-Which is more important, love or career?

Content summary:

Life is a famous work by Lu Yao. Through the understanding of the author's own experience, we find that the contradiction arranged by Lu Yao in his works has been faced by Lu Yao himself. The heart rain story between him and his first girlfriend Lin Hong is doomed to be a lifelong pain. At the same time, it is this kind of pain that gives him creative material and talent. It's a pity that even if he finished his life, he didn't know whether his original choice was right or wrong. There is a contradiction that always puzzles the author himself, that is, the contradiction between love and career, which is reflected in his life and in other works. This paper tries to show the contradiction between Lu Yao's love and career, and draws the contradiction center of Lu Yao-which is more important?

Keywords: love career contradictions

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This theory: 1. The performance of Lu Yao's ambivalence;

1 Arrange Gao Jialin to choose Huang Yaping.

In life, Lu Yao arranged two choices for Gao Jialin, one is Huang Yaping who has the same language as her first love, and the other is Liu Qiaozhen, a rural girl who doesn't know a word. Although she is facing two girls, she is also facing the choice of her whole life. If she is with Yaping, not only will they have a common language, but more importantly, you can go to a big city like Nanjing to show your talents. But Gao Jialin is a young man with lofty ideals. What if he's with Qiaozhen? Let's use the words in the article to describe it. "He thought: Qiaozhen will never develop in the future except being an excellent rural housewife. If he is a farmer all his life, he will be satisfied with Qiaozhen's combination. But now I am a "public official", and I have little interest in living together if I want to marry Qiaozhen in the future. And it's hard to have the same language: he wants to write articles, but Qiaozhen can only speak rural mother-in-law. The last time she came to see him, she was obviously moved by his distress. Besides, if he married Qiaozhen, he would actually be tied to this county. And his yearning is very high and far away. Once he worked in the county, he thought that he would never stay here for a lifetime in the future; I want to fly far away and go to a big place to develop my future. Now, all this is waiting for him to say "yes". " (1) Faced with such a choice, combined with his own experience, Lu Yao can only choose to face the reality and let Gao Jialin choose Huang Yaping, which is determined by objective reality, instead of letting him give up everything for love as in too many romance novels. Lu Yao himself knows this very well and agrees with it ideologically. This is the value of realistic literature.

2 Gao Jialin's treatment:

Although he let Gao Jialin choose Yaping in Lu Yao's ideological understanding, at the end of the novel, we can see that the author let Gao Jialin return to the countryside and let Qiaozhen marry someone else mercilessly, thus almost killing the poor young man mentally. The plot in a writer's works is of course a reflection of the writer's own thoughts, so it is almost impossible to have no prejudice at all. As can be seen from the ending of Lu Yao's life, he was against Gao Jialin's choice, even disgusted, so he arranged such a tragic ending for him, which can be proved in his comments on life long after he finished writing this work. He once commented on Gao Jialin in his works: "To tell the truth, I am also studying him as a figure in Gao Jialin. Because of this, I didn't simply answer what kind of person this character is in my works. Young people in their twenties like Gao Jialin have insufficient life experience and have just set foot on the road of life. Immature is inevitable. " (2) He is always saying that Gao Jialin's thoughts are not very rational, and he is not very mature in the face of major choices in life, which makes people wonder where he is not mature. If he chooses Qiaozhen, will he really mature? At this point, the author did not give a corresponding explanation, and I think it is hard for the author to make it clear, because the author said in a long talk with Wang Yu that I am also studying the character Gao Jialin. It can be seen that the author is troubled in this respect.

Second, the causes of Lu Yao's ambivalence.

1 the author's own love experience

(1) Falling in love with Lin Hong is an act of god and a human favor, so love comes first and then fate. The first love between Lu Yao and a Beijing girl is also a kind of fate. At that time, Lu Yao, an educated youth who graduated from junior high school and returned home, was very beautiful. He used to be the most powerful person in Yanchuan County. He led more than 8,000 soldiers of Gongsi Field Army in the same boat and was invincible. At this time, as a representative of the masses, he was elected as the deputy director of the county revolutionary Committee. He presided over several massive mass criticism meetings in Yanchuan County. Lin Hong, a Beijing girl, was in the art team of Yanchuan County. Two people naturally met. Lin Hong is good at singing and dancing, lively and beautiful. Lu Yao is very fond of her, and Lm Hong is also fond of Lu Yao's talent and personality. It can be said that Lu Yao is the sweetest during this time. Not only is her career thriving, but the girl she likes is also around. Many of Lu Yao's works are descriptions of beautiful love, which is inseparable from his beautiful first love.

