes the subject, but he doesn't really care about your mood and mood, and won't help you solve practical problems.

I don't want you to integrate into his life.

Whenever you ask him questions about work, family, friends, etc., he will answer in a general and vague way and will not introduce his friends and family to you.

He may talk to you often, but your topics are all unnecessary nonsense, and you don't really know him. His heart won't open for you, and he doesn't want to reveal his privacy to you. He has plans to get out at any time.

6. I don't know how to respect you

He always wants some intimate contact, flirtatious words, and often does some oral tests, eager to have substantive relations with you. If he can't even do the most basic respect and restraint in the early stage, it means that you are really just a tool for him to pass away boredom.

7, brainwashing from the side, pua you

When you feel that the other person is not so interested in you, he will try to prove that he loves you, thus dispelling your doubts. For example, if you see a good-looking girl, she may say, "Although she looks better than you, I only like you", so that you can like you even if she is not perfect.

In fact, he is just suppressing and belittling you, destroying your self-confidence, distorting your emotions, and making you more willing to obey him, so as to achieve mental control over you.