When someone asked him if he had any regrets, he replied: I killed my mother, but I didn't kill anyone else.
It is shocking that a child of 12 years old killed his mother, and it is even more shocking afterwards.
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Although many days have passed since the incident, I don't want to attract the attention of popular bloggers. I just want to spend more time to understand the child's growth process, think about the logic behind the tragedy, find out the invisible killer and prevent delay.
From his calmness afterwards, it can be seen that he made the decision to kill his mother and put it into action, not because of his fever. In the face of the police and neighbors, his indifference is unusually calm and chilling. Because of his psychological endurance, he has surpassed a mature adult.
The serious lack of rule consciousness is the chief culprit of the tragedy.
In the animal world, most groups have rules not to kill their own kind, and such rules are innate. As a man, he killed his mother like mowing the grass.
Fear of life is man's basic bottom line, and he transcends it. No, but he doesn't have such a bottom line at all. It doesn't matter if he exceeds it.
What made him such a monster? The lack of family education bears the brunt.
Parents work outside the home all the year round, and their education is absent. I'm not saying that parents should not go out to work. We must consider how to balance.
Parents who go out to work shift the responsibility of educating their children to grandparents. In today's society, even Kochi's parents sigh: we don't understand children's happiness! What's more, people who have been separated for generations, not to mention rural people who have not received much education (I am not discriminating against farmers, I am also the first generation of farmers).
The education for the next generation is basically to spoil, just eat and wear, and be responsive. Even parents, people who raise the poor second generation as rich second generation abound.
The child once asked his mother for 50 yuan, but she was indignant when she only gave him 20 yuan. Why do we have to do that？ Because he once stole grandpa's 1000 yuan but was not blamed, let alone pursued.
12-year-old children, living in rural areas, often in 50 yuan, 1000 yuan. Is there a bottom line for children to spend money in these years when their parents go out to work? Have you ever educated your children about money? Not to mention right or wrong.
When farmers' children are raised by the rich second generation, they don't have much educational resources. Coupled with the wrong educational concept, they can only support their poor bodies and poor hearts.
Poverty means no rules and no bottom line.
It is said that Emperor Kangxi had more than 140 sons, and he never hugged them for fear that he would spoil them carelessly. But he likes to have grandchildren, and he says it is not his responsibility to educate them.
A generation of wise kings can't dote on their grandchildren, let alone our humble cloth.
There is a saying in the countryside: one generation governs another. In today's information age, parents' views on education are outdated at any time, not to mention that it is impossible to establish a connection point with their children after a generation, one on the earth and the other on Mars! Make a trite speech?
This kid can't even preach! A child of 12 years old living in the countryside stole 1000 yuan without being blamed or investigated by his grandparents. What does this mean?
There is no bottom line, no rules, that's how it is done.
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It's not that farmers have no formal education. Most of our generation were born and raised in the countryside. You must eat with two hands, chopsticks can't be put in a bowl, the elders can't move chopsticks, and the younger generation can't start work. After eating, you must take your chopsticks to the stove.
There are so many rules just for eating. Has this tradition been passed down?
The sense of rules is developed bit by bit. Now, they are all drowned in doting.
Spoil, let this child have only one rule: grandparents, parents, these resources are all for me, aren't they? Grandpa's 1000 yuan is not a small sum, is it? I stole it. It doesn't matter to me, mom. I ask you for 50, you only give me 30, I smoke, you slap me with a belt, and you're dead.
Children's logical thinking is like this! This is how the logical thinking of monsters is tempered.
After the child was weaned, the mother went out to work. After nearly 10 years of weaning education, my mother came back to give birth to a second child. The purpose of coming back is not to correct children's behavior, but to educate children is incidental.
I don't know what kind of person the child is, there is no systematic education plan, and there is no compensation for blind date families. I don't know much about the child's behavior. Education is also an expedient measure, even a belt.
Tragedy, why not come?
The deceased is gone, and it is painful to learn from it, only for the latecomers.
The class I'm in now is grade nine. More than one-third of the children are in such a family education atmosphere, and each session is even worse. It is likely that the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves before.
The dating of family ties, the lack of educational ideas and the obsolescence of educational methods are behind this trend, and they are also invisible killers.
Not taking part in labor is a direct killer. The best education is labor.
As we all know, the best theory, the most advanced technology and the most advanced philosophy all come from practice. Numerous failures and successes in practice can lead to a feasible theory and then use it to guide practice.
A child's growth should also be like this. When you were young, let the children come in and tidy up the shoes at home. You should always take the child to do it until he becomes a habit.
At this time, you tell him that you need to persist in everything you do. Then, the connotation of "persistence" is integrated into his bones.
If your child never insists on doing something, you always want to tell him this and that, and then you want to do it once and for all. Then the child raised under such circumstances is the most terrible: knowing everything and doing nothing, or to be honest, you are no match for him, and he has never insisted on completing anything.
This is a sign of terminal illness! As parents, we are determined cultivators.
Isn't it? This phenomenon is everywhere around us: we help you do everything well, and you just do your study well; Our family revolves around you. Just grow up healthily.
Theoretically, this is a paradox in itself. You have done everything for your child, and the child must want you to help him with his homework. You will soon say, how can you not understand the great love of your parents and repay us with such achievements?
You want to exchange all your love for your child's good grades, but you don't know that 1 (cat)+1 (chicken) =2 (? ), can this equation be established?
Only by letting children participate in the process of your love can you return love with love, and then turn the superimposed love into the motivation of learning.
The family revolved around the little emperor. Did he grow up healthily? He must be a four-body man, doing nothing and studying in a mess.
Parents occupy all the labor experience, and children have only a single learning experience. If the experience is single, they will feel bored and get poor grades, which is natural.
Multi-directional and multi-level labor experience is a healthy channel for the establishment of rule consciousness and an ideal way for the formation of mode.
Children in rural areas actually have more opportunities for labor experience. "Weed the grass at noon every day, and sweat dripped down the soil". If you don't let him mow the grass at noon every day and let his own sweat drip down the soil, how can he realize that "every grain is hard"? How can we cherish the fruits of labor?
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Stealing home 1000 yuan, does he understand both sides of the RMB? On the one hand, it is the input in the process of labor, on the other hand, it is the output in the process of consumption. Children only experience the fun of consumption, but not the hard work they earn. Then, the RMB he knew was counterfeit, and he was also a dummy, slowly evolving into a monster.
The child who killed his mother and a younger brother. What if he does these things like the child below?
Or take part in labor like this child.
In my hometown, I know four people who have been admitted to Tsinghua. Their parents are not Kochi family. One of my parents is a poor farmer.
After the child was admitted to Tsinghua, he came to visit the teacher who taught him in our junior high school. As soon as we met, I was shocked: he was still wearing the shirt that he graduated from junior high school three years ago!
In high school for three years, I worked in the fields with my parents every summer vacation.
Parents don't know the theory of education, and they don't know the way of education. I only know how to work in the fields, demonstrate and take my children to work.
With all kinds of labor experience, children's cognitive ability is not worse than our parents', and the knowledge gained is flesh and blood and belongs to his own wealth.
Labor is the best education, which can resist all invisible killers.