(2) Give the opportunity of conscription to Lin Hong 1970. In the spring of 1970, the country recruited the educated youth who jumped the queue for the first time, and Lin Hong failed the physical examination. At that time, the county decided to send Lu Yao as a worker, with limited indicators. Only one of them can go. Lu Yao gave Lin Hong the index of being a worker, and through a few die-hard friends, things succeeded. At that time, Lu Yao can be said to have young and impulsive factors in it, but he also had a great sense of pride in sacrificing for love. At least at that time, he was completely voluntary.

(3) The pain of frustration and lovelorn Lu Yao's beloved girl went to the mailbox of a city, became a worker and left northern Shaanxi. Lin Hong's first month's salary was all sent to Lu Yao, and it was clearly written in the letter that he wanted to buy cigarettes. Send back a pack of Baocheng brand cigarettes the next month. I don't know why, from a letter in January to a letter in March, there was no letter the following year. This incident did great harm to Lu Yao's feelings. The long road in danger, the leaking house and even the rainy weather all made him grow many sores, which made him unable to walk for two months. One day, the military representative of the County Revolutionary Committee found Lu Yao lying in a hospital bed and announced a document to him. This document was once all-powerful: the core leading group of the County Revolutionary Committee decided to stop Lu Yao's position as deputy director of the County Revolutionary Committee and conduct an isolation review. There are always many unexplained coincidences in life. At noon on the day when it was announced that Lu Yao would be censored, a letter from Inner Mongolia that broke off relations with Lu Yao stung his heart. It turned out that Lin Hong's love for Lu Yao was "indecisive" after he became a worker (when Lu Yao was still a farmer), so he wrote to his girlfriend in Inner Mongolia for advice. Unexpectedly, my girlfriend didn't wait for Lin Hong's consent, so she wrote a letter to sever the relationship and sent it to Lu Yao. The ship was destroyed by the wind. Lu Yao, who was once extremely stubborn and proud, fell from the cliff to the bottom of the ditch this time. Young people's success and sudden failure in the middle can't stand the blow of this storm. He cried, his heart ached and tears welled up. (3) At least at that time, Lu Yao regretted it. It should be said that this experience is an unforgettable pain in his life. Of course, this unforgettable experience also made him mature a lot in thought, and also gave him rich writing materials. Many of his works, especially his short stories, reflect this problem. For example, "usury", "me in pain" and "life" in Sister are the most prominent. As far as the endings of these works are concerned, most of Lu Yao did not give a good ending to novelists who abandoned their original lovers, either like Gao Jialin in life or "I" in pain. Thus, many years later, Lu Yao's eyes are still worried about what Lin Hong did at that time. Obviously, he regretted his choice at that time. Such a shadow has been buried in his heart.

2 own view of love

(1) The influence of traditional morality

& lt 1 & gt； Motherly love consciousness of land symbol

Reading Lu Yao's "Life" is always shrouded in a sentimental mood, and he is deeply unhappy about Joe's true infatuation. But think about it from another angle, that preconceived emotion has been questioned. Perhaps the author questioned the traditional view of love and the role of traditional women in the social transformation period. As a traditional woman, Liu Qiaozhen was shrouded in the sacred aura of maternal love. She carefully cultivated the fruits of love in a gentle and considerate way, showing the affection of a mother to her children and a sister to her brother in family ethics life. Please have a look at the description of Gao Jialin and Liu Qiaozhen's tryst at night:

In the evening, after dark, he and Qiaozhen met in the field outside the village ... When they were tired, they found a quiet place. Garin lay down, sighed happily and relaxed the fatigue of labor. Qiaozhen snuggled up to him, tidying up his dusty hair, or gently sticking her mouth to his ear and gently singing him ancient songs handed down from generation to generation. Sometimes, ④

