The temperament of many mothers has changed a lot since their children went to school. Gentle mothers no longer have maternal brilliance, and are called "tigress" and "lioness".

In the eyes of children, mothers have changed from "goddess" to "female nerves", from "wanting nothing" to "avoiding and not seeing", and even the circle of friends has shielded their mothers and let them guard their children and become "empty nesters".

I accidentally saw the fragment of Child Slave, as if I saw the shadow of countless mothers.

Lu Li saw his son Huanhuan doing his homework, so he asked, How's the problem going?

Huanhuan said innocently, Mom, didn't you let me copy English?

Lu Li was in a hurry, turning over the test paper and saying, Didn't I ask you to do the problem? This set, this set, has been done!

Huanhuan was very tired and cried with a sad face: Mom!

Lu Li said bitterly: Hold on a little longer, the exam will come tomorrow, and I will be relieved after the exam.

Huanhuan is crying in the bathtub. He has no energy to do any more problems, but he can't resist.

In order to get a good grade in the exam and please his mother, he made a cheat sheet and was found by the teacher.

Lu Li burst into tears and scolded, Why do you want to learn from your father's lies? I want nothing. I just hope you study hard and have a good exam. Why did you cheat?

She couldn't accept Huanhuan's apology and let her son reflect outside the door.

Huanhuan was finally forced to run away from home. He wrote a letter to his mother, telling her that he had tried his best and just wanted to make her happy and forgive her father.

Huanhuan is not useless. He has his hobbies and likes ship models. Lu Li didn't agree. Lu Li was very unhappy that the model airplane won the prize. What she wanted at that time was for Huanhuan to study. Killing the child's talent in the bud, thinking that there is only one way to learn, ruining the child's future and ruining the family's care.

Sadly, many mothers don't think they are pushing their children, but think it is for their own good. Finally, they were hurt, but no one understood the sadness behind them.

According to a joint survey of Beijing News, 50% of fathers spend less time with their children 1 hour every day, and more than 60% of fathers can't spare time to accompany their children because of their busy work. More than 20% fathers don't realize the importance of accompanying their children.

Although women hold up half the sky, they have always been a vulnerable group, and it is often women who sacrifice for their families. How many families have become widowed while walking? Dad is the shopkeeper of cutting and mom is the main force of parenting.

I go to parent-teacher conferences, most of them are mothers, and I seldom see my father. There are six parents sitting in a row, so it's not easy to find dad. Dad's holding a parent-teacher conference is just a show. My son, the father of a classmate, always goes to a parent-teacher conference, but he never tells his mother what he said when he comes home. My mother even asked me in private.

Those who accompany homework, pick up and drop off children, accompany children to various interest classes, and are busy with children's various materials are all mothers, and fathers exist in a vacuum and are indifferent to children's affairs.

Seeing the time plan published by Yun-peng Yue, the time for tutoring homework is only 2 minutes, and there are still 28 minutes. Call my daughter-in-law to help with my homework. Weigh yourself for 5 minutes, play with your mobile phone for 30 minutes after waking up, take a selfie for an hour, and find an activity casually than spend more time alone with your children. Netizens shouted, this is the "true feelings in the world", and they are all kindred spirits!

Jordan chan is well known and loved by many people because he and his son Jasper participated in variety activities such as Where is Dad? But in fact, my mother Cherrie Ying did the most. Cherrie Ying accompanied Jasper with his homework and sincerely encouraged him to learn Chinese. When Jasper behaved badly, Cherrie Ying was very strict with him and even yelled at him, which is a true portrayal of an ordinary mother.

The father ignored the children, so the mother had to face the difficulties. The baby is the meat that fell from her. It is grateful that she chose you as her mother. Who cares?

If you ask your mother why she forces her children to study, she always says it's for their own good. Because the fairest way to become a talent now is to study, get into a good junior high school, a good high school, a good university and find a good job. There is a lot of competitive pressure. If you don't study, others are studying hard, so you can only go to the bottom of society.

If it weren't for the future, mothers wouldn't push their children. It is difficult to look after their children. There is no mother who does not feel distressed, but the reality is helpless, which makes the eager mother go against her will and deprive her child of a happy childhood.

