What kind of love should college students have? University life is rich and colorful. However, in this period, boys and girls, the seeds of love, have a vague understanding of love, which sometimes leads to some serious consequences. So, what kind of love view should college students have?
What kind of love view should college students have? 1 1. Handle the relationship between love and many things.
Universities should focus on learning, supplemented by love. Why? Because in the long run, study will be helpful to career, and career is the foundation of love. If you don't have a career, then love will easily suffer more ups and downs in the future.
(1), the relationship between love and study.
Many people know that study is the most important thing, that universities should study hard, but they don't know why they should study hard, but they just feel that they should study hard with consistent inertia. In the traditional concept, they think that love is not the right thing to do, but learning is the right thing. In fact, love has a regulating effect on learning. Learning can consolidate love. On the spiritual and material life of the same person. If there is only one thing in life that is learning or just love, it will become very boring. People's lives are boring, and individuals can't be promoted.
That's why I said that love and study are not contradictory, but should complement each other. Doing different things can enrich the spiritual world and make a person smarter and more capable.
(2) The relationship between love and the collective.
Even Cupid.
It's hard to get rid of falling in love with an arrow. Don't lock yourself in a world of two people. If you only care about being in pairs and leaving the collective, you will limit your communication scope, hinder your development and progress, and be not conducive to personal growth and progress and the improvement of social adaptability. A person who loves the collective and cares about others can really give his loved ones deep and solid love.
(3) The relationship between love and morality.
The emotion of love is not only two of a kind's, but also closely combined with moral responsibility. Only on the basis of noble morality can we get true love. Therefore, the process of love must meet the corresponding moral requirements, and the premise of love is that both sides are equal and respect each other; When choosing a lover, we should pay attention to the moral quality of the other person. In the process of love, we should teach each other, help each other, treat each other sincerely, and be pure experts. Love behavior should be implicit and civilized, with self-respect and self-love.
(4) The relationship between love and fraternity.
The emotion of love includes not only love for lovers, but also love for parents, comrades, friends, society and the motherland. If a college student doesn't love his parents, classmates, friends, school and society, it is impossible for him to give his true feelings in the process of love. The wider a person's feelings are, the more devoted his love is, and the nobler his sex is. Only by infiltrating the desire, admiration and pursuit of the opposite sex into the love for the motherland and society can love become noble and stable. Love is not only an emotion, but also an ability, an art and an activity that needs lifelong learning and discovery. Therefore, college students should not only have the emotion of love, but also study hard, cultivate and develop the ability of love.
2. Cultivate the ability to love. Its ability to love includes the following aspects:
(1), the ability to meet love.
If a person has love in his heart, he must dare to express it in the right way; If you face the love of others, you should be able to choose to accept or refuse in time. Can bear the psychological trouble of refusing or refusing courtship.
(2) the ability to refuse love.
You should have the courage to refuse love that you don't want to accept or think is not worth accepting. Pay attention to two points when refusing:
If you don't want to love, the tone of refusal should be decisive and firm, and there is no room for hesitation, otherwise it will cause more harm to the other party.
Second, we must master the proper way.
You should master the way and degree of speaking. Although everyone has the right to refuse love, they should at least respect others.
3. Treat love setbacks correctly.
(1), face up to the reality, the pain of lovelorn lies in the word "love", love is two-way, mutual, based on the love of both sides, if either party is lost, love will be out of balance and love will be terminated. At this time, it is unrealistic for the lovelorn party to love the other party again. As a rational college student, we should face up to this reality.
(2) Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Doing so will help you understand the reason why the other party terminated love, help you accept the painful reality of lovelorn and get out of the shadow of lovelorn as soon as possible.
(3) Emotional catharsis. Don't hide or suppress the pain caused by lovelorn, but find an appropriate way to vent it. Usually vent methods are:
1), tears relief method. Crying when you are heartbroken can release your emotions.
2) Exercise relaxation method. Intense physical exercise helps to release the energy brought by excitement.
3), divert attention. When you are in a bad mood, you can do something that interests you.
4), decoration method. When you fall in love without the person you love, give reasonable reasons and facts to explain your frustration, so as to get spiritual comfort.
5), talk. Tell your troubles to trusted teachers, classmates, friends, teachers, etc. You can also keep a diary or write a letter. If you feel that your inner depression is too deep to be resolved, you can also seek psychological counseling from a psychological counselor.
(4) Situation transfer. The reason why it is difficult to get rid of the trouble of love after being lovelorn is because all aspects of life are inextricably linked with former lovers. Therefore, if you want to get rid of the pain of lovelorn, you must change a brand-new environment and leave the once familiar environment for a while. Put yourself in a happy environment. For example, make more friends, participate in one or more group entertainment activities, or find someone to go shopping and travel. This will help to broaden your mood. On the other hand, there is a sense of emptiness after lovelorn, which is difficult to adapt to for the time being. You can enrich yourself with work or other methods to avoid thinking in your spare time practice.
(5), sublimation. As soon as possible, we should sublimate lovelorn love into a kind of motivation and devote ourselves to study or work as soon as possible. Be sure not to be devastated by lovelorn love and think that life and life have lost their meaning. You know, love is an important part of life, but it is not the whole of life. We should treat love correctly, put it in a correct position, and handle the relationship between love and study, love and life, and love and marriage.