Here, there is neither a pledge of eternal love nor an outbreak of passion. Liu Qiaozhen is like a young mother, humming nursery rhymes and coaxing her children to sleep quietly. What a quiet and warm picture of family life! In this emotional mode, maternal love has a complete spirit of self-dedication. For men, from the first day of love, they closely linked their fate with each other and gave everything without reservation. Although they have suffered, they feel sweet and happy inside. It is through this selfless dedication that they can experience the existence and value of their own lives. Liu Qiaozhen is infatuated with Gao Jialin. When she saw her beloved Ringo working and suffering in the field, her heart ached. She said, "Brother Lin, if you don't dislike me, let's live together and have a family. I'll work for you in the mountains, and you won't suffer. " Liu Qiaozhen is willing to exchange the fatigue of her life for the happiness and relaxation in Gao Jialin's life. In order to express the sincerity of love, regardless of the ridicule of the world and the abuse of her parents, she rode into town openly with Gao Jialin, causing an uproar in Gaojia Village. When Gao Jialin went to work in the county, she kept asking about the cold and care, and took good care of her in-laws at home. When Gao Jialin broke up, although an emotional storm tore at her painful soul, under the restraint of reason, she not only didn't take revenge in the city, but gave consideration and understanding to Garin's behavior. Gao Jialin was finally sent back to the village by the county. Qiaozhen tried to dissuade her sister from taking the opportunity to embarrass Garin after hearing the news. At the same time, in her broken heart, she even felt pain and sadness for Galin's difficult situation, and tried to arrange teaching work for Galin through kindness. This kind of sincere and selfless dedication to the loved ones at the expense of self-restraint is called a kind of gold-precious emotion, but it embodies the greatness of maternal love in essence. Such traditional women not only have the spirit of self-sacrifice, but also have a kind heart like a bodhisattva. This is mainly reflected in the fact that people like them do not envy rich children or cling to those hot and powerful people, but despise playboys and arrogant and conceited men. They often love those little people who are insulted and hurt, and they do not hesitate to dedicate themselves to the weak in life. Therefore, in this kind of love, sympathy and pity are often permeated, and the combination of pity and love has entered the level of maternal love, which shows that such women can fully realize the gentleness and strong sense of responsibility like children, gain spiritual comfort and realize the satisfaction of self-worth in life by sheltering the victims. In the face of such love, as the son of a farmer, Lu Yao has no courage to betray, which can be said to be quite pious, and can even be described as yearning. Therefore, when someone wants to betray, Lu Yao should be the first person to stand up against it, because as a son who grew up on the land, he can better understand the greatness of the land and the greatness of maternal love, and he can't blaspheme and be unfair to the land and his mother. This is also one of the important reasons why Lu Yao sent Gao Jialin back to the countryside.

& lt2> The influence of traditional old moral culture centered on land.

In life, Lu Yao described many people and things that embodied noble morality. Reading this book, we can always feel that the author is holding a ruler high, which is the basic criterion for judging people and things and the main criterion for judging values. This ruler is ethics. The author has strong personal feelings in his writing, and often makes his own comments directly or indirectly on the people and things in his works. Whether he is praised or belittled depends on whether he meets this moral standard. This extreme emphasis on ethics actually shows that the author is influenced by the traditional culture of China. Among the traditional cultures in China, the most authentic Confucian culture attaches great importance to ethics, which is one of the characteristics of Confucian culture. Confucius said, "The benevolent loves others." Feng Youlan explained: "With regard to human virtue, Confucius emphasized benevolence and was characterized by benevolence. Righteousness is what it should be, that is, it should be. But the essence of these obligations is love, which is benevolence. ⑤ In this book, many people have the idea of "benevolence" and "saving the world" in traditional virtues, which is commendable. The emphasis on morality is most obvious in Sun Shaoping in Ordinary World. Yu Ying insulted him in public, but he risked his life to save her from the flood. He saved Hao Hongmei who failed him emotionally without hesitation; He stepped forward to save Xiaocui who was bullied by the contractor and gave her 100 hard-earned money; He pushed away the drunken coal miner, but he was seriously injured. Sun Shaoping can almost be said to have an ideal "gentleman" personality. In life, after being mercilessly abandoned by Gao Jialin, Liu Qiaozhen turned evil into good and tried her best to help Gao Jialin. Zhang Kenan was in great pain when he learned that his mother had used despicable means to retaliate against Gao Jialin. When Sun Shaoan's economy improved slightly, it vigorously helped the poor in the village; After Li Xiangqian was disabled, Tian Runye resolutely returned to him and assumed all the responsibilities of being a wife. Lu Yao warmly praised these behaviors and even stood up from time to time to sing bad songs as an author. Taking morality as the measure of value judgment is also reflected in the arrangement of the ending of the characters. People with high morality can live happily, but those who violate morality will be punished. The tragic fate of Gao Jialin's return to the countryside is because he abandoned Liu Qiaozhen and fell in love with Huang Yaping ―― if Liu Qiaozhen had not been abandoned, he would not have fallen in love with Huang Yaping, and Zhang Kenan's mother would not have complained. When Gao Jialin returned to the countryside again, the author arranged for the children to sing: "Brother, you won't succeed if you don't betray your conscience-",which gave Gao Jialin a heavy moral condemnation. The Sun Shaoan family, who meets the moral requirements, is getting happier and happier.

