Gesell Institute of Child Development of Yale University has conducted research and investigation for 40 years, and finally found that children's future growth trends can be found from 1000 days in their early life, and methods can be taken to guide these trends. You don't have to wait for your child to grow up, you can change your child's future in advance and let your child walk in front of his peers.

These trends are summed up as a sense of security. As an essential nutritional factor in the process of children's growth, security can easily affect children's life.

If the child has these performances, it shows that parents need to establish a sense of security for their children, and the establishment of a sense of security is best in the first 1000 days of life, that is, before the child is 3 years old.

In the process of children's growth, the source of security establishment is mainly composed of mothers, and the will conveyed by mothers will help children quickly establish a sense of security. What a mother can do is to accompany her, so spending a lot of time with her children before they are 3 years old will have a positive impact on their sense of security.

The first1000th day of a child's life is roughly divided into 36 months, and these 36 months will go through four different stages, namely, autistic stage, * * * birth stage, extreme individualization stage and eternal object stage.

The mother's company will help children get through the first two stages quickly. Children with autism spend most of their time in a deep sleep state, lose regular milk drinking, and do not need to have too much emotional establishment with the outside world and their mothers.

But when children enter the second stage of their lives, they will begin to develop self-awareness, and they will perceive the existence of their mothers. In their minds, they and their mothers are one. Therefore, at this stage, mothers must spend more time with their children. Long-term separation will harm the normal development of children and affect their psychology.

Mother is the first medium for children to contact the world. * * * Children at birth will establish a strong emotional connection with their mothers, which has a great influence on their personality shaping, mental health, emotions and physical development. If the mother doesn't accompany the child in time, and the contact is shallow, then the child will feel uneasy in advance at the birth stage, and it will be difficult to re-establish a sense of security later.

First, spend a lot of time with children.

Many developed countries will take the initiative to give their mothers a holiday of 1 to 3 years, because it is difficult for children to leave their mothers during this period, and emotional connection is really important. Children who lack companionship will feel insecure and resist the outside world because they can't get in touch with their mothers, which will have a great impact on the future mental health development in the long run.

Therefore, mothers should find ways to spend a lot of time with their children. After all, 1000 days is a critical period for children to establish a sense of security, which may change their lives.

Second, maintain emotional stability in the second stage.

When the mother and the child get along closely, the child will subconsciously think that he is an extension of the mother and will take the initiative to have a * * * relationship with the mother. If the mother at this stage always has big mood swings, the children will also be affected. Emotions will fluctuate with them.

Fluctuation or depression will reduce the child's sense of security, so in the child's birth stage, mothers must maintain emotional stability, so that the child's emotional stability will establish a fuller sense of security.

Third, let the children be free in spirit.

The * * * in the second stage will disappear in about 6 months, and the child will be more physically developed, and can leave his mother's side and feel more space, so the child begins to enter the next stage and separate the individual stage.

At this stage, the child has an independent consciousness in spirit and wants to leave his mother to explore the new world. However, many mothers have a constant dependence on their children because they are too closely related to their emotions at the birth stage, so many subtle emotions will control their children's current activities.

In the long run, the mother's control will be strengthened day by day. Children under this mental control will develop the habit of relying on their mothers when they grow up, and it is difficult to achieve spiritual independence. Moreover, this dependence is only a habit developed under pathological control, not a real sense of security.

However, some mothers will give their children spiritual freedom at the end of their childhood, so that their independent consciousness and thinking ability can develop better. Appropriate relaxation will enhance their sense of security and make their children accomplish much in the future.

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