Look at the rich people around you, they have turned their lives into silent modes.
Shelley said, "Shallow water is noisy and deep water is silent." People with high patterns have long had "golden mouths" and "meditation".
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Great people don't talk about happiness, only about sadness.
There is a question on Zhihu: What are some simple principles of life that will benefit you for life?
Gao Zan A: No happiness, no sorrow.
Indeed, when you are proud, don't get carried away. Don't slip your tongue when you are frustrated. There are two things that must not be said to outsiders: don't say it when you are happy.
Aunt neighbor, my son was admitted to the top ten 985 in China, and everyone began to praise his children. During the period when the admission results were just released, she started a topic as soon as she met everyone: "What school did your child go to?"
When those children's grades are not as good as her children's, they are even more energetic and raise their voices very high: "My children really live up to expectations, and they are admitted to the best major at once and get a high salary as soon as they graduate." Parents' faces turned red and white, so they had to calculate.
During that time, everyone saw neighbors and aunts detouring.
In fact, it is a kind of kindness and wisdom.
"Caigen Tan" said: "The beauty lies in hiding, the brightness lies in using darkness, the clarity lies in turbidity, and the softness lies in delay." Concealing others' faults is respect for others and protection for yourself.
Born as a man, each has his own way, and everyone has his own obscurity and brilliance. Your joy may be the demons of others, or it may be the hell of others.
Because you know, you must be kind and compassionate.
It is a pattern of hiding things; It's the ability to calm down. As the poem says, "virtual bamboo has curved leaves, while proud plum has no back flowers." A true wise man can only live a high-profile life by keeping himself low-key and meet one bright moment after another in his life.
Little sadness, don't say it.
There are always many people like Xianglinsao in life. When they encounter misfortune, they want the whole world to know that eventually people will avoid it.
Life is really bitter, and it is those moments of crying late at night that make us grow up. Everyone's life is doomed to be lonely.
When you complain a lot, you will inevitably fall into a situation of self-pity, and eventually you will paralyze yourself and ruin your life.
There is a famous "pygmalion effect" in psychology, that is to say, what people think and believe will lead to success.
On the other hand, if you believe that things are constantly being resisted, these boycotts will occur. Many times we think that we can't do a thing well, but in fact we are just setting limits for ourselves.
Complaining too much may really become a "dissatisfied wife"; If you talk too much nonsense, you may really become a "waste."
People who are really powerful have long stopped complaining, practiced meditation and looked down on flowers.
As the saying goes, "disaster comes from the mouth." There are ten points in your life, but you are not as good as one or two points, so you will keep the remaining eight or nine points of happiness.
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Powerful people, less "grandchildren" and more.
Mr. Wen Yiduo said, "I did it when people said I would do it. What others say may not be done, and what I do may not be said. "
Indeed, some people talk a lot, but there is no substantive action; Some people bask in all kinds of tall daily life in the circle of friends. In fact, life is a chicken feather.
The more mature people are, the less they live.
Some people say that the happiness of China people comes from comparison. Perhaps most people can get used to watching all kinds of rich people bask in their luxurious lives in the news, but they can't tolerate people around them living better than themselves.
Day after day, how many people spend their lives in this meaningless comparison.
We can always meet people with poor hearts. They need false glitz in exchange for others' favor.
But truly powerful people have identified themselves from the bottom of their hearts. No matter how hot the circle of friends is, it can't change the self-identity that really goes deep into the heart.
In fact, those powerful people have long since quit your circle of friends.
They choose to live for themselves and show their best. They silently choose excellence.
Confucius said, "A gentleman speaks with his words, but a villain speaks with his tongue." As the saying goes, you can't trust me by shouting at the top of your lungs. Pretend to applaud. People who talk more and cry less often can't achieve great things. Only action is the cornerstone of success.
Looking at those who have made achievements in their own fields around them, they have already turned their lives into a silent mode: they don't live in the sun, they focus on themselves and constantly precipitate themselves.
Why do the more mature people spend less time in the sun?
Because when Excellence has become a habit, there is no need to show off at all. Because you are mature, you know what kind of person you are and what kind of person you want to be, and you don't need those fake tricks to touch yourself at all.
Your life depends not on how much you get in the sun, but on how much you do.
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Great people, deep cultivation.
Switch to the silent mode of the mobile phone, so that we are not disturbed by the outside world; Turn into a silent life, let us focus on improving ourselves.
Qian Feng, the host of the variety show Everyday Up, broke the news in the show that Wang Han, who is also the host of the show, actually deleted his own WeChat.
Wang Han, who is famous for his high EQ in the entertainment circle, is actually a fanatic of "deleting friends".
Wang Han said frankly that not only fabolous, but also Chen Bingbing, the great man, was deleted.
Wang Han said that after deleting many people's WeChat, he found that:
This kind of life is very, very easy, and the whole life has changed. All the time is yours, and you are a mess.
And although we don't have WeChat with each other, our relationship will not deteriorate because of long-term non-contact.
Wang Han chose to dig deep into himself, build a wall for his life and protect himself from outside interference.
There was a news that top student Hu of Zhejiang University had only 3 1 friends in the WeChat address book.
He borrows 296 books in the library of Zhejiang University 365 days a year, which is equivalent to reading 0.8 1 book every day. Excluding 20 17 winter and summer vacations of Zhejiang university 108 days, the school time is 257 days, which is equivalent to reading 1. 15 books every day.
This is the reader of Mr. Hu from Zhejiang University. Moreover, he also took 56 credit courses, that is, 26 courses, and also won a third-class scholarship and a professional scholarship.
The comments of netizens are even more heartfelt: Even if we have 300 friends, how many can we talk about? We always spend time on others, but forget to ask ourselves, what kind of person do we want to be?
Yes, on the other hand, too many people's time is occupied by those so-called connections and social contacts. As we all know, the essence of communication is equivalent exchange. What you are, you will attract people.
It is better to run your own business than to run your own contacts. Really excellent people choose to cultivate intensively. If you don't look for circles, circles will find you.
In life, in order to avoid external interference, we often turn our mobile phones into silent mode. It's time to turn our life into a silent mode, stop and talk to ourselves and concentrate on going our own way.
Life is a process of becoming more and more widowed. When we learn to lose something, we can have the strength and courage to sort out the past and start over at any time.
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For the rest of my life, let's all turn life into a silent mode and have a rest:
If you are quiet, silence is golden, silence is bliss, and a gentleman speaks without doing anything. The so-called golden mouth and jade words are nothing more than that.
Meditation, the most graceful scenery in life, is the inner enrichment and calmness.
When we calm down, we can find the beauty of life better.