4. Correct the love motive.
Love is for finding like-minded lifelong partners in the future, not for comfort and excitement, not just for sexual satisfaction.
The selection of objects is a complicated and more complicated process, which can not be ignored.
It depends on economic, political, cultural, personality and other factors, but the ideal orientation and moral sentiment of * * * are the most fundamental. The quality of love motivation is directly related to the success of love. As a bridge of the new era, college students' love view should be an organic combination of ideal, morality, career and sex.
Relationship with learning, love and collectivity, love and morality, love and fraternity.
Love is the eternal theme of real life and literary works. Since ancient times, it has been pursued by human beings. It has infinite charm for college students at a special age, and some even call it "poetry and the sun" in life. However, it should be noted that only when the seeds of love are sown in the right season can they bear happy fruits. It is understandable for college students to fall in love, but it cannot be advocated. This is inevitable for every student.
Look before you leap. In my opinion, college is not the best time to fall in love. First, psychological immaturity, can not take responsibility; Second, in the era of competition, time cannot be wasted. Third, without economic income, money cannot be spent. The fourth is a lifelong event, and feelings can't afford it. If you sow the seeds of sadness at will regardless of time, you can only bear sour fruit.
Of course, love is also an inevitable and important topic in every college student's life, which requires putting love in the right position in his own mind, establishing a correct view of love and treating love correctly. In a word, the university stage is the golden age of studying and the key period of career success, but it is not the best time to solve lifelong events. In the face of emotional impulse and love desire, I think we should be good at grasping the emotional sail with reason, correctly handle the relationship between love and study, establish a correct view of love, and strive to cultivate our love ability. Only in this way can we finally sail our love boat to the other side of success and happiness.
What kind of love view should college students have? What is the correct view of love for college students?
Mutual assistance and friendship
This is a very important point in love, but it is not well reflected in some current love relationships. Mutual help is manifested in all aspects of life and study, promoting each other's growth and making each other move towards a better life in the future!
Focus on the future
Both parties in love should set goals for themselves and plan for a better life in the future. Don't blindly fall in love and delay each other. No matter whether we are together in the future, there will be no bad consequences.
economic independence
We must adhere to this relationship of conscience. Only economic independence can produce more peaceful love, avoid the economic pressure of either party, let each other face each other better, avoid the imbalance of relations and avoid a large part of the sources of conflict.
Both sides choose the right development direction. In modern society, men and women are equal. Both sides have the right to pursue the ideal of life, and neither side can be deprived of the right to development. Only when both sides can realize their own ideals can they become the driving force for common progress.
Leave each other a private space.
As lovers, they are not tied together. They need a proper distance to create each other's private space, which can also increase each other's mystery, make the distance beautiful and keep love fresh.
Inner peace
Both sides should keep a peaceful mind and don't expect too much from each other. After all, love itself is a process from strangeness to familiarity. Give each other time and space to know themselves. Love each other whether you can get married or not. After all, acquaintance is fate.
What kind of love view should college students have? How do college students establish a correct view of love?
1, correctly handle the relationship between love and study.
University is the golden age of human development, and it is also the time to study professional knowledge hard. At this time, if you neglect your studies because of love, you may lose big because of small things and reduce your competitiveness in entering the society in the future.
Therefore, in this period, we should also consider studying while falling in love, and strive to improve ourselves to prepare for entering the society in the future.
2. Learn how to love others.
Because college life is more relaxed and there is more free time, it also provides convenience for college students to make friends. Therefore, in this period, you should seize the opportunity, know how to love others, learn how to love others, know how to express love in the right way, and learn to refuse when necessary, which will make you more mature.
3. Dare to take responsibility in feelings.
In a relationship, both sides should understand and respect each other. Take the initiative to take responsibility when encountering problems, rather than avoiding emotional difficulties. The more they avoid emotional problems, the more problems will accumulate and eventually their feelings will break down, so they should be solved in time. If the other party doesn't take the initiative, you should dare to take responsibility. Under your initiative, the other party will also be infected by you.
4. Maintain appropriate independence.
In feelings, some people will become overly dependent on each other, which is good to some extent, but long-term dependence on each other will easily make them lose themselves and some of their original charm, and at the same time, they will also make each other feel bored and the quality of their feelings will be long-term.
Therefore, it is necessary to maintain appropriate independence in feelings, not to rely too much, and to have your own opinions, which may make feelings last longer.
5. Don't be forced.
Some people often use some means of intimidation and inducement when chasing their favorite object, but this is not a charming performance.
Sometimes making someone like you depends not on chasing, but on attracting them. Therefore, in the early days of love, I suggest you learn to show your strengths and strengths reasonably to attract each other, and don't force each other, so as to help you get happiness faster.
6. Treat the setbacks in feelings correctly.
Now is the era of free love, the other party has the freedom to choose and not choose you, so when the other party doesn't choose you, you should learn to accept it, then understand what your shortcomings are and try to make up for them, so as to form a virtuous circle.
Don't feel inferior, let alone complain. Keep a positive and optimistic attitude, you will become more attractive and attract more people to like you.
Matters needing attention in love, be rational and not impulsive.