Friend, do you know what old people need most? Everyone knows that what the elderly need most is health. In addition to physical health, the elderly need mental health. To stay healthy, in addition to the self-care of the elderly, we need many aspects of attention and care, especially the care of children. The health of the elderly is the happiness of children! At present, with the continuous improvement of people's material life, what the elderly need most is spiritual comfort. This article talks about children's spiritual comfort to their parents. Many children have excellent academic performance and successful careers. This in itself is the greatest spiritual comfort to parents. But even this would not be enough Excellent children are full of filial piety and love for their parents. They not only care about their parents' material life, but also give them all kinds of spiritual comfort: they often talk with their parents, ask questions about the cold, and consciously remind the elderly of their good memories of the past; Fully affirm and properly evaluate the achievements and contributions of the elderly in their lives; Fully respect and patiently listen to the opinions and suggestions of the elderly, and gain knowledge through laughter; Fully respect and try to satisfy the interests of the elderly and give them substantial support and help. These are all important contents of spiritual comfort for the elderly. For the elderly in such a family, it can really be called a happy old age. When people are old, they are most afraid of loneliness. The old people's physiological function declines, their psychology is extremely out of balance, and they are in an unstable state. They often suffer from insomnia, dreaminess, irritability, moodiness, nagging, depression, doubt, inferiority, loneliness and other physiological phenomena. If they are not conditioned, they are easy to get sick or die. Hu Fulan, a longevity scholar, said: "What can make people die short and early is bad mood, bad mood." Professor Hong Zhaoguang, deputy head of the National Cardiovascular Research Leading Group and vice president of China Geriatric Care Association, pointed out that psychological balance is one of the "four cornerstones" to maintain physical and mental health, which is closely related to spiritual comfort. He pointed out: "The function of psychological balance exceeds the sum of all safety functions. If you master the psychological balance, you have the golden key to health. People's illness has a great relationship with health and mental state. Human diseases are largely influenced by psychology. " Medical experts believe that pessimism, anxiety, excitement, fear, confusion, despair and other emotions will stimulate the human brain, and then affect the normal function and metabolism of various organs of the body, and then lead to dementia, hypertension, heart disease, diabetes, gastrointestinal diseases, cancer and other diseases. Therefore, sometimes giving spiritual comfort to the elderly is even more important than giving them generous material support. Of course, a few elderly people who are bedridden and unable to take care of themselves will bring great economic and mental burdens and pressures to their children, but this is their duty. The health standard proposed by the World Health Organization is: 1. Good health; Second, mental health; Third, adapt well to social conditions. The latter two are related to spiritual comfort. In the real world, some children think that giving their parents enough financial support is a dutiful son, but it is not entirely true. Because providing material support to the elderly is the minimum moral standard, which has long been stipulated by law. And spiritual comfort (that is, "spiritual support") is also stipulated by law, but it has not attracted people's general attention. Article 12 of the Law on the Elderly stipulates: "The supporter shall fulfill the obligations of financial support, life care and spiritual comfort for the elderly, and take care of their special needs." This first requires deep feelings for the dependents. However, when some children grow up, they change their supreme affection for their parents and become unwilling to communicate with their parents. They have nothing to say in front of their elderly parents and lack emotional communication. Even talking to his parents is just a few words, and he answers every question his parents ask. I don't want to joke with my parents, I don't want to play chess and cards with my parents, and I can't build deep feelings with my elderly parents (of course, this is related to some parents who always pretend to be "elders", don't respect the personality and characteristics of young people, and are used to treating their children with a "reprimand" tone. This needs to be discussed in another article), which constitutes a mental support obstacle. Due to the needs of spiritual life, most elderly people can entertain themselves, such as rubbing hemp, playing chess, playing cards, dancing, raising flowers, fishing, teasing birds, walking dogs, shopping, meeting old friends and chatting with peers. Old people who love reading read