We have the following suggestions, hoping to give you a healthy view of love.
Although each of us has a different outlook on life, we can't expect others to have the same outlook on life as ourselves, but our outlook on life is divided into healthy and unhealthy.
I have a lot of friends around me, and they are all frustrated by their incorrect view of love.
We should see more positive love guidance and not be influenced by the wrong view of love. We should be willing to cultivate a healthy concept of love, rather than go with the flow.
1. Love is not our life. You have to understand that love is only a part of your life, not the whole of your life. We can't fall in love blindly and recklessly.
Remember, you are independent, free, have your own life and friends, not anyone's accessory!
You can only fall in love because you like it Don't fall in love because you envy others. This is my first suggestion. It's like an exam. You see others hand in their papers before you start to answer them, so you try to write them. But how do you know if the other person has done the problem seriously? How do you know that the other party has written the answer on the test paper?
After going to college, we will find that many friends around us have their own other half, and everyone is in love, so you want to fall in love. Do you really want to fall in love? In fact, you don't know, but you know you are lonely, so you are in love.
I received several confessions after I went to college, but they were not sincere, because I didn't know each other well, and some didn't even say a few words. Maybe I really like it, but it's only a superficial understanding. We don't really know each other. What's the point of such love?
My experience and the experience of my friends around me are: such love often doesn't last long. Not only will it not last long, but it will also consume your enthusiasm and interest in love and even affect your love courage.
3. Don't expect too much from your partner. No one is perfect, none of us is perfect, and we all need to grow and progress. The road of love may not be perfect, but it is indeed a journey full of challenges and growth!
I have to tell the story of my roommate. The two of them can be said to be very loving. The woman is considerate and gentle, and the man is obedient. If there is anything wrong, she will correct it as long as the woman brings it up. On the surface, there seems to be no gap. In fact, men often feel wronged and helpless. They finally broke up because my roommate was too hard on his predecessor. We should face the shortcomings of others rationally, but we should not be too harsh on others.
Moderate expectations bring stability, while excessive expectations turn into disappointment. This passage by Mr. Luo Xiang is similar to my point of view.
4. Keep yourself and don't be a pua anyway. University is the simplest period in our life. We have no love experience, even basic social experience, so it is easy to get lost and confused.
Because of this, it is easy for us to lose ourselves because of our lover's evaluation, and from then on, pua has gone its own way.
My predecessor was a boy who liked pua very much. I am really unhappy, and I always feel inferior when I am with him. This kind of love is unhealthy and discouraged. Moderate advice between lovers can make each other better, but excessive advice to each other is pua behavior!
This interview with Yang Mi moved me very much: "You don't have to like my personality, my appearance, what I say, including everything about me." . But please don't tell me, because I have no obligation to live the way you like, so please stay away from me, don't blame me, don't laugh at me with your thoughts, because I'm not born for you. "
I hope everyone can feel positively what love brings us. Love can be discussed, fast food love can't be discussed, pua love can't be discussed, and quality love can be discussed!
The picture above is a comment about "quality love" that I happened to see. I hope I can help you.