In these two works, the main characters written by Lu Yao, Gao Jialin, Sun Shaoping, Sun Shaoan and Tian Xiaoxia all have noble integrity, which can really meet the requirements of "wealth can't be lewd, power can't be bent, and poverty can't be moved". Many small people, such as Sun, Gao Yude and Deshun, have hearts like the earth and shine with the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. exist

In life, whether it is about secular human feelings, affection or love between men and women, it shows the breath of China traditional culture everywhere, and always emphasizes the aesthetic norms of traditional ethics. Lu Yao was undoubtedly deeply influenced by China's traditional ethics, especially Confucian ethics. For thousands of years, ethics has been the main criterion to judge the literary value of China. Lu Yao is the conscious inheritor of China's literary tradition of "writing carries Tao", and his values are inevitably reflected in his works.

(2) the author's own romantic plot

& lt 1 & gt； The customs and cultural environment have created the romantic temperament of people in northern Shaanxi.

Northern Shaanxi used to be a multi-ethnic nomadic land, forming a multi-ethnic mixed pattern. People in northern Shaanxi are bold and tenacious, like freedom, excitement and prosperity, which is probably directly related to the development of China's ancient history, multi-ethnic coexistence and the integration of Chinese culture. Today, the language of people living in northern Shaanxi is often mixed with the place names and vocabulary of other languages, which is a historical reason. Therefore, although the working people in northern Shaanxi are in a harsh natural environment, they are not just moping and waiting for the coming of suffering, but actively fighting hard and long for improving their living conditions. Poverty makes them full of expectations for a better life, more active in thinking and richer in imagination. When he was saddest, he did not forget happiness, and even expressed suffering with the most beautiful melody. Therefore, northern Shaanxi, like ethnic minorities, is good at singing and dancing and has a unique artistic expression. The men and women in this land wrote romance, freedom and beauty with their lives in the barren land. Its beauty lies in that it does not express suffering by suffering, but transforms suffering into an illusion higher than happiness. In this way, the original miserable life, through singing folk songs, has formed another kind of joyful lyric scene completely different from reality. In the long process of historical development, this romantic temperament of northern Shaanxi people has gradually formed. Once formed, it will develop endlessly. As a writer, Lu Yao has always said that writers can't lose the feeling of ordinary workers in their creation, and he has always done so in the process of creation. His works are basically created in the countryside. Have a full understanding and experience of the local customs of my hometown. In addition, he is a child who grew up on the yellow land, which makes him understand that he inevitably has all the romantic temperament of northern Shaanxi people.

& lt2> My own love experience proves that,

Just now I have talked about Lu Yao's love experience. It can give up its career for its lover. Not everyone can do this. It takes a lot of courage. At that time, Lu Yao may have been a little young and made such a move. But in his later works, too many protagonists gave up their careers for love like him. This can be said to be his fixed thinking mode. Obviously, his psychology was readable at that time, and because of this, we can judge that he is a very romantic person. At that time, we could only believe that he could give up his life for Lm Hong, which didn't make people feel organs because he was such a person. In his eyes, emotion is always above everything else, which is why he can write this wonderful love story.

The description of beautiful love experience in<3>'s works

There are too many descriptions of beautiful love experiences in Lu Yao's works. We can imagine how a person who has no romantic temperament and beautiful love expectation can write such a beautiful love experience. In his love description, there is too much purity and too much romance. From these descriptions, we can see the author's own romantic temperament, and we can also see the author's yearning and longing for a beautiful love experience. ..

The essence of ambivalence-the contest between the old and new views of love in the period of social transformation

(1) Result: Both sides lose-Yaping was chosen but suffered misfortune.