and write by themselves; Enlightened people go to universities for the aged, take part in public welfare activities, and exert their residual heat. This is how they enrich their spiritual life and eliminate loneliness. These are undoubtedly good ways to "enjoy your old age" and should be actively supported as children. In today's society, there are many dutiful sons and virtuous daughters-in-law who have deep feelings for their parents. For example, Zeng Huaiyue, the mother of Lai Chengguang, a cadre of the Party History Office of Yong 'an Municipal Committee, lives alone in the Great Lakes country because she doesn't want to live in the city. Lai Chengguang went home to accompany him every weekend before he retired. After retirement, he resolutely gave up city life and returned to his hometown in the Great Lakes countryside to accompany and take care of his mother for more than ten years. Now her mother is 100 years old. Lai Chengguang is a famous dutiful son in Yong 'an. Ye Shuwan, a villager from Xingping Village, Yandong Street, Yong 'an City, 16 years has taken good care of her husband Wang Guicai who was paralyzed by a car accident (1988). Now Wang Guicai is 79 years old. It never rains but it pours. 1998, when Ye Shuwan's husband Wang Daohui was working in the coal yard, he was seriously injured because of the collapse of the coal pile, which led to spinal fracture and paralysis, and he took good care of her husband for more than 6 years. She said: "For more than ten years, I have taken care of my father-in-law and husband without regrets." She is a good daughter-in-law praised by everyone and a good example worth learning. Lin Xiuying, the mother of Yu Guiyong, a cadre of Yong 'an Cultural Center, was paralyzed by cerebral hemorrhage at the age of 83. Because of brain nerve damage, she lost her normal state, so she kept shouting day and night, and the whole family was restless day and night. Yu Guiyong and his wife Chen put their mother in the best house at home, installed air conditioning, bought entertainment equipment for her to use, and took care of her day and night for a year and a half. Chen is a famous virtuous daughter-in-law in Yong 'an because of her careful care for her family. However, some children not only failed to give their parents spiritual comfort, but also failed to guarantee material support. Of course, some children with financial difficulties are also excusable. In urban families, some sons, daughters-in-law and grandchildren live with their parents, which runs in the family. Parents are busy with housework, shopping and cooking, and taking care of grandchildren. They have to pay water, electricity, steam, telephone and other expenses and entertainment every month. Parents' retirement salary is low, and despite their efforts to save money, they still feel tight. However, children are unwilling to pay for food or only "a little", leaving the elderly in poverty for a long time. At the same time, he also reveals his dissatisfaction with the elderly from time to time, saying that the elderly are "too dirty", "too bad" and "unclean", which really makes the elderly very embarrassed. In a family where parents and children are separated, children seldom go home because of busy work, which makes parents feel lonely. However, every holiday, sons, daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, inner grandchildren and grandsons flock to us, and elderly parents are too busy to buy food and cook. After eating and drinking enough, the children and grandchildren wiped their mouths and swarmed, but no one was left to "clean up the battlefield", let alone talk to the old man. And the old man has to clean up, busy until midnight to rest, leftovers have to chew on several meals. In rural families, it is more common for the elderly to get no spiritual comfort. Although there are some filial sons and daughters-in-law, most of them are not harmonious. They are called "ten pairs of mother-in-law and nine pairs of daughter-in-law" and "married daughter-in-law and sold mother". When parents can still work and work in the fields, there will be fewer contradictions; Once parents lose their ability to work, they gradually resent it and always feel that the elderly are a burden. Old people who generally lose their ability to work have also lost their economic dominance and are short of money. At this time, some unfilial daughters-in-law pointed at Sang and scolded the weaknesses and shortcomings of the old man. Spreading rumors, slandering and slandering the elderly behind the scenes; Regardless of the details, some people openly contradict and insult the elderly; Scold "old deathless", even those who tear the old man. A few unfilial children even abuse the elderly, fearing that they will not die, let alone relieve their worries. Some old people are angry, start a new stove and live separately. If it is a widowed old man, the scene is even more bleak. Such an old man may not be guaranteed at least his life, let alone his spiritual support. Speaking of widowed old people, it is difficult for young children to understand the loneliness brought by widowed old people. Some children can actively create