Ways to improve college students' interpersonal communication ability
1. For college students who want to have first-class eloquence, sit quietly in the library and read widely before opening their mouths. Otherwise, even if your eloquence is as good as my classmate's, you may try your best to find time to read like him after graduation. It is better to go to a quiet library or teaching building now than to study under heavy work pressure at that time.
When Ni Xiaoyong died, he said, "If you come out to hang out, you will pay it back sooner or later." I think what I owe to the teaching building and library during my college years will be paid back sooner or later after graduation.
2. Exercise your eloquence, and let yourself speak on formal occasions as much as possible. The reason why formal occasions should be emphasized is that it is impossible to produce a master of language on a mahjong table. Be brave in speaking in class, which is very helpful for your language expression.
When I was a freshman, a classmate in our class blushed as soon as he stood up and spoke, and his words were unclear and disorganized. But he insisted on speaking in class, and by the time of his junior year, he had been able to express his views fluently.
When speaking in class, you should consciously make your speech clear and try to record your impromptu speech, which is a small argumentative essay with rigorous thinking. I try to draw an outline in my mind as soon as possible before I speak. When I spoke, I first expressed my views, and then made it clear that I would discuss them from three to five aspects. It will be a bit difficult at first, but as long as you persist, it will gradually become a habit.
After work, I always keep this style in meetings. I can always state my views very clearly in one or two sentences, instead of not knowing what I'm talking about like other colleagues.
It is also very beneficial to participate in some activities such as speeches and debates. I remember when I participated in the whole school speech contest in the first day of junior high school, I was very stage fright. My legs were shaking when it was my turn to go on stage. Later, I took part in several such activities, so I stopped having stage fright. When I was running for the president of the student union in high school, I was able to give a live speech and answer various questions very freely. Later, I participated in large-scale speeches, debates and other activities. The more the audience, the calmer I was and the better I played. Therefore, I think it is very necessary to participate in this kind of competition. You must have forgotten or even lost the award certificate after many years, but the eloquence you learned through this competition is enough to benefit you for life.
Being a certain student cadre is also a favorable way to exercise social skills and eloquence. Whether it is the ninth grade sesame official in the class or the eight overseers of the school student union, they all live between the school authorities and ordinary students. On the one hand, we should deal with school leaders and counselors, on the other hand, we should deal with classmates who are student cadres, and at the same time, we should handle the relationship with other student cadres well. If you want to be comfortable in these networks, it is absolutely impossible without good social skills. However, considering that the "student politics" in many universities is filthy and ugly, it is really necessary to be fully prepared to be a high-level student cadre.
It is also a good way to improve your eloquence to go out of campus and participate in appropriate social practice. Tan Xiao was originally a wooden man, and he was timid when talking to strangers, but it took a long time to express a simple meaning. In her junior year, she worked as a salesman in a cosmetics company. In the process of promoting cosmetics, she encountered many difficulties. Often she said a lot, but others sent her away without saying a word. Tu Rong Sheng realized that to solve these problems, he should not only impress others with patience and sincerity, but also improve his eloquence. She read many articles about improving her eloquence and social skills, and then put those principles into practice. Gradually, Tu Rongsheng learned to use different communication strategies for different customers, and made others interested in her products in just a few words. Eloquence is not born, it needs exercise, and it can be exercised completely. A wooden person can make customers pay the bill in a few words after some efforts. What else can't you do?
The key to improving college students' interpersonal communication ability
Therefore, the first key to improve communication ability lies in introspection whether you really have a systematic and structural understanding and mastery of what you want to express; If not, think ahead and deconstruct it. Think deeply. If you develop good systematic habits and structural habits in your work and even in your life, even if your eloquence is not outstanding, you can easily understand each other because of your clear logic.
After mastering the secret of good things, we should think about human factors. How to predict the other person's possible attitude and reaction to this matter from the background, environment, thinking mode and position of the other person, how to distinguish what the other person is listening to, and then gradually and conveniently guide and agree with your idea. In fact, most things will inevitably involve communication and coordination with different people. If we can establish the habit of knowing more about others, thinking from each other's point of view, and thinking about human factors in everything, we can establish the habit of understanding people invisibly, and naturally we can use this trick.
Therefore, the improvement of communication ability lies not in eloquence or speaking skills at all, but in systematic and structural habits of ability and in-depth understanding of people's habits. Colleagues should pay more attention to continuous practice on weekdays, develop systematic habits and structural habits, understand people, and fundamentally improve communication skills.
The root of college students' poor interpersonal communication
First, there is a lack of systematic and structured understanding and mastery of what you want to convey. Therefore, when trying to convey information to others, it is scattered, illogical and even contradictory. It is very difficult for the other party to receive information, and the natural communication is not smooth and the effect is poor.
Second, making things clear is only the basis of communication, and people should listen to it and then agree and accept it. At this time, the human factor is more critical. As we all know, when talking with children, we must consider their age and psychological level and express them in a language they can understand, so that we can communicate with them. What's more, whether the supervisor communicates with subordinates, departments or customers, their positions are often different or even opposite. If you don't realize the difference between people and just want to make things clear, then you will not only be discouraged, but the other party will definitely respond with something that you don't understand or is simply not feasible, thus completely failing to achieve the purpose of communication.