I believe that many brothers have met many girls during the dating process, but most of them are actually unfamiliar or have not said a few words. However, what should we do when they ask us for help? No matter what the request is, I don't want to agree; Consider whether this girl has a chance to decide; Or politely refuse!
Today, I won't tell you how to solve these demands of my sister, only how to refuse. Of course, some small things can also help, which can also create invitation opportunities. The key is to look at the right girl. Blindly answering can only cause my sister that you are a low-value person who has no challenge and can't get into her heart at all. Then why do you ask for your help? Because you're a good spare tire, and it's still useful. When you can't help but confess, this spare tire relationship is basically over, not turning positive but out.
And when you refuse a girl, there will be a crisis at this time.
First: Sister won't talk to you in the future, because you are not her target. If you can't make a spare tire, it's useless. Goodbye, it's a waste of time.
Second: My sister thinks you are not so casual, because if you are casual, you may be casual to anyone. At this time, you will have another feeling that you don't like it, but at least you won't be easy to ask for help next time. You are not a spare tire. She may invite you to dinner when you help. At this time, this is a positive development.
In fact, sometimes there are opportunities in a crisis, as long as you grasp them well. When the crisis comes, it can break the previous comfort and break the friendship zone.
Many brothers always ask, how do you break into the friendship zone when chatting? Afraid of losing, afraid to challenge. It is not difficult to break through the friendship zone, break the comfort and let her know that you are a bad person.
Well, always moving from one topic to another, like chatting, can be extended indefinitely. The key point here is that everyone must dare to make a decision to refuse, and don't blindly do good things to the end, living Lei Feng. Some people dare not refuse, partly because of inferiority. Because of inferiority, they are eager to have friends, and they try to get friends with this flattering behavior. You are wrong. Any behavior that pleases others is not respected, and the lover knows it well. There are still some people who are used to employing people, thinking that others owe them. Hehe, this idiot is better to stay away.
Then how to refuse each other without hurting feelings, well, the point is coming, and I will introduce them to you one by one.
1. Use silence to express refusal.
Case 1: When someone asks, "Do you like someone?" If you don't like it in your heart, then you can say nothing or laugh it off. If you like to say it directly, don't be afraid Anyway, I never shy away. I have a thick skin.
Case 2: There was a sister before. I haven't contacted for more than a month, and suddenly a message came. She opened a Taobao to help me buy services and then transferred the money to me. I will be very happy. We talked about money as soon as we met. I'll do whatever you say. Why don't you transfer the money to me first? You asked me for help, not me.
Of course, I just kept silent and didn't reply. Some brothers are worried, what if my sister ignores us? Sister is interested in you and can't contact you for a month? Suddenly something happened, walking towards you. Do you still want to date such a girl? Don't be silly, good spare tire.
The most painful thing is: I don't choose you, but I won't let you go. Even if I don't love you, you can't love others.
This is very similar to my college roommate Xiaohai's bloody experience as a spare tire in those years. I believe many spare tires will feel the same way. Now as long as this matter is mentioned, Xiaohai will tell me: I can only blame the lack of shit at that time, and I will be willing to use the best college time in my life as a spare tire for scum.
I have to say that as a bystander, Xiaohai is too wronged to be a spare tire.
At that time, the goddess of Xiaohai was Xiaohai's senior and fellow villager. In the process of getting along later, Xiaohai fell in love with each other. Then the goddess knew that Xiaohai liked her, and Xiaohai also explicitly hinted at her. But the goddess just doesn't give the child a clear answer and keeps hanging on him.
At that time, Xiaohai thought it might be that I didn't work hard enough and wasn't good enough. I believe that one day I will become better and the other person will be with me.
So in this illusory hope, Xiaohai is willing to be the spare tire of the other party for three years. In the past three years, Xiaohai can be said to be on call and on call. But even so, the goddess has experienced from single to love and then to single, and still has no choice to be with him.
Finally Xiaohai finally gave up and started a new relationship.
At this time, the goddess began to sit still after learning that her spare tire Xiaohai had a girlfriend. Then the goddess began to change her mind and began to talk about Xiaohai privately. In fact, now I find that I like you a little. Do you think we can still be together?
Later, Xiao Hai broke up with his girlfriend at the instigation of the goddess, but in the end, the goddess didn't stay with him as promised. Instead, we began to re-export, saying that we are actually good friends. Finally, Xiaohai thoroughly saw his position as a spare tire in the mind of the goddess. I thought the goddess changed her mind because she found her love in hindsight, but she didn't.
The goddess just felt unwilling, unwilling that the person who has been on call to be caring and attentive turned around and threw himself into the arms of others.
I won't choose you for this selfish behavior, but I won't let you go. Even if I don't love you, you can't love others.
I just want to say, divines, male god, if you don't love others, don't delay them.
Please be merciful, spare the spare tire and give them an end.
2. Use procrastination to express your refusal
Case 1: If you go shopping with a girl, she sees a beautiful dress and wants you to buy it. Your's relationship may be ambiguous, but you don't want to invest too much. What are you doing at this time?
It's simple. Pat his pocket and say, "I forgot my wallet. . . . Poor. "
Remember! When a girl really likes a boy, she will buy her own beautiful clothes and ask if you are beautiful or not, and even help you buy them instead of asking you to buy them for her. If a brother says this is also a way to like them. Ok has a unique taste and likes gold diggers. There is nothing to say!
Case 2: If you have an appointment with a girl today to start watching movies tonight, then another girl wants to ask you out: XX movie is good, let's go and watch it together. How can you refuse?
It's simple: tomorrow, I'll call you then.
3. Use rhetorical questions to express your refusal
When we are chatting, we often encounter all kinds of waste tests from our sisters, which is hard to prevent. And there is a fatal waste test, that is, chatting with my sister and opening my mouth: "Do you like me?" The little white student's face lit up when he heard this sentence, and he quickly confessed. As a result, my sister replied: we are not suitable, I just regard you as a good friend. Sister replied 2: Really? Student Xiao Bai, if you show loyalty again, you will die even worse.
Smart students will understand at a glance that this is not an induced confession. How to refuse this temptation? It's actually very simple: what do you think? Leave the question to the girl. I often use this trick, don't you think? If I meet a girl who likes me, I will drag her chin and kiss her!
4. Choose another topic and say "No"
Choosing other topics, of course, is to change the topic in our skills. In the process of our interaction with my sister, my sister likes to use hints very much. She doesn't ask directly, but her intention is between the lines. Some small white students think they are smart and have read the signals of their sisters. Go on your knees. As everyone knows, we read the signal and understood the subtext of our sister. Then, change the subject and buy what we want.
Case: One day, my sister went shopping and saw a beautiful skirt in the mall. She tried again and again and took photos. She liked it but didn't buy it. I talked to my boyfriend about this at night. Of course, Xiao Bai secretly wrote it down and bought it tomorrow to win the smile of the hostess.
And smart students may say, why don't you put it on and send me a photo? I think it will look good on you, and then Balabala. . .
The communication between people is an equal treatment. Sometimes the first lesson in life is to learn to say "no". Many people say it is difficult to refuse others, yes. I think at that time, I also had various difficulties. Refusing sometimes means losing, and not refusing sometimes means losing more. Lose yourself and find yourself from now on. Let yourself have self-esteem and dignity. My sister likes this. Try it if you don't believe me.