In Life, the author asked Gao Jialin to watch Ye Ping, but it also gave Gao Jialin a tragic result. What is this for? Because there is a certain inevitability, in the author's mind, there is no doubt that Gao Jialin's approach is wrong, even unforgivable, which can be seen from many readers' comments on the works. Similarly, in the author's eyes, Gao Jialin's actions should also be punished, but the author has clearly seen the inevitability and helplessness of Gao Jialin's choice. It can be said that he sympathized with and understood Gao Jialin's practice, but it was not enough for the author to let her go or forgive his poor Qiaozhen's way of treating Gao Jialin. It can be said that Lu Yao is painstaking and thoughtful about this task. Yes, did he deserve it? Does he deserve it? Don't just attribute it to fate, then, it can be said that in this world, too many people have done the same thing to Gao Jialin, and those who have done the same thing have not got such an ending to Gao Jialin. So it can be judged that this is the author's intention, so why should the author tease such an ambitious young man?

(2) Reason: The author himself can't completely break through the shackles of old love thoughts.

The description of love is the highlight of Life and Ordinary World. Lu Yao described a lot in his works, from which we can infer his view of love: the conflict between tradition and modernity. Many love stories are described in life and ordinary world, including the love of Sun Shaoping and Tian Xiaoxia, Gao Jialin and Liu Qiaozhen, and Sun Shaoan, Tian Runjinbo and Tian Runsheng. In these two works, simple love often has no good result, but without the combination of love, it is often very happy. Lu Yao's description of these loves and his handling of the ending of love show his profound ideological consciousness and aesthetic consciousness in the patriarchal society.

There are two contradictions in the author's description of love: on the one hand, pure love is extremely beautiful, fiery, infectious and fascinating; On the other hand, it is the ruthless end of beautiful love, which makes people feel sorry and heartbroken. Gao Jialin and Liu Qiaozhen, Sun Shaoping and Tian Xiaoxia, Sun Shaoan and Tian Runye, Qinghai girl and Jin Bo, their feelings are pure and beautiful, beyond the secular concept, and they are our true love. However, in life and the ordinary world, these loves are all shattered without exception. Why is this? In Life and Ordinary World, Lu Yao's attitude towards love is modern on the surface, which can be said to be avant-garde and bold. Despite her parents' troubles and obstacles, Gao Jialin Liu Qiaozhen persistently determined their love relationship, and even dared to openly challenge the authority and secular vision of her elders. The Sun Shi brothers got a more otherworldly love. Sun Shaoping's lover Tian Xiaoxia was born in Gao Qian. When she was in love, her father Tian Fujun went from the district commissioner to the prefectural party committee secretary and then to the municipal party committee secretary where the provincial capital was located. And she herself, after graduating from college, was hired as a reporter by the provincial newspaper with her talent and excellent performance. An unusual girl like Tian Xiaoxia has to marry an outstanding national cadre, right? But she actually fell in love with a Sun Shaoping native, a poor and ragged coolie, who is now called a migrant worker! Such a thing can become news even in the present 2 1 century. Looking at Sun Shaoan and Tian Runye again, the author makes Tian Runye fall in love with Sun Shaoan, an authentic farmer, and Tian Runye is much higher than Sun Shaoan in terms of family and his own status. Although Sun Shaoan was afraid to accept this relationship because of the limitations of his thoughts, just falling in love was extraordinary. Later, Tian Runye was forced to marry the driver Li Xiangqian. Li Xiangqian also comes from a cadre family with a good family background. However, Tian Runye didn't live with Li Xiangqian anyway. Later, she found a relationship and even moved out of the original West County, leaving their marriage in name only. When Jin Bo was a soldier in Qinghai, he fell in love with a girl who released her horse. Because of love, he retired and went home. Later, he always missed the girl and went to see her once.