good conditions for the remarriage of their old father or mother and give strong support, which should be said to be dutiful sons; There are also some children who obstruct and criticize the remarriage of their old father or mother in every way, which should be said to be unfilial. Because children can't accompany the elderly like wives. Moreover, the remarriage of the elderly is a civil right granted by law, and children cannot interfere. At the age of 99, Kebiao Zhang, the birthday girl in Shanghai, asked the newspaper to publish an advertisement for finding a partner. He said, "I have lost my sexual desire, so I just want to find a partner to take care of my life and chat to solve my loneliness in my later years." He finally married 56-year-old Lin Qing and became Qin Jin's friend. It shows that he is childlike, loves life and can maintain a happy and open-minded ideological realm. He has now lived to the age of 104. According to the clinical observation of experts and the survey of the health status of tens of thousands of elderly people around the world, it is found that all healthy and long-lived elderly people have a loving and harmonious husband and wife life besides reasonable diet, regular life, moderate exercise and open mind. Modern health experts in Europe and America pointed out: "Old people living alone are prone to aging, and widows are encouraged to remarry and relive their love." Modern medicine has confirmed that the elderly can still feel sexual satisfaction and pleasure through sex even if their endocrine function has deteriorated to varying degrees. More importantly, harmonious sexual life can also feed back the central nervous system, coordinate the excitability of autonomic nerves and improve endocrine function. The mechanism is that when human beings make love, they will produce a hormone payment substance called Dis, which can improve the metabolic function and immune function of the human body, enhance vitality and delay aging. In both urban and rural areas, there are even more unfilial sons and daughters who violate the criminal law and treat the elderly like dirt. For example, 85-year-old Han Lishi in Baoshan District of Shanghai was frozen to death by his son; Pei Jinyou, a 78-year-old from Guangdong Province, threw himself into the river because he could not bear the abuse of his son and daughter-in-law. Li Shunying, a 60-year-old from Hongkou District, Shanghai, died of poison because she couldn't bear the beating and scolding of her son and daughter-in-law. Qiu, an 88-year-old from Songjiang District, Shanghai, had four sons and 53 apartments, but she committed suicide by taking poison because she had no room to live in. Wen, the former deputy magistrate of Gaozhou County, Guangdong Province, beat and scolded his 88-year-old mother for no reason, causing her to hang herself. These examples have violated the criminal law, far beyond the scope of traditional morality, and are no longer between filial piety and unfilial. What is filial piety? A magazine in Guangdong put it well: Filial piety is the natural nature of life. The excellent quality of human beings is largely reflected by filial piety to parents. Filial piety is a respect for the continuation of life and a love for one's own history. A person without filial piety is equal to ignoring the source of his own life and degenerating to the level of lower animals. People who have no filial piety are usually selfish. Such people are good at using various excuses to cover up their unfilial and selfish. Filial piety is a kind of character, which cultivates people's quality and will be revealed from the soul anytime and anywhere. A person who has no filial piety to his parents must be heartless, unfaithful and unloving. In addition, grandchildren still have the obligation to support their grandparents materially and spiritually. When parents are unable to support their grandparents, they should be borne by their grandchildren. This is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and it is also stipulated by the current law. CCTV's "Focus Interview" column has disclosed that an old man 104 years old, his son is 78 years old, and both grandchildren are in their forties. Because the grandchild's father and grandfather have long been widowed, the father has been supporting his grandfather for a long time. Therefore, he called two healthy sons to a meeting and persuaded them to support his grandfather together. But because their grandfather still drinks and eats meat every day, they think they can't afford it and don't accept the obligation of support. As a result, the sick father had to bear the obligation to support himself. The author thinks it's great that my grandfather can live to be 104! Even if he wants to drink and eat meat every day, it's his turn to eat and drink! Grandchildren should try their best to meet their demands. Because his longevity is the glory of the family and the glory of the nation! Fortunately, my life is peaceful, and I am afraid that I will be old soon. Everyone gets old, and every family has its own problems. I hope the truth in the world exists and give more spiritual comfort to the elderly!