In fact, mothers force their children to study, not only for their children, but also for their own face. It is very representative to see many netizens' messages.

Mothers don't want their children to have a bad life. Whether they live at the bottom or at the top, their wishes are the same. A mother said, I am an uneducated mother, and I don't want my children to do bottom-level jobs like me. The comparison between highly educated mothers is even more serious. Who doesn't want to compare it to you better?

Many mothers have no sense of self-worth and will pin their hopes on their children, so that they can realize their ideals and become the people they want to be. Their children's success is their own success.

Mother is afraid that if she doesn't force her child now, she will regret it later. My colleague's daughter didn't want to learn the piano when she was a child, so her mother agreed with her. But when my daughter grew up, she saw her classmates playing the piano gracefully and began to complain: "Mom, why don't you push me!" "

If children can be content with mediocrity, not compare with others, not conservative, and not complaining that their parents didn't force them to be excellent, their mothers won't force them to be cruel now.

These are long-term interests, but the immediate reality is that children who behave badly will be named and talked about, and their faces will not hang up. The child's grades are not good, and her husband doesn't understand, "Don't you just bring a child?" I can't do this well! "

The censure of the school and the questioning of my husband made my mother feel very sorry.

Motherly love, like cotton, is suffocating warm.

Mom thinks it's good for her children, but it makes them make enemies.

Mother-killing incidents have occurred one after another, which makes people shudder to think of it. The reason is that the mother is too strict with the child and does not leave room for the child. Those children are not poor in grades, but excellent in studies, but psychologically distorted to the extreme. Many mothers only pay attention to superficial Excellence, but ignore psychological guidance.

I have repeatedly revealed that my mother accompanied her children to do homework, which made me have a heart attack. I was so angry that I jumped into the river and died. I like it very much. The higher the expectation for children, the more disappointment and pain, and hurting children will also hurt themselves.

Children will hurt themselves as well as others. Every time I run away from home and commit suicide, I feel so sad. Eiko in Little Joy is a portrayal of many children. Eiko wants to apply for a school in Nanjing to escape her mother's discipline, but her mother still won't let go, asking her to stay in Beijing for college so that she can take care of it. Eiko could not resist, but jumped off the bridge to commit suicide.

Some people say that today's children are very fragile, but in fact he is a warrior. It is impossible for a fragile person to make such a move. He is actually retaliating and punishing his parents by hurting himself, leaving his parents with lifelong pain, which is irreparable.

Zhihu's last well-received answer hit the nail on the head: Parents regard their children as investment products, so the cruelest way is of course to let their children lose all their money.

Wu Zhihong said that it stands to reason that when parents get along with their children, you should always be in the latitude of relationship and treat their children with affection. Unfortunately, many parents' relationship latitude has not developed, so there is only one narcissistic dimension when facing children and things.

Mothers who discipline their children severely may care more about their face than their children.

The child can't choose who to be his mother. Since he is lucky enough to come to our home, we have the obligation and responsibility to let him enjoy this wonderful world.

There are many ways to discipline children. You can use gentleness and firmness instead of yelling, and you can use reasonable expectations instead of high hopes. Every family is different, and every child is unique. Why insist on consistency? According to the characteristics of children, let him do what he likes and take the right track.

In addition to strict discipline of children, mothers will also be very busy. Pay attention to your health, do body care every week, dress up and change your mood. Grow flowers, listen to music, cultivate sentiment, play games and play with another child. When you focus on other things, you won't be angry and bored because you pay too much attention to your children.

Spanish poet Cervantes said: "A father's virtue is his son's best legacy. A good father is better than 100 good teachers. "

Dad is also a member of the family. "It is the father's fault not to teach" is also our old saying. Dad should take up the responsibility of educating his children.

Moreover, dad has a great influence on children, which can make boys more sunny and adventurous, and make girls more secure, cheerful and confident.

Create more time for children to get along with their fathers, so that children can have a complete family education. It's a good idea for dad to exercise and chat with him.

Mom let go, children relax, for the sake of children's future, but also for themselves, it is time to change!