First, the extreme desire for control in the process of growing up.
The case owner has always been a bully and extremely self-disciplined. In childhood, the case owner showed a distinctive strong self-discipline, "very good", rarely played, and was preoccupied with doing homework and practicing calligraphy ... "Not distracted", completely devoid of children's naughty and naughty. When he was young, the case owner did not worship the singer and the star, but began to worship Julius Caesar of the ancient Roman Empire.
In a school speech, Caesar's famous saying was mentioned many times, "I came, I saw it, I conquered it." Entering the Department of Economics and Management of Peking University, the signature document of the case owner WeChat is full of Caesar's famous words.
Second, the case owner lost his father in junior high school.
20 10, the client's father, Wu Zhijian, died of cancer, which is a major psychological event, and will certainly cause a series of major influences on the client. In addition, the father's family has a history of recessive mental illness. Among the fathers, only the father of the case owner is physically and mentally normal. The case owner's father's family is not superior, and the case owner's grandmother is still receiving subsistence allowances in her hometown and rural areas, making a living by scavenging.
Third, the case owner has a deep Oedipus complex.
The mother of the case, Xie, is a history teacher in a middle school. At school, she "doesn't talk much, except preparing lessons and writing lesson plans, just holding a book and reading it quietly" and "doesn't participate in any sports or entertainment activities" It can be said that the mother of the case lives in seclusion, with only work and children in front of her. The case owner has long been in a closed mother-child relationship.
Although the popularity of middle school is excellent, it has not surpassed the "puppy love" of ordinary students. After entering Peking University, the case owner talked to his mother almost every night. The case owner is still drawing pictures on the Internet, all of which are the contents of filial piety that are often seen on the Internet.
Fourth, the abnormal psychology of the subject of the case.
A sex worker who had contact with the case owner revealed that after purchasing sexual services twice, the two fell in love. The case owner once proposed marriage with a bride price of more than 100,000 yuan; Later, the two quarreled all the time, and it went away. The case owner filmed two people's sex videos many times, bought sex toys, and had some special sex interests.
Fifth, the high IQ and anti-social personality of the case owner.
2016 February 14 Fuzhou police found the victim Xie killed at his residence in July, 201year. The victim's body was wrapped in many layers of plastic, and activated carbon was put in the gap of each layer to absorb the smell. There are also two cameras and alarms installed in the room, which can be connected to the computer; That is to say, once the monitoring equipment detects that someone has entered the scene.
Will send an alarm message to his cell phone. Cruel and fierce means, meticulous thinking and remote control behavior of installing monitoring equipment reflect the extremely high IQ and anti-social personality of the case owner. Secondly, behind the extreme behavior, there must be the lack and absence of education. We say that education is not everything, but the lack and absence of education is absolutely impossible.
From media interviews to classmates, teachers, neighbors and even schools and families around the case owner, there is no denying that there are problems in education.
After the case was clarified, the main reason why Wu killed his mother was the enviable "excellent" education he received! First of all, judging from the evaluation of Wu's junior high school and college classmates, he has always been a god of learning without doubt and can't pick out any shortcomings. Even the high school teacher said: if he has any shortcomings, it should be perfect.
People around him give him such a high evaluation. Such a child is also the dream of many parents, but it is precisely because of this that a tragedy that shocked the world occurred! Behind the seemingly perfect education, he neglected his healthy psychological growth. Children's nature is to love to play, be naughty and fight, but all this never happened in Wu's childhood.
My parents have asked me to study since I was a child, not only in knowledge, but also in etiquette. Therefore, when he grew up, Wu was humble and polite in front of others and loved by people around him. Wu's father died earlier and his mother was a teacher. In this case, it is even more important to maintain a closer mother-child relationship with your mother! In fact, he "did it".
According to his college roommate, he has a video call with his mother every week and has always been a good boy in front of his classmates. I have been living in the life my mother has set for myself, and there is nowhere to release the pressure inside. According to Wu's college roommate, I have never seen him confide his stress and unhappy things to anyone.
My mother is a teacher. She has a strong personality. Under the influence of a long time, she and her mother are similar in character. But emotionally, I did something unexpected-I fell in love with a sex worker. This was absolutely unacceptable to his mother, so in the following period of time, the mother and son also had some disputes.
It can be said that Wu has been growing up according to the example set by his parents since childhood. He began to study at an early age and sang all the way to college, becoming the child that many parents "dream of" now. But is this life what he wants? Only pay attention to superficial education and care about his mental health development?
Seeing this, we have to think deeply. What is education? Plato, a famous scholar, once said, "What is education? Education is training for later life. It can make people become kind and live a noble life. Education is the turn of thought. " We all want our children to receive higher education, but we can't just pay attention to superficial education.
More importantly, care about children's psychological education. People on earth are good at living. Human nature is pure and kind, and those who commit crimes in society only lead them astray through acquired education and other reasons! In the final analysis, education is to let us grow up in all aspects, not to be a child who is "excellent" in only one aspect!
Therefore, when we educate our children, we should pay more attention to their psychological development and spend more time talking with them. Nowadays, many parents usually don't spend much time with their children, and they will ask their children's grades as soon as they meet. Over time, the distance between parents and children is getting bigger and bigger!
Here I want to say to parents: "Give children proper relaxation and spend more time with them!" ! "