My mother has a cousin, and it was difficult at home when she was a child. But she is optimistic and enterprising in hard days. I heard that she studies while working. Finally, in the first year of resuming the college entrance examination, I seized the opportunity to jump out of the door of agriculture. My mother often inspires me with this aunt's story, especially at the crossroads of my college entrance examination. I had the honor of visiting this distant aunt. To my surprise, her husband is as good as him. They received me warmly and told me politely: if you can't improve yourself silently, you don't deserve a good life, a good day and a good object. When my uncle sent me out, he said to me: I can help you, but if you want to live like your aunt, you should at least go to college. From then on, I deeply understood how the nobility was tempered! !
During the college entrance examination season, my grandfather helped me. I heard that he also reviewed his lessons while feeding cows to the production team, and he knew nine foreign languages. I was admitted to Tsinghua twice, but both failed because of family problems, and finally studied at Shaanxi Normal University. He used to be the president of the student union, and was finally assigned to a factory in Weinan, and later became the workshop director. After I find grandpa's contact information, I often write and call him. At that time, he was approaching retirement age, so he took a break from illness in the late 1990s and went to Shenzhen to work and travel. He wrote me a 3,000-word reply, analyzing my situation and the employment situation in Shenzhen at that time. Most importantly, he told me that you don't need acquaintances to find a job in the south, and you can take as much money as you can. If you want to be vigorous, come to the south; If you want to be plain, stay here. For various reasons, I stayed in the mainland.
I remember when I first went to work, I didn't have the conditions to watch such large-scale life services and emotional programs as "If You Are the One" and "Love Battle". Suffering from love confusion, there is no suitable tutor to consult. I can't talk to my acquaintances around me. Once I happened to travel with the principal, I told the principal what I was thinking. He asked me: Do you spend money with him? I think I just bought him a present. Because that boy is two grades lower than me and hasn't graduated yet. In fact, the principal's question has cleverly contained the answer. I still appreciate it. Being different means being different. It took me most of my life to understand that the old headmaster had already concluded that ginger is still old and spicy!
Later, at the beginning of my marriage, I was very hesitant to step into the army of marriage. A respected colleague of mine told me that since most people can choose to get married, it means that getting married is better than not getting married. When encountering such problems, I always refer to my colleagues' "majority rule". As an ordinary China person, the "majority rule" is a model of the golden mean. As a sister in Guanzhong, I am not familiar with many dishes in southern Shaanxi. Most people usually buy good food.
Just married soon, because of the difficulties in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I am often very upset. I went to consult a wise man, and the wise man told me: When I go to see my mother-in-law, if there are any problems or difficulties, let my husband show his face, and don't force himself to show his face. Really can't. Take a book with you when you pick up the car, and start reading when you talk about sensitive topics. If you are summoned by force, pretend you don't know how to be cute and act stupid. I found it so powerful that it almost never worked.
Another time, I didn't know who would take care of me after I got pregnant, because my mother died of illness. A wise man told me that confinement must be taken care of by my mother. I was dubious at the time. Is it necessary to be so exciting for a month? Later, I experienced it myself, and when my girlfriends were complaining bitterly, I discovered that only mothers can really take care of women. Because in a woman's lifetime health, most emotional and physical problems are generated and accumulated in the second month. Surprisingly, this wise man is a man.
Regarding facial care, I am full of questions about various beauty products. Do not know how to maintain and care. A wise man told me that you only need to do every procedure of washing and wiping your face carefully every day. All kinds of genuine cosmetics are similar, so there is no need to entangle this problem. In fact, learning and daily life are all about doing every detail well, and it is useless to think too much. Life is the same, just do what you should do and do the right thing at the right time and place. Do the program one by one, and it will come naturally.
Each of us has our own crossroads in life, and where to go is very important. Reading thousands of books is better than taking Wan Li Road, and taking Wan Li Road is better than being enlightened by a famous teacher. Wisdom is always there, just like beauty is always there. It depends on whether you have a pair of eyes to find beauty. In writing this article, I want to express my deep gratitude to the mentors who gave me help and guidance at the crossroads of my life.