These characters are bold and enthusiastic in their pursuit of love, and they can break through traditional barriers and transcend secular concepts, as if showing the modernity of the author's thoughts. However, we should see that when Lu Yao wrote these loves, his heart was obviously full of contradictions. Behind the modern love thought, there is a more powerful traditional thought. So, all these beautiful loves finally died out. The praise of exquisite and beautiful love and the arrangement of these unfortunate endings show the author's inner contradiction, the contradiction between traditional thought and modern thought. It can be seen that Lu Yao strongly praises and emphasizes women's wives in his works, that is, women should yield to fate, be brave in sacrifice, be gentle and virtuous, and the behaviors of Gu Xiulian, Liu Qiaozhen, Orchid and Runye are definitely the most obvious. When Tian Xiaoxia was molded by the ideal wife standard, the author saw the gap between ideal and reality, and it was difficult to combine her with Sun Shaoping, so she would not hesitate to let her die. Sun Shaoan did not dare to accept Tian Runye's love, but found a Shanxi girl, Gu Xiulian, and soon got married. Sun Shaoan and Gu Xiulian, in the lightning combination, had absolutely no love before they got married, just to marry a wife and find a husband. Such a hasty combination would have been the beginning of a tragedy if it hadn't happened that Gu Xiulian was virtuous (in reality, he is often not so lucky), but the author doesn't think it is unreasonable. Instead, it was written as "hit it off" and enjoyed a happy life after marriage. As for Tian Runye, after marriage, she refused to live with Li Xiangqian because she didn't love Li Xiangqian, and the author was sympathetic to her. However, when Li Xiangqian was disabled, Tian Runye returned to Li Xiangqian and assumed the responsibility of his wife. Lu Yao wrote passionately:

"Life, life! How much suffering, how much sweetness! The sky won't be dark forever. When the dark clouds disperse, the bright sunshine in the blue sky will light up the earth. The grass will still be bright green and the flowers will still bloom vigorously. We wish all the people in the world who have experienced emotional hardships can finally get happiness! " ⑥

Visible, in fact, deep down, Lu Yao refused to take the responsibility of being a wife before opposing Tian Runye, thinking it was a dark cloud. Now, Tian Runye finally lives with someone he doesn't love, and the dark clouds have cleared away. Sure enough, in the following description, they live happily, as if they really love each other. A person with modern thoughts must be very unhappy when Lu Yao sang this song "Sweetness" and "Happiness" vigorously. The love between Sun Shaoping and Tian Xiaoxia is pure and beautiful, and it should have a good ending. However, Lu Yao ended in an irreversible way. Obviously, Lu Yao thinks that the combination between them is impossible, and the ending is the doomed ending of this relationship. Through the death of Xiao Xia, Tian Xiaoxia's image was perfectly maintained.

On the issue of love, marriage and family, Lu Yao put morality first and judged it by traditional ethical standards. The emphasis on morality and responsibility often goes beyond love itself, and the love of the characters in the works is extremely pure, completely excluding sexual factors, which can be described as a model of "lyricism ends with ceremony". In the two works, the love between young men and women is implicit and pure, which is quite in line with Xunzi's exposition of "ceremony": "A husband and an animal have a father and son but no father and son relatives, and there are men and women without distinction. There is no debate in the old way, and debate is greater than points, and points are greater than courtesy. " ⑦

The author writes about the beauty of love, but if love and morality meet and conflict, the author's arrangement is often to sacrifice love and maintain the perfection of morality, which embodies the author's profound human relations thought. These loves actually carry too many considerations, responsibilities, origins and other factors, and love itself takes a back seat. This emphasis on morality, especially in love, is one of the manifestations of Confucian culture.

When describing Gao Jialin's love, Lu Yao left us an image: The author thinks that Gao Jialin is suitable for dating Liu Qiaozhen in the countryside, and Huang Yaping is suitable for dating Liu Qiaozhen in the city, but even in the city, Gao Jialin must fall in love with Liu Qiaozhen. This is the conflict between love and morality. In this conflict, the author chose morality without hesitation.

In these descriptions of love, the author shows the concept of family status in a patriarchal society. Runye is the victim of this concept and also the love in Gao Jialin's life.

The combination of Tian Runsheng and Hao Hongmei is unexpected, and the author also greatly appreciates it. However, a careful study of Tian Runsheng's psychology is actually the result of Tian Runsheng's preference for boys. Jia Bing, a poet, married first and then fell in love. The author wrote about their happiness several times. Orchids, on the other hand, are dead set on loving the prodigal Wang Manyin.

From the above analysis, we can see that Lu Yao has shown a very traditional side on the issue of love, and his positions on morality, women and family status are all the contents of China traditional culture. There is a deep-rooted Confucian tradition in Lu Yao's thought. Those beautiful loves are shattered one by one, either because they are not in line with moral norms or because they are victims of family values. Moreover, women are often unable to make a difference in these loves. All they can do is obey. This is Lu Yao's attention to their wives.

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