However, some people think that the money given by the husband is still his pocket money and cannot be regarded as his own source of income. So I still have ideas about going out to work, trying to get rid of this life trapped at home and find my true self.
In the eyes of outsiders, the life of a stay-at-home mother is stress-free, and it is enough to manage her own home, but life is like a fish drinking water. For stay-at-home mothers, they always yearn for their own independent work to make money.
Qingqing has been living a life envied by others. When she was young, her parents were intellectuals, so she was a well-off family. Both material and spiritual needs can be met. When she grew up, she went to a key university step by step. She is someone else's child in everyone's eyes. Even when she was in love, her family was suitable and she was in business. She doesn't have to worry about her future life at all. The only thing she needs to worry about is her body and health.
Life that sounds perfect, even if it is carefully planned, is rarely so perfect. Therefore, in the eyes of Qingqing's best friend, she has always admired Qingqing. She thinks Qingqing lives the life she wants, but Qingqing doesn't think so. Instead, she always complains about her life.
Qing Qing said: I am a full-time wife at home every day. I'm so tired. Since I gave birth to a child, my life has been centered on children. I am responsible for the diet and daily life of two children every day. I'm afraid they can't eat well and sleep well. In order to balance their diet, I look up recipes online every day. Now Dabao is in primary school, and the competitive pressure of children is not small. Many people are in cram schools. So, in order not to be looked down upon by the teacher, I have to help Dabao with his homework. Bao Xiao is still young, but he also needs my company, so I spend the rest of my free time playing with him. If I had a choice, I would rather go to work than stay at home every day and watch myself become a yellow-faced woman.
Qingqing's best friend can only persuade her to say: You stay at home now, and your husband pays you 8,000 yuan a month, isn't it more than you earn at work? Aren't you satisfied? I think you should learn to be content. After hearing this, Qing Qing did not agree, and even felt a sense of injustice that was not understood.
Qing Qing had her own job before, and her salary was not as much as the pocket money her husband gave her now, but she earned it all by herself, so she didn't feel guilty when she spent it, which was particularly practical. She earns 5000 yuan a month, and she can do whatever she wants. When she sees what she wants to buy, she can buy it without thinking too much. Now her husband gives her 8000 yuan a month. The money can only be used for family and children, not just his own money at all.
If you want to buy a dress, you must put up with her husband's questioning. In particular, you don't feel free and have no status in this family. It seems that you are just a nanny, taking care of the children, cleaning up the housework and doing what you should do. You can't ask for anything higher.
However, if you still have your own financial resources, you can spend your own money and don't have to stay at home any more. You can play your role and value in the workplace, instead of just being a useless housewife, as if you can't live without men.
Qingqing is troubled by this life without freedom and respect, but her best friend envies her because Qingqing is in happiness. Qingqing is looking for her own way out and trying to start a new life, but she is trapped by her children and can't really take this step.
It is said that maternal love is great. In fact, women are strong when they are weak. After becoming a mother, women have to bear heavier responsibilities, and the rest of the family has become more dependent on themselves. They really want their own space and time, but others may feel uncomfortable. Not all women want to live a carefree life and be a full-time wife. Women also have lofty goals, and they also want to realize their own values. More importantly, they want to keep themselves, instead of being trapped between the kitchen and love after giving birth, losing their wings and becoming broken-winged angels.
It may be a very happy thing to have a fixed allowance for a month, but when the money is strictly watched and all expenses are forced to be clear, there will be a sense of fatigue. What about the money you earned? Will the results be different and the feelings in my heart be different? What women struggle with is whether they can spend money with dignity and gain the respect of others. In other places, they can also let others see